opinion needed

[PowerPrincess]

How would you react if the person with whom you're madly inlove with and who's in love with you and wants to marry you - politely tells you that you're pleasantly plump - being that i'm a size 7 with muscles and curves and an ass. I was really hurt by this - would anyone else be???

And now I'm thinking, wow if he thinks i'm plump now , whats he gonna think in a month from now when i have my breast augmentation done???

 

[NubianBeauty]

When I was a size 16 my bf told me I was voluptuous not fat Maybe he just means you're thick.

 

[smoknjilly]

aysh, size 7 is nowhere near plump!!

i would seriously think about this guy if he can say something like that.

most important thing is that you like yourself!

 

[nikkita]

It would all depend on what it means "plump" for you and what it means for him. Sometimes it may seem that guys and gals speak two different languages... he says something but meaning another, not necessarily wanting to hurt or imply something unpleasant...
I would talk to him and tell him exactly how I feel about what he said... ask him what did he implied with the word "plump"??Maybe you find out that he meant to say something else. I think that communication is the key... even when both speak the same language.

 

[Munkeee de Sade]

It happened to me. I was big though. I was in a size 18 my boyfriend told me I needed to loose weight. It hurt me I stayed upset for a while. I had wanted to loose weight cause I felt bad about myself. It was very mean and cruel but he is the one that gave me the insperation and modivation to start eating better and doing exersize reagular. He even helped me telling me about diets and what kind of working out I should do. He read about everything he told me about makeing sure nothing would hurt me.
I am very glade he told me that. It did hurt alot but it also helped me. I don't think you are *plump* I would think you are a perfect size.

 

[velvett]

Don't walk.
RUN.

Run like hell.


My friend married a guy that stares at her and tell her how fat he thinks she is... this girl can stop traffic with her tiny waist j-lo ass - I know I've seen it happen.

So now they're looking to *get pregnant* and her last words were - "well if you think I'm fat now what will you do when I'm pregnant?"

If you're boyfriend wants a size 0-2 wife - let him get one and you can get a husband that loves you as you are , thankyouverymuch!

 

[dudelift]

hmmmm, that's a tough call there girl, but ya better find out what he REALLY means !

 

[Realgains]

How would you react if the person with whom you're madly inlove with and who's in love with you and wants to marry you - politely tells you that you're pleasantly plump - being that i'm a size 7 with muscles and curves and an ass. I was really hurt by this - would anyone else be???

And now I'm thinking, wow if he thinks i'm plump now , whats he gonna think in a month from now when i have my breast augmentation done???

Do you know your % bodyfat? Get your body fat tested and if you are 18% or lower than tell him he is an ass. Gee I have seen plenty of great bodies at 20% or a little more. Not everyone wants to be very lean. I doubt that you are plump at size 7 unless you are but 5 feet tall.
I wonder if he is all that lean himself. If he juices he probably isn't for much of the year.
RG

 

[tripleV]

well were you this size when he met you? just curious, if youve gained weight or something...

i was told this by my bf, and i had put on some weight, i honestly think it took balls for him to have the nerve to tell me that i was gettin "chunky" , he didnt mean disrespect...it did make me feel like i had a lump in my throat tho, but i got over it and got back on track too....

its very easy to fall by the way side and let urself slip when u r in a relationship imo

 

[NY Muscle]

How would you react if the person with whom you're madly inlove with and who's in love with you and wants to marry you - politely tells you that you're pleasantly plump - being that i'm a size 7 with muscles and curves and an ass. I was really hurt by this - would anyone else be???

And now I'm thinking, wow if he thinks i'm plump now , whats he gonna think in a month from now when i have my breast augmentation done???

So you have the typical latina body type? mmmm

send me some pics..you know im brutally honest..ill tell you if hes a nut job or hes on to something.

 

[PowerPrincess]

well were you this size when he met you? just curious, if youve gained weight or something...

i was told this by my bf, and i had put on some weight, i honestly think it took balls for him to have the nerve to tell me that i was gettin "chunky" , he didnt mean disrespect...it did make me feel like i had a lump in my throat tho, but i got over it and got back on track too....

its very easy to fall by the way side and let urself slip when u r in a relationship imo

I totally agree with you about getting comfortable when in a relationship. But when i met him, i had less muscle and had more body fat weighing almost 148, now that i'm about 132ish (on average) i'm plump - go figure.

I guess he's just trying to keep me in a forward moving track fighting against bodyfat - too bad, i'm human and actually have an appetite and am hungry every 2 hours - geez

And all of us with a tush and curves - you know it's harder to loose in those places too - sucks....have to stop taking fatburners too b/c going in for ba in a month.....damn!!!!!!!! Now my appetite will probably go through the roof

 

[Arioch]

Wait until he is sleeping, then hit him, low.

Hard.

Some things a man should never say. Unfortunately the world is full of little boys.

 

[Sassy69]

I have YET to find the guy who thinks a breast augmentation makes you "plump"... they are too busy drooling to actually voice their opinion... LOL!

Just remember this ... in the all-knowing-all-seeing words of The Ranger... God gave men a hole at the end of their penises (penii??) so they could be open minded! (BWAHAHAHAHA!)

(Range you KNOW I love ya now!)

What exactly does he consider "plump" and did something change? And BTW, is he a tight-ass mofo or a little mushy around the edges himself??

 

[smoknjilly]

true...is this guy like a perfect model or something?

my BF would love for me to be a size 0 and 5 ft tall with fake boobs. However, I am 5'7, size 4-6 and a natural chest, and I could never be what he would "wish for" And ya know what, I don't care!

If he were ever to make a comment, I just call him "jelly belly" and pinch his side, and he shuts up fast! He is thin but doesnt lift at all. I'll be a size 0 when he has a 6 pack, which will be NEVER!!

even if this guy is perfect, he has no right to make comments like that, especially after you made progress!!

 

[BronzedGoddess]

No offence jilly, but your bf sounds like he want a girl, not a woman. Size 0

 

[smoknjilly]

oh..I agree! plus what he wants does not occur in nature...only in airbrushed pictures...

but, I have learned, what you end up with is not usually your "ideal". I had never dated anyone under 6'3 before him..and he is only 5'11.

 

[PowerPrincess]

[BJust remember this ... in the all-knowing-all-seeing words of The Ranger... God gave men a hole at the end of their penises (penii??) so they could be open minded! (BWAHAHAHAHA!)
[/B]

You just put the BIGGEST SMILE ON MY FACE - thanks i needed that

 

[trial0rzgrl]

this could be a serious problem in a relationship- if you both care about your bodies and he just told you that without being asked.. did he?
i really think you should talk to him about it and tell him how you feel.... if he was trying to tell you he was not happy with your looks then he has to look at himself to see what type of person he has become... he should love you for you... besides you sound very proportional to me...
i persoally want the truth but could not deal with someone who didnt love me for me...
good luck!

 

[NY Muscle]

I think you ladies are jumping down this poor guys throat for no reason..if that is how he feels, if that is his opinion, why is he such a bad guy? I mean princess even said he said … “politely tells you that you're pleasantly plump” He wasn’t being mean, he said it nice…now was this a hint to tell her to cut it out or maybe he likes it..who knows…bottom line is you are all getting mad at what he sees and this is his opinion.

I have no doubts that princess looks good…so I’m on her side also…but why get mad at him for something he said, nicely at that?


I am not sure what his reasoning was, maybe it was just a comment, maybe it was a hint… I made a comment to this girl I have been dating recently..she said something to the effect of “I’m going to make you my boyfriend” so I said… “oh really? So you are gonna start taking some clen and anavar?” lol now I told her I was just kidding and I really was…but the girl has been looking unreal lately…I’m guessing she took what I said to heart…who knows.


Another girl I see said to me recently….”eww you are getting too ripped and too big..i like some softness on a guy ya know” so should I get equally upset at her as you ladies are at this guy?

Princess…ask him…ask him if he likes or doesn’t like what he sees..then talk about it.

 

[smoknjilly]

i think you have to be a female to understand this

 

[NY Muscle]

i think you have to be a female to understand this

No hun trust me I totally understand…it works both ways..but why belittle the guy for something he politely said and feels?

Makes no sense…and that wont solve the problem..that’s why she needs to ask him what’s up with that comment

 

[muskles]

my man made some unsolicited fat bum type comment to me about a year ago, and boy did we have words after that... but i must admit now it mostly hurt my feelings because i agreed with him. if i hadn' agreed with him, i would've politely told him to go f$%^ himself and left it at that.

after our fight was over, it seriously motivated me to work harder... so i guess i don't mind now that he said it. if he had said it in a nicer way, that would've been appreciated, but i like men to have a strong backbone so i guess i can't expect him to be mr sensitive to my feelings.

i think if it's really bugging you, you should ask him what he meant by it.