Nearly beat a man's ass at Wal-Mart yesterday. Was I wrong?

[Burning_Inside]

I'm afraid I will lose it one of these days, and beat someone like a circus midget. Would any of you done the same? Or is it best to leave it alone?

Heh, I hear you on that comment right there. Sometimes I stand frozen in time deciding on if I should choose the path of action, or the path of silence. And it's hard to hide the fact that somethings wrong from onlookers when they see you standing there with this blank look on your face with your eyes wide open staring into nothing. For instance, I work in sales, I sell timeshares. The managers are all money hungry and on power trips. One of the managers happens to be a 7 foot tall older, big black ex high profile security guard, and he acts as if he has the biggest cock in the world. When we're not with customers, the younger people like myself usually hang out in one certain room, and one time the girls were getting a little loud, and he bursts in and to make a semi long story short, he forces us out of the room into another one. First of all, he has no right telling me or whoever else in that room how to act, as we're on break and we're not around customers. Then as I was leaving the room, I heard him mumble something along the lines of "babies" under his breath. Something in my "almost" snapped, and i stopped for a second and turned back around and looked at him and came this close to opening my mouth and getting in his face. The problem I have with oening my mouth when I'm pissed is that I can't seem to form a comprehensive intelligent sentence because my brain's boiling, So I naturally just want to lash out and skip all of that. So there I was standing there like an idiot for a few seconds. Do I try and open my mouth and tell this guy he's an ignorant ape and risk getting into a fight and getting charges pressed against me and losing my job, or do I turn and walk away and let it slide. Fortunately, I let it slide. Letting it slide isn't good for your sanity, or your ego, but most of the time, it's for the best, and causes less stress in the future.

 

[da big thinker]

Re: agree

She crys when barbie commercials come on tv because he used those on her. She will not eat pickles because of same reason. Sick sick sick and rips me apart.

...then people wonder why one can get so enraged...TG,stand strong bro...only GOD knows how you must feel and beleive me i empathize...you have my sincere thoughts and best wishes for the holiday season...what goes around comes around and MR.$$$ will get his in the end...PEACE

 

[RADAR]

Hello BBVal! I agree with you 100 percent,And Christ Speaking to that little girl in that language(I would have made him wash his mouth with soap) Too bad i was there with you(you didn't need it) But my gang would have gave you a round of applause!!!I love kids and that type of conduct makes my blood boil. Have a Merry Christmas Val your friend- RADAR

 

[theoak01]

you have morals sir,congrats on showing that guy what's what,more people should be like you,my biggest problem is road rage ,stupid drivers piss me right off

 

[18echo]

i agree with it as a whole, but there are other ways to punk the guy without ever lifting a finger. if i have to confront someone who has defined himself as an asshole by his actions, i find that it's sometimes most effective to make him look like a complete idiot infront of all without losing (visibly) my cool. if i had been right there, it might have gone down like this:

a grab (not violent, but a firm attention getter.) "hey, sir. i'm just wondering what in the world that little girl could have done to make you need to feel powerful by whacking her in the side of the head. no, really, i'd like to know. because, if a little girl can piss you off like that, i'd sure like to know how to avoid doing that.

so now i'm following him through the store, because he's undoubtedly trying to avoid a scene. still no violence.

'no, SERIOUSLY, sir. tell me and everyone who just witnessed your display of manhood what in the world could havecaused you to whack a young girl in the fucking head."

you get the point, right. you're getting louder, and louding him out, and all the while keeping the look that says"i'm maintaining my cool, but i'm ready to do that THANG if that's what tough guy wants".

sounds like too much work, but in this way, not only is he the shithead, but you're extra cool for "dealing with it sensibly".

trust me- works every time.

btw, what was the mother doing when this was going down?

 

[talonracer]

btw, what was the mother doing when this was going down?

Probably recoiling in fear since any "man" who would slap a child like that most likely would beat her ass too. Probably does.

 

[Kahn]

I've done all that crap to people like that guy. Too much trouble. The way I handle it now so as not to shake the whole damn family up, because they will be obligated to cry for daddies broken ass, is to walk straight into him and say excuse me, that way the family will believe it is innocent while I lean into the guy and say I will fucking kill you if you hit her/him again. It stops them in their tracks. Keep the serious stare on and most don't do anything but holy shit look at you.

 

[dude]

BBV: I think you were right in what you did. You did not harm the man but made the point that what he did was wrong. I truly believe that you made an impact on the wife and the daughter. They will think about it and actions like that play a large role in someone's life. There are two things in this world that drive me absolutely insane. It is the abuse of women and children. I can't stand these people and sometimes it is so unbearable. I don't classify the abuse of children as just hitting them, but I also think if you are like the couple of potheads with that kid that you described, then you are doing just as much harm. If you don't say something then you feel like crap and if you do then you could face some serious consequences but I have realized that you just need to do what is right. Yes you may go to jail, but I think as long as you are doing what is right then it doesn't matter. You should not let people walk over you or anyone else.

 

[##spiderbaby##]

Good job for all those that have intervened in those situations.


I think we need more of it honestly.
Don't ever question your morals guys.
Keep up the good work.
You never know, there could have been a teenager, child or grown man that was nearby and saw you take action based on your moral standards and changed his life for the better. It always good to see a person stand up for what they believe in.




##spiderbaby##

 

[Big Brother Val]

RADAR... I could have used the applause. Rather than having guys come up and stop me, then having to wait around and talk to the police for a while... makes me feel that what I did wasn't accepted by society, while what he did was simply "overlooked" because no one in society wants to "get involved". Thanks, my friend. The support is appreciated.

Canadian Oak.... Thanks. I agree people shouldn't just stand around and think "someone should say/do something". I hate that mentality. And remind me never to drive in front of you.


18echo.... you are correct. Something like that does make the guy look like a complete asshole. And I don't think it's too much work... it just takes a whole lot of self control. At the time, I simply didn't have it. But it'd be funner than shit walking behind him...

And when this all went down, the mother was simply looking at the ground. She glanced at me a couple of times, as I kept my "Start prayin" look at the man, I noticed her out the corner of my eye. I truly wonder what she was thinking.

Talonracer.... I believe he does... she looked at the ground the whole time, even when they were walking and the father was verbally abusing the child.

Kahn.... very simple approach... I'll have to keep that in mind... hopefully, if I get in that close, and lay down my threat, the man will feel a sprout of toughness, and push me, or take a shot... in which case it is self defense. Not sure if I could beat the man in front of the kids... but that's not a bad system.

Dude.... well said. I agree... if there is something happening to a child that is VERY preventable at the time, and you do NOTHING to prevent it, you may as well be the one smacking the kid. I mean hell... WHAT IS THE WORST THAT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU? You get punched in the face? BIG FUCKIN' DEAL!! The poor little girls can handle it, I think a grown man, especially one who beats his own ass in the gym everyday, should be able to handle it. Even if the guy kicks your ass... you've stood up for what is right... and the man will know that. And even if you don't get your ass kicked... and you spend the night in jail... big fucking deal... those kids life their lives in his prison. Thanks for the support.

Spiderbaby... thanks. I agree... I think more people should stand up for not only themselves, and what they believe in... but their fellow man. Sounds sorta corny... but if people don't intervene, simply because they fear for their own safety, then it just shows about how much more they care for themselves, than an innocent child who CAN'T fight back.

We as adults can... it's just an issue if we choose to or not.



SIDE NOTE: Something I forgot to mention... the man had on nicer clothes... his coat, shirt, levi's... even his shoes... seemed to be "newer" than his wife's, and childrens. Maybe it's coincidence that he dressed better than them... but I seriously doubt it.

Now that it's behind me... I can think of so many things I wish I would have said. And I feel so sad for those girls... maybe I should have just smashed his skull clean out of his ass... I know I didn't for a reason... be it jail, psychologically damaging his girls even more... at the time it escapes me. But I feel sorta bad that I didn't do more.

Thank you all for the support.

It's more than I expected.