Men. any idea?

[musclemom]

Oh wow, he is good.

In one breath he tells you he hopes you won't leave and in another he's telling you it will be your fault if you leave and break up the family.

Take your father up on the offer and go to therapy as a couple and also go alone.

Sometime we pick people to have in our lives because there's something about ourselves we need to face and improve upon and sometimes it's just to punish ourselves for our own weakness.

You guys need to figure out or remember why you came together in the first place and what now perpetuates the negative and destructive behavior between you both.

TITCR!!

 

[blueta2]

why are u asking advice from a bunch of buffoons on a fucking fitness forum.....do you trust him? if so believe him...if not confront him.

There are many wise and intelligent folks on this site (as there are on other msg boards) that offer some good insight into others personal pains.
Maybe they're the same "buffoons" that help you through your pain of divorce.

 

[velvett]

There are many wise and intelligent folks on this site (as there are on other msg boards) that offer some good insight into others personal pains.
Maybe they're the same "buffoons" that help you through your pain of divorce.

Aside from that - she also mentioned that she did confront him about it (and she mentioned his response).

 

[The Race The Hunt]

Props to you for the "think first, act second" approach. Very rare nowadays, especially in such an emotional situation.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Alter?

 

[vixensghost]

When you say you would never forgive at all, I guess I am reminded of the phrase, "never say never". As wonderful as you are, I doubt that you or Mr. VB are perfect, and you yourself might be in need of forgiveness someday for somehow hurting your hubby. Maybe you'll go through some type of phase, who knows?

When you see a couple that has been married for 40, 50, 60 years with adult children, grandchildren, shared memories, estate, assets, sitting as a glorious and uber-respected family patriach at a family reunion, you can rest assured that at some time during their relationship one or the other was hurt and maybe ready to leave, but decided to forgive and yes, salvage the marriage, and were able to grow and be even happier than before.

There is HUGE difference between hurting someone and cheating on them. Christ, I always thought I had a really high pain tolerance, I guess not.

I never said I had the perfect marriage. You think that I'm easy to live with? Ha! I'm the most difficult person alive to live with.

My idea of "hurting" him is when I very nicely reminded him that he was getting too chubby. I placed the empty Little Debbie wrapers I found in his truck on a pair of pants he could NO longer fit into. He bitched that those pants had to skrink in the damn washer. WTF? He got my point, it hurt, but he started training again. Yeah, it hurt him that I rubbed his nose in ti, but, HE also understood that I loved him enough to say HOW I felt about his Little Debbie snack attacks.

Sorry, cheating on EACH other would not "hurt" us, it would kill us! HUGE difference IMO.

 

[ceo]

Little Debbie? Now I'm hungry.

 

[vixensghost]

Little Debbie? Now I'm hungry.

lol. Not the two legged kind of snacks, CEO.


He was acting all "strange" when I asked to drive his truck to get some pansies(flowers) to plant. I did not want to dirty up the trunk of my car..Yadda Yadda, I know..Anyways... IT was SOOO obvious he had something to hide in his truck the way he was acting. Silly man, he thinks I can't read him like a book. lol

I found his stash of Little Debbie's and empty McDonald's trash bags in the cab of his truck. Yep, he sure was hiding something alright- HIS pant shrinkers! lol

 

[wootoom]

There are many wise and intelligent folks on this site (as there are on other msg boards) that offer some good insight into others personal pains.
Maybe they're the same "buffoons" that help you through your pain of divorce.

Look a my name darling...do you think im serious?

 

[crew9]

I don't buy the "he's calm and not saying much, so he's probably innocent" approach. He's a cop. He watches people incriminate themselves by talking too much everyday. He won't make that mistake.