My Wife Wants a Maid And She Don't Work...

[curling]

Curling does your wife not work because you agreed that she should not work or is it of her own choosing?

Earlier I didn't want her to work but now I don't care but she can't make nothing has no skills also she doesn't like to get up early. Which would mean that she would have to get an evening job and for the crap money they would pay her to do that it isn't worth it.

 

[velvett]

Earlier I didn't want her to work but now I don't care but she can't make nothing has no skills also she doesn't like to get up early. Which would mean that she would have to get an evening job and for the crap money they would pay her to do that it isn't worth it.

Nice.
So good for you to have such confidence and great expectations for her.

If you didn't want to work before and now that you don't agree where the money is spent now you want her to work, of it were "worth it" - you dug your own hole.

Sorry.

 

[Lestat]

I don't blame her, who wants to clean your shit?

 

[velvett]

What I don't seem to understand is, why can't the four of you (I'm assuming both your kids live with you) DIVIDE the housework amongst yourselves?

Also, how big is your house? I'm assuming you are a middle class family, however, if you happen to live in an outrageous mansion on fifty acres or something like that then that's a different story.

I can't believe how lazy some folks are nowadays. Doing housework is NOT time consuming at all. Every weekday spend a measely hour cleaning, what the hell is so difficult about that? Your kids aren't babies anymore and are at the age where they don't need to be watched over so there should be no excuses about children. When I wash the dishes my little nephew loves helping me, same as when I mow the lawn, vaccuum, sweep, mop, etc. If your wife is wanting to spend more time with you and the kids then you guys should make doing household chores a family affair. EVERYONE grab something and start cleaning TOGETHER. What the hell is with lazy people nowadays?

I totally agree.

Yet, I have to say there are houses that are too big for one at home person or two working people to handle with ease - or rather always want to.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

Get a hot, immigrant, housemaid. and hit it!
She won't tell your wife cause she knows you can have her deported.

God won't mind..

 

[SteelChic]

IMO she should be doing the cleaning... I mean she is not working...
My dad's "Area" was the outside and my mom always took care of the cooking and cleaning. My mom started working agian.. part-time about 5 years ago. She still takes care of the cooking and cleaning.

I live with my b/f. We have an apartment so there is no "outside" to take care of. We both work full time and split the rent 50/50. He does his fair share and I do mine. When he was working 2 jobs, I took care of alot more to help him out. Now that he is only doing one job we pretty much clean up after ourselves. We work different shifts and usally only see each other on weekends... except for the hour I wake up when he comes home to see him...

Personly, I could not STAND to stay at home all day. Work gets me out of the house, and the gym is my stress relief. BUT if i where a "stay at home mom" I would expect to do ALL the housework... It is just only fair... sorry, I do not believe in FREE RIDES...

 

[Taps]

wife = lazy & mooch
curling = fucked
curlings daughter = hot

 

[Pamela]

I think you are right.

She doesn't work, so she should take care of the house and kids.

And she should even do the yard work.

 

[TC2]

I don't know what Curling's wife does during the day - nor do I know how many kids they have or their ages.

But when a man decides that he is going to be in a marriage where he will be the bread winner and the wife will stay home with the kids his money is THEIR money. The man should be allowed 50% input as to where the money is spent and the woman the remaining percentage. This is supposed to be an equal relationship not a patriarchal one. If he didn't want to share his money and care for his family 100% monitarially he should have had or let his wife work as soon as the children were in school. Then there would be his, her and their money to be spent how he, she and they want.

Perhaps their children are older, maybe she's been taking care of him, the kids and the house for so long that she wants her own life outside the house. Just because a woman runs a household don’t make her a lazy sack that is just out for a good time and spend husband’s money however she feels. (Even though there are woman that do, do that.)

Only curling and his wife can decide any of this as one family is not like another. I might have missed it but has Curling stated what he thinks or knows his wife's activities are everyday that anyone one of us could judge?

So, she has time to clean - maybe she just doesn't want to, maybe she’s just sick and tired of doing it. Maybe she would rather not go out to dinner with the family and out that money towards a cleaning person because that has value for her.

Or, maybe she just wants to sit around and watch someone else do the cleaning for her, who the hell knows.

THAT SAID.

Personally, I'm not of the old fashion stay home mommy mindset, could be the result of my own upbringing of watching my father work 16 hours a day and resent my mother every year a little more because “she” didn’t have to work, (even though it was his final word of NO you will not work) yet she had a lot to complain about (who could blame him?).

If I had to stay home every day, with kids and with a house to care for, laundry, dry cleaning, and banking as the highlights of my day - I would want to just die. I would much rather have a career and figure out how I will make time to keep up all my other responsibilities. Getting out of the house and working everyday gives one the feeling of purpose and accomplishment.


If men had to have traditional responsibilities and roles of the woman (cook, clean, bear and raise children) and women had to have the traditional responsibilities and roles of the man (clothe, feed, protect and provide shelter) perhaps then the opposite sex would think a little before taking advantage of their mate.

Please explain to me what a "housewife" is then.

I'm all for 50/50 in a realtionship. But if a woman doesnt want to be a housewife and do the "womanly stuff", then get a fuckin job.

Maybe I'm jaded or blinded since I've seen so many lazy house wives who basicly look at marrige as a perment paid vacation.

Marriage=man works/brings home the money,cleans,cooks,does the yardwork??????

Seems pretty simple to me.

House wife = do ALL of the house wife duites
career wife= do HALF of the house hold duties.

Same goes for men.

Bottom line is the same question. If a house wife doesn't do the housewife duties, what does she contribute to the realtionship?? What is her purpose??

 

[biteme]

It's not that easy. If you have a very large home with lots of kids, its a tremendous amount of work. Who takes care of the kids and shopping etc while you are off fuckin around on weekends and afternoons? So her job is pretty much nonstop from sunrise to after the kids go to bed when she cleans up the kitchen from feeding you?

If that is the deal, then there might be some heft to her side of the coin.

I'd take that job anyday. Working for other people sux.