Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below What kind of arrangement do you have with your wife on seeing your family. My wife feels that she should not have to see my sister, mom or dad more than once or twice a month and she makes it a rule that she doesnt. Should I feel bad about this? My fasmily loves her and likes to see her and treats her great but she is not close to her family and she doesnt seem to want to be close to my family. Am I being overly sensative?
Married men who live near family
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Longhorn85
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How long have you been married? Did she know your family prior to your marriage? I don't see a need for her to see them every month. Don't force it.
I am in the military, we are fortunate if we see our extended families a couple of times a year, and it is always a nice reunion. Familiarity breeds contempt.
I am in the military, we are fortunate if we see our extended families a couple of times a year, and it is always a nice reunion. Familiarity breeds contempt.
We were very recently marriend and she has known my family for about 1 year. I took her out of california where she is from and moved her to chicago where my sister and brother in law live. I guess I have this idea in my head on how it should be and what she wants goes against that. Should I just go along with the once a month thing and if my family invites us to something else that month just tell them that we cant go?
Longhorn85
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Once a month is probably too much. Stick to major holidays or special occasions.
CYBERNIGG
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I had the same situation with my wife. She doesn't really care for her family. So she didn't like to be around mine much. Give it time. I've been married for a little more than 3 months and my wife is starting to like my family more and more. Hang in there. Don't give her a hard time about it though.
cure
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I think that's wrong. If you want her to go with you then she should have the respect to understand that family is important to you and you want her to be part of that.
If it comes to the point that you have to lie then that is totally wrong. I was brought up with the beliefs that family is #1 no matter what happens in your life. IMO she doesn't like your family and is just telling you that because if she did then she would have no problem being with them.
If it comes to the point that you have to lie then that is totally wrong. I was brought up with the beliefs that family is #1 no matter what happens in your life. IMO she doesn't like your family and is just telling you that because if she did then she would have no problem being with them.
dude, are you in a time warp from 1950???Cure said:
it's not like that in today's real world.
elvis, don't push the issue. your wife will eventually warm up to your family........................or she won't. if you push her into it she will only resent it and aventually YOU.
