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My Wife Wants a Maid And She Don't Work...

TC2 said:
Even though it's not a lot of money (to some it is) I think it's the princible(sp?). What if one day Curing decided that he didnt want to work anymore??

I could totally understand if she had younger children, but like I said what's her contribrition to the household???

Curling works, brings home the money, whats her part then???

What does she do while curling works,does all the yard work and pays for a cleaning lady???

She sits on her ass right??

I don't know what Curling's wife does during the day - nor do I know how many kids they have or their ages.

But when a man decides that he is going to be in a marriage where he will be the bread winner and the wife will stay home with the kids his money is THEIR money. The man should be allowed 50% input as to where the money is spent and the woman the remaining percentage. This is supposed to be an equal relationship not a patriarchal one. If he didn't want to share his money and care for his family 100% monitarially he should have had or let his wife work as soon as the children were in school. Then there would be his, her and their money to be spent how he, she and they want.

Perhaps their children are older, maybe she's been taking care of him, the kids and the house for so long that she wants her own life outside the house. Just because a woman runs a household don’t make her a lazy sack that is just out for a good time and spend husband’s money however she feels. (Even though there are woman that do, do that.)

Only curling and his wife can decide any of this as one family is not like another. I might have missed it but has Curling stated what he thinks or knows his wife's activities are everyday that anyone one of us could judge?

So, she has time to clean - maybe she just doesn't want to, maybe she’s just sick and tired of doing it. Maybe she would rather not go out to dinner with the family and out that money towards a cleaning person because that has value for her.

Or, maybe she just wants to sit around and watch someone else do the cleaning for her, who the hell knows.

THAT SAID.

Personally, I'm not of the old fashion stay home mommy mindset, could be the result of my own upbringing of watching my father work 16 hours a day and resent my mother every year a little more because “she” didn’t have to work, (even though it was his final word of NO you will not work) yet she had a lot to complain about (who could blame him?).

If I had to stay home every day, with kids and with a house to care for, laundry, dry cleaning, and banking as the highlights of my day - I would want to just die. I would much rather have a career and figure out how I will make time to keep up all my other responsibilities. Getting out of the house and working everyday gives one the feeling of purpose and accomplishment.


If men had to have traditional responsibilities and roles of the woman (cook, clean, bear and raise children) and women had to have the traditional responsibilities and roles of the man (clothe, feed, protect and provide shelter) perhaps then the opposite sex would think a little before taking advantage of their mate.
 
velvett said:
I Personally, I'm not of the old fashion stay home mommy mindset, could be the result of my own upbringing of watching my father work 16 hours a day and resent my mother every year a little more because “she” didn’t have to work, (even though it was his final word of NO you will not work) yet she had a lot to complain about (who could blame him?).

did we grow up in the same household? Or is this everyone on Long Island?
My Mom finally did go back to work and had a nice career actually. :)
 
HS Lifter said:
Does anybodies wife cook and clean these days?


My wife cooks our meals, and quite well I might add. We both come from a competitive bodybuilding/physique background, so she keeps me fed. :)
 
pitbullstl said:
My wife cooks our meals, and quite well I might add. We both come from a competitive bodybuilding/physique background, so she keeps me fed. :)

Nice.

My future wife must be a good cook.
 
MattTheSkywalker said:
did we grow up in the same household? Or is this everyone on Long Island?
My Mom finally did go back to work and had a nice career actually. :)


I suspect they were very similiar although I wish my father would have been more supportive when my mother wanted to work, they both would be in better place now.
 
HS Lifter said:
Does anybodies wife cook and clean these days?

I don't want ya'll to think my ole lady is a total Peg Bundy she does cook and does clean and does do the laundry. Does she do as much work as needed for the amount of money she spends and sex she puts out naw but what woman does?
 
What I don't seem to understand is, why can't the four of you (I'm assuming both your kids live with you) DIVIDE the housework amongst yourselves?

Also, how big is your house? I'm assuming you are a middle class family, however, if you happen to live in an outrageous mansion on fifty acres or something like that then that's a different story.

I can't believe how lazy some folks are nowadays. Doing housework is NOT time consuming at all. Every weekday spend a measely hour cleaning, what the hell is so difficult about that? Your kids aren't babies anymore and are at the age where they don't need to be watched over so there should be no excuses about children. When I wash the dishes my little nephew loves helping me, same as when I mow the lawn, vaccuum, sweep, mop, etc. If your wife is wanting to spend more time with you and the kids then you guys should make doing household chores a family affair. EVERYONE grab something and start cleaning TOGETHER. What the hell is with lazy people nowadays?
 
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