My ex wants to give her another chance. Can people change?

[lickin lollypops]

Are you nuts, mang? She's a psych case....so no way is she going to change. People with normal brain chemistry have a hard time changing even when they try their hardest, so how on earth do you expect someone that's a bona-fide bipolar wing-nut to change? It's not worth the struggle...cut your losses and move on to find someone that will make you happy. Don't waste another minute of your life on her.

I agree

 

[velvett]

She does not love you.

 

[chewyxrage]

What is your culture? It would make it easier for us to understand and comment.

 

[n0th1ng]

Are you Amish?

Im a Mennonite.

 

[Sub-Zero]

This a loooong post. Please read and advise. I would highly appreciate it.

We had a semi-arranged marriage. Our culture believes in first the marriage and then lovut socks in below zero temp. She blamed her every professor and every empmplele miles distance’. My friend advised me that, for my own (legal) protectiss now going to work out in the long run.
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2. Once we have children, then she would have me by my balls. I would rather not have a child than the possibility that I don’t raise it.

3. She is angry at me for imposing this separation. Once she is in full control, it would be pay back time for me. What do you think?

okay i read it all, and she sounds like a psycholoony fucking bitch. you deserve better, especially sinceu u were willing to put up with her crap for so long.

and DO NOT GIVE HER THE COMPANY, GET HER OUT OF YOUR LIFE AND START OVER!!!- do you want your kids to be raised by a fucking psycho?

 

[Sub-Zero]

She says what I am ignoring is that she loves me.
She cooks food for me and brings over.
She says she had been in therapy and have learned her lesson.
In my culture, it would be difficult for her to get remarried. I feel guilty about it.
I do care for her.

why cause u took her virgnity?

get her to marry some white guy then- get her out of ur life, shell end up cutting ur dick off while ur sleeping, women are crazy even without crazy disorders

 

[josmkirk]

dude you know the answer and anything that you might read from jerks like myself is only going to confuse the issue - but just to throw my two cents worth in; if i were a betting man (i hate gambling!) so i won't bet but numbers 2 & 3 above are the most likely futures if you chose to get back with this chick- do yourself a favor - run! do not walk! as far away from this chick as possible...

 

[EnderJE]

What bothers me most is this:
She, most likely, will never be able to get married again.
Her life would be wasted.
That's what keeps me awake at night.

1) Run like hell.
2) Why do you think that? Culture does not make the person.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

your wife will remarry, but probably not into her own culture.

if you get with this woman again, you will sacrifice yourself on the alter of stupidity, along with many people i know who have miserable lives because their partners are so difficult to get along with.

will you pity yourself in 20 years half so much as you pity her right now?

im guessing youre an eastern european of muslim heritage, yes? (im curious, dont you dare not answer lol)

 

[H_T_]

you should go buy a bottle of champagne and drink the whole fuckin' thing. she's someone elses problem now and you should celebrate. you got out easy my friend, don't go back into that sickness you called a marriage.