ok ladies help!!

[djboots]

So i've been married for 6yrs now, and of course like alot of people sex is down to a minimum. Maybe once a week. She has no desire to have sex at all and is as dry as a desert down there. That is one reason for it, it takes so much effort to create some wetness that it become a chore to have sex. Of course we can use some lube buts its not the same. What has worked is watching some porn, but that has become old and she cant stand how cheesey they are that she hates to watch them.

Right now I'm on a cycle so i feel like a 16yr old kid. Im ready to fuck anything that moves. I think are biggest problem is the vaginal dryness she is dealing with that does not giver her the desire. I just ordered her some provestra so I will see how that goes. Has anyone tried it before.

Any adice would be nice

 

[Underwraps]

Do you do oral on her? Does she like it? Do you?

 

[djboots]

i do but not till we are pretty well into it. Right off the bat it aint happening

 

[Underwraps]

i do but not till we are pretty well into it. Right off the bat it aint happening

Titillation goes a long way. Just teasing her for awhile. If you are just the divide and conquer type then, no, you're not allowing time for her to get into the mood. What are your sex breakdown proportions? 5% foreplay 95% screwing? For many woman it's better if it's 25-30% forplay.

Is she on the pill? The pill can lower a woman's libido. If you're not going to have kids or anymore kids, she should go get cauterized (sp?). It's the female version of a vasectomy- easy recovery. Then, she can get off the pill and her hormones can run like normal. - Now I wonder if that might make her more moody too? hmmm... Take the good with the bad.

 

[trex74]

Foreplay

 

[Underwraps]

Okay, I do cruise CL ads for good laughs. I used to cruise for real, but no more. I'm giving my marriage 1 year of a good honest effort. Anyway, here is an example of what many women want. This guy has it right on the money. All those sappy love making movie scenes inbetween the violent action scenes- all for woman. Take note. They're there and universal for a reason. I used to ask my spouse- Why don't you kiss me like that- etc... He'd say, "That's just Hollywood making us regular guys look bad." - Reason 97 for why I cheated on him...

So here are the ads by this guy who knows what women want.... (this guy is gooood). Was tempted to approach him but I had a policy of no single guys and he wants single women, so was not going to work out no way and now I don't play.... He has a great body pic to go with the ad too, but don't know how to embed yet... Sorry ladies. Ladies, tell me, does this guy KNOW or what?! I get all worked up just reading it. Hey, ask your wife to read it and ask her if it's a crock of crap or not. I bet she'll be wet before she gets half way through it...

The AD:
I'm looking for a woman who wants to relax, flirt and have a great afternoon. Somebody 18-32, who is reasonably in shape (short girls really get me going). I'm just what you are looking for: strong, athletic, good abs, strong hands, and I know how to treat a woman like a woman. I'm a sensual and sensitive man who is attentive to my lover's needs. Massage is my favorite way to start an explosive time together. I would start with lotion, or scented oil, and rub your body from feet to neck with my hands, and my mouth. Working my way up your body, toying with your erogenous spots, warm, gentle, sexual but so relaxing. After a few times over your body I would spend more time around your breasts, your hips, the inside of your knees and inside your thighs until I had gently brushed against your lips and clit. Slowly I would make circles around your clit with my tongue. Gently increasing speed and pressure until you are so wet that my fingers slip inside you. One hand inside you rubbing your g spot, my tongue still massaging your clit, my other hand exploring your body - breasts, legs, arms, neck. You might climax, or I might take you to the edge time after time until you ask for me to slide my manhood, hard and warm, inside your now dripping wet lips. Your back arches as I slide in, you moan, I moan. You feel my strong arms around you as I hold myself in a half pushup position above you and you pull yourself against me, pushing your hips down onto mine. We build pressure, speed, volume, breathing hard, hot, until we reach the edge. Then I would turn you over so I can be inside you and rub your clit at the same time, or maybe by this point you are wild for more of me and you push me down and climb on top to ride while my strong arms and hands pull your hips down and rub your breasts or hold the back of your head with your long hair flying across your back and chest... I'll write more and send a pic if I get one from you. Let's hang out this afternoon/eve. Put "moan" in the subject so I know you are a real person.
If you are a guy don't reply.

Another of his ADS:

I am looking for someone who wants to have a laid back afternoon of flirting, talking, touching...and ....a great time. Someone who is 19-35, somewhat fit (athletic is good) and under 5'8" (shorter is great)...a woman with an imagination that can run wild and takes us to that place where our senses are overwhelmed by the soft and hard, the desire and have, the hot and wet, the quiet and loud experiences of great sex. I am just what you want: athletic, handsome, smart, good abs, strong hands, and patient with my lover. I love to give my woman everything she needs...a soft touch with adoring words, warm breath on your neck, a nibble on your ear, my hands pulling you close, my mouth exploring you, warm skin on warm skin until my firm man hands brush against your soft clit, touching gently, rubbing, sliding until our heat drives you wet toward my stiff parts, sliding together...moaning, softly, breathing heavy, moaning, loudly, aching bodies, arching backs...

 

[djboots]

Maybe I should print that out and let her read it!! That might work...lol

 

[nangiggles]

Maybe I should print that out and let her read it!! That might work...lol

LOL it was pretty sexy, copy his style...

 

[trex74]

maybe buy her some erotica. NOT romance novels, real erotica.

 

[imafuturebodybuilder]

Okay, I do cruise CL ads for good laughs. I used to cruise for real, but no more. I'm giving my marriage 1 year of a good honest effort. Anyway, here is an example of what many women want. This guy has it right on the money. All those sappy love making movie scenes inbetween the violent action scenes- all for woman. Take note. They're there and universal for a reason. I used to ask my spouse- Why don't you kiss me like that- etc... He'd say, "That's just Hollywood making us regular guys look bad." - Reason 97 for why I cheated on him...

So here are the ads by this guy who knows what women want.... (this guy is gooood). Was tempted to approach him but I had a policy of no single guys and he wants single women, so was not going to work out no way and now I don't play.... He has a great body pic to go with the ad too, but don't know how to embed yet... Sorry ladies. Ladies, tell me, does this guy KNOW or what?! I get all worked up just reading it. Hey, ask your wife to read it and ask her if it's a crock of crap or not. I bet she'll be wet before she gets half way through it...

The AD:
I'm looking for a woman who wants to relax, flirt and have a great afternoon. Somebody 18-32, who is reasonably in shape (short girls really get me going). I'm just what you are looking for: strong, athletic, good abs, strong hands, and I know how to treat a woman like a woman. I'm a sensual and sensitive man who is attentive to my lover's needs. Massage is my favorite way to start an explosive time together. I would start with lotion, or scented oil, and rub your body from feet to neck with my hands, and my mouth. Working my way up your body, toying with your erogenous spots, warm, gentle, sexual but so relaxing. After a few times over your body I would spend more time around your breasts, your hips, the inside of your knees and inside your thighs until I had gently brushed against your lips and clit. Slowly I would make circles around your clit with my tongue. Gently increasing speed and pressure until you are so wet that my fingers slip inside you. One hand inside you rubbing your g spot, my tongue still massaging your clit, my other hand exploring your body - breasts, legs, arms, neck. You might climax, or I might take you to the edge time after time until you ask for me to slide my manhood, hard and warm, inside your now dripping wet lips. Your back arches as I slide in, you moan, I moan. You feel my strong arms around you as I hold myself in a half pushup position above you and you pull yourself against me, pushing your hips down onto mine. We build pressure, speed, volume, breathing hard, hot, until we reach the edge. Then I would turn you over so I can be inside you and rub your clit at the same time, or maybe by this point you are wild for more of me and you push me down and climb on top to ride while my strong arms and hands pull your hips down and rub your breasts or hold the back of your head with your long hair flying across your back and chest... I'll write more and send a pic if I get one from you. Let's hang out this afternoon/eve. Put "moan" in the subject so I know you are a real person.
If you are a guy don't reply.

Another of his ADS:

I am looking for someone who wants to have a laid back afternoon of flirting, talking, touching...and ....a great time. Someone who is 19-35, somewhat fit (athletic is good) and under 5'8" (shorter is great)...a woman with an imagination that can run wild and takes us to that place where our senses are overwhelmed by the soft and hard, the desire and have, the hot and wet, the quiet and loud experiences of great sex. I am just what you want: athletic, handsome, smart, good abs, strong hands, and patient with my lover. I love to give my woman everything she needs...a soft touch with adoring words, warm breath on your neck, a nibble on your ear, my hands pulling you close, my mouth exploring you, warm skin on warm skin until my firm man hands brush against your soft clit, touching gently, rubbing, sliding until our heat drives you wet toward my stiff parts, sliding together...moaning, softly, breathing heavy, moaning, loudly, aching bodies, arching backs...

SHIT! This guy... OK, I got hard from reading that lmao. So is this what you woman want? That doesnt look too bad.

 

[Wulfgar]

that guy is boring actually. I tried to fuck my gf like that once and she almost fell asleep.

If your gonna give a girl a massage, give her a damn massage. If your gonna goto work on a girl with your tongue, bury ur face in her whole body. If your gonna lay pipe on her, lay the thunder down on her. Its all about fire and passion. Save the romance for earlier in the night.
People( men and women) complicate sex to much. Have fun with it for fucks sake.

"aching bodies, arching backs..." gimme a break, what a toolshed.

 

[musclemom]

SHIT! This guy... OK, I got hard from reading that lmao. So is this what you woman want? That doesnt look too bad.

1. You cannot paint all women with a single brush.

2. I can't imagine why a single, hot, straight, under 45 guy (read, marriage, long term relationship material) would need to advertise to find a healthy relationship with an adult female, so this guy is either an utter bore face to face, has some sort of issues, is not what he's advertising (pictures can be faked), or all he's looking for is meaningless screwing and a lot of strange. None of which has any appeal in the long run. What good is it finding the ultimate lover if as soon as he bangs you, you bore him and he's off chasing the next one? Or you're his Tuesday girl?

3. I will forever say, the best aphrodisiac is a healthy relationship which is founded on mutual trust and respect. If you feel you have the freedom to openly communicate your wishes, needs and desires to your partner, without fear of rejection or judgement, the sky is the limit.

 

[IrightI]

well, at my house, after 10 years of being together and less than that for being maried, she calls ALL the shots where sex is concerned. I never have any say as to when, what kind, how long, nothing. That makes it really hard to find that part of the relationship.... ummm, fulfilling. It's good, but it could be SO much better. Somehow imo you need to find a way to keep it like it was in the beginning. Of course, age, kids, work, etc., that does play a part about how things evolve. It makes it so much easier if each partner isn't selfish. My motto is "you have to give to recieve", that certainly isn't a problem on my part, I enjoy giving almost as much as getting. Not so with my wife.
Also, as MM said, you can't paint women with a wide brush, my wife's idea of forplay is "I'm horney, get naked." That's it. I like the more extended version. Now, if I feel like giving a full body massage, I'd prolly have sex more often, but who feels like doing that every night, or for that matter, every week just to have sex, not me. Sometimes, sure. And do you think that I have ever had one, guess no and you'll be right.
I have an explanation that i often tell my wife, of course it falls on deaf ears, but maybe someone else can use it in their relationship to make it better.
There's 3 kinds of sex:
1) fast food- just all the sudden getting the urge and getting off whenever, where ever, takes 5-10 minutes. Both smile at each other and say "whewwww".
2) regular meal- geting to bed, have time to relax, shower, enjoy some cuddeling, pillow talk, have sex for as long as time warrents, go to sleep in each others arms (probably happens during the week)
and
3) gormet sex- send flowers during the week, make plans for the weekend, leave sexy notes/emails, plan a weekend together (maybe at a hotel) bring toys, other aids, spend the night massaging, trying new things, using the toys that you don't normally have time for, probably stay up half the night.
IMO, it takes ALL 3 of these to have a great sexlife. Number 1 is JUST as important as number 3. If you can find a mate that understands this, your a lucky person.

 

[Underwraps]

well, at my house, after 10 years of being together and less than that for being maried, she calls ALL the shots where sex is concerned. I never have any say as to when, what kind, how long, nothing. That makes it really hard to find that part of the relationship.... ummm, fulfilling. It's good, but it could be SO much better. Somehow imo you need to find a way to keep it like it was in the beginning. Of course, age, kids, work, etc., that does play a part about how things evolve. It makes it so much easier if each partner isn't selfish. My motto is "you have to give to recieve", that certainly isn't a problem on my part, I enjoy giving almost as much as getting. Not so with my wife.
Also, as MM said, you can't paint women with a wide brush, my wife's idea of forplay is "I'm horney, get naked." That's it. I like the more extended version. Now, if I feel like giving a full body massage, I'd prolly have sex more often, but who feels like doing that every night, or for that matter, every week just to have sex, not me. Sometimes, sure. And do you think that I have ever had one, guess no and you'll be right.
I have an explanation that i often tell my wife, of course it falls on deaf ears, but maybe someone else can use it in their relationship to make it better.
There's 3 kinds of sex:
1) fast food- just all the sudden getting the urge and getting off whenever, where ever, takes 5-10 minutes. Both smile at each other and say "whewwww".
2) regular meal- geting to bed, have time to relax, shower, enjoy some cuddeling, pillow talk, have sex for as long as time warrents, go to sleep in each others arms (probably happens during the week)
and
3) gormet sex- send flowers during the week, make plans for the weekend, leave sexy notes/emails, plan a weekend together (maybe at a hotel) bring toys, other aids, spend the night massaging, trying new things, using the toys that you don't normally have time for, probably stay up half the night.
IMO, it takes ALL 3 of these to have a great sexlife. Number 1 is JUST as important as number 3. If you can find a mate that understands this, your a lucky person.

I agree with MM and righti about communication. The CL ad guy was meant only to enlighten about sensuality, not for his woman to go out and find a guy like that or to encourage people to go after guys like that. The communication take from MM and this post are right on. I myself tried for 15 years and only now he's getting a clue and is listening. He sensed my distancing, my refusal to fight anymore (disconnection-a red flag) and now he's FINALLY going down on me maybe once every 3 months- used to be once a year and he'd want anal. Now, it's no anal unless he does his thing for me.