Men. any idea?

[EnderJE]

Hopefully, she's having a great day.

 

[myway]

Has anyone heard from her? whats going on>?

Actually, I'm kinda just chillin'.
I feel more calm than I would have guessed.
At first, he was just saying he didn't know where the stray panties came from. Now, he's making more guesses about how they could have ended up in our house/laundry. Meanwhile, I'm calling bullshit.
He said maybe they have just been stuck behind the dryer from when his ex lived here before we were married. Nope. We have a new dryer.
Next, he said that maybe the unknown undies were just under a piece of furniture from when his' ex lived here(4 years ago). Nope. We had every inch of our flooring replaced about a year ago. Plus, our furniture is all new from about 2 years ago. If I allow myself to get too pissed off, I won't think straight enough to make good decisions. It's getting hard because these lame excuses are insulting, plus, they make him seem MORE guilty. For the sake of my family, I am willing to give the therapy a try. I did explain to him that therapy won't really work if he can't be honest while we are with the therapist.

 

[Longhorn85]

For the sake of my family, I am willing to give the therapy a try. I did explain to him that therapy won't really work if he can't be honest while we are with the therapist.

Cool

 

[Smurfy]

Actually, I'm kinda just chillin'.
I feel more calm than I would have guessed.
At first, he was just saying he didn't know where the stray panties came from. Now, he's making more guesses about how they could have ended up in our house/laundry. Meanwhile, I'm calling bullshit.
He said maybe they have just been stuck behind the dryer from when his ex lived here before we were married. Nope. We have a new dryer.
Next, he said that maybe the unknown undies were just under a piece of furniture from when his' ex lived here(4 years ago). Nope. We had every inch of our flooring replaced about a year ago. Plus, our furniture is all new from about 2 years ago. If I allow myself to get too pissed off, I won't think straight enough to make good decisions. It's getting hard because these lame excuses are insulting, plus, they make him seem MORE guilty. For the sake of my family, I am willing to give the therapy a try. I did explain to him that therapy won't really work if he can't be honest while we are with the therapist.

what was the reason he and the ex wife got divorced?

 

[needtogetaas]

what was the reason he and the ex wife got divorced?

Good one.

 

[vixensghost]

Actually, I'm kinda just chillin'.
I feel more calm than I would have guessed.
At first, he was just saying he didn't know where the stray panties came from. Now, he's making more guesses about how they could have ended up in our house/laundry. Meanwhile, I'm calling bullshit.
He said maybe they have just been stuck behind the dryer from when his ex lived here before we were married. Nope. We have a new dryer.
Next, he said that maybe the unknown undies were just under a piece of furniture from when his' ex lived here(4 years ago). Nope. We had every inch of our flooring replaced about a year ago. Plus, our furniture is all new from about 2 years ago. If I allow myself to get too pissed off, I won't think straight enough to make good decisions. It's getting hard because these lame excuses are insulting, plus, they make him seem MORE guilty. For the sake of my family, I am willing to give the therapy a try. I did explain to him that therapy won't really work if he can't be honest while we are with the therapist.

You're a better woman than I, Myway!

Good luck.

 

[blueta2]

I am willing to give the therapy a try. I did explain to him that therapy won't really work if he can't be honest while we are with the therapist.

Yes it will work, as long as your honest. Make therapy about you and not him.
If he wants to lie, then he loses. If you are honest, you will get the benefit of therapy and the strength to move on in peace.

Myway, thereapy saved my sanity from a cheating ex.

 

[bw1]

Yes it will work, as long as your honest. Make therapy about you and not him.
If he wants to lie, then he loses. If you are honest, you will get the benefit of therapy and the strength to move on in peace.

Myway, thereapy saved my sanity from a cheating ex.

You're deep

 

[blueta2]

You're deep

yeah, I had to DIG to get myself out of holes. The more you dig, the deeper you get ;-)

 

[The Race The Hunt]

For the sake of my family, I am willing to give the therapy a try. .

That's admirable, and a level-headed approach to the situation.

Are you worried about long-term effects of this, though? Even if this "therapy" (sorry, I don't believe in "therapy", just my personal view) works in the short term, I'd imagine there would be many lingering ill feelings inside you that may not even show themselves for years to come. Are you the type of person who will truly be able to give 100% trust to him for the rest of your life, given this situation? Or will you be creating your own personal prison?

Either way, best of luck to ya.