Men. any idea?

[myway]

If you really feel that way and don't see any possible explaination or want to hear him out; then divorce him now. Why waste time?

I don't know your situation or him, so I see a possiblity. Unlike others, my experiences with the opposite sex haven't been as shitty as some of the others on here and I'm to keep an open (and hopeful) mind about it. But then again, the people on here have always (IMO) been a bloodthirsty lot. Sure, we want to comfort you, but also wants to hear your pain at the same time.

Either way, it's your life. I'm sure it will turn out fine either way,

I am willing to hear him out. He's just not saying much. He's just saying he's innocent and doesn't know where they came from. He's almost shrugging it off as nothing.

 

[Arabian]

I am willing to hear him out. He's just not saying much. He's just saying he's innocent and doesn't know where they came from. He's almost shrugging it off as nothing.

What do you think happened? What are your suspicions?

 

[75th]

It sounds like hes cheating.

Although, to play devil's advocate, there may very well be some other explanation. A few years back my wife was convinced I was cheating on here with some slut I worked with. Why? The girl (who I refused to shag...due to being married and all) went on a website and sent text messages to herself but entering my phone number on the "sent from" line (Cingular offered this back in the day). She forwarded them to my wife...this was her "undeniable proof."

It was only after I got the slut on speakerphone and told her to tell me wife the exact dates we supposedly fucked that I was able to prove her a liar. The girl claimed we were together the previous few weekends, not knowing that my wife and I moved out of state 2 months earlier.

Moral of the story, its not confirmed until its confirmed. Talk to the man.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

definitely banging a hot 21 year old. chicks that age love cops especially the married ones.

 

[myway]

It sounds like hes cheating.

Although, to play devil's advocate, there may very well be some other explanation. A few years back my wife was convinced I was cheating on here with some slut I worked with. Why? The girl (who I refused to shag...due to being married and all) went on a website and sent text messages to herself but entering my phone number on the "sent from" line (Cingular offered this back in the day). She forwarded them to my wife...this was her "undeniable proof."

It was only after I got the slut on speakerphone and told her to tell me wife the exact dates we supposedly fucked that I was able to prove her a liar. The girl claimed we were together the previous few weekends, not knowing that my wife and I moved out of state 2 months earlier.

Moral of the story, its not confirmed until its confirmed. Talk to the man.

I understand that fcuked up stuff(like ur story) can happen. The problem is:
If he's afraid of getting caught and is not ready for our marriage to end... why would he ever tell me the truth? If I decide I need a confession before I'm SURE he's innocent, then he needs to just never confess. That doesn't mean he's being honest. It bothers me how he's not giving much of a reaction. It's like he realizes that I will never have any other way to find out any truth other than what he tells me.

 

[Arabian]

I understand that fcuked up stuff(like ur story) can happen. The problem is:
If he's afraid of getting caught and is not ready for our marriage to end... why would he ever tell me the truth? If I decide I need a confession before I'm SURE he's innocent, then he needs to just never confess. That doesn't mean he's being honest. It bothers me how he's not giving much of a reaction. It's like he realizes that I will never have any other way to find out any truth other than what he tells me.

Tell him its Myway or the Highway...... divorce him, there are plenty of other men that make more money so you dont have to work etc:

 

[myway]

Tell him its Myway or the Highway...... divorce him, there are plenty of other men that make more money so you dont have to work etc:

I'm all about it BUT need to know(for my own sanity) that I'm making the right choice. I just got off the phone with my dad and he told me I need to come home(to my parents house). It would be good because they have plenty of money and time to help me through this..... but I'm married with a 10 week old son. I need to feel like I'm doing the right thing before I do something drastic. I keep thinking if I sit here for 5 more minutes, my hubby will call with a better explaination. I think I need to get my head outta my ass and go put on my big girl panties.

 

[Arabian]

I'm all about it BUT need to know(for my own sanity) that I'm making the right choice. I just got off the phone with my dad and he told me I need to come home(to my parents house). It would be good because they have plenty of money and time to help me through this..... but I'm married with a 10 week old son. I need to feel like I'm doing the right thing before I do something drastic. I keep thinking if I sit here for 5 more minutes, my hubby will call with a better explaination. I think I need to get my head outta my ass and go put on my big girl panties.

I would leave and let him figure it out........ and I would not come back... once a cheater always a cheater... do not stay in the marriage for a kid.... you can meet someone else that will appreciate you...

 

[75th]

I'm all about it BUT need to know(for my own sanity) that I'm making the right choice. I just got off the phone with my dad and he told me I need to come home(to my parents house). It would be good because they have plenty of money and time to help me through this..... but I'm married with a 10 week old son. I need to feel like I'm doing the right thing before I do something drastic. I keep thinking if I sit here for 5 more minutes, my hubby will call with a better explaination. I think I need to get my head outta my ass and go put on my big girl panties.

I can pretty much guarantee you that if you left (and he still does indeed love you) that he will tell you the truth.

 

[Arabian]

I can pretty much guarantee you that if you left (and he still does indeed love you) that he will tell you the truth.

Exactly, he thinks if he remains silent and denies it, then it will be hell for a month or so however she will forget about it...