Married and Divorced People - Please Read

[decem]

Decem:

Well first off-I am not going to wish you good luck. Because that is kinda lame as fuck. There is no such thing.


All I can say is from personal experiance-and that is if you love her don't blow it off. Because I personally guarantee that you will be kicking yourself in the ass forever.

don't think that i still don't hate you simply because i'm responding to you... ok?

anywho.. i won't.. i've thought about that.. if i did let this opportunity go.. i would forever regret having done so.. and everytime i think about if i were to do that.. this picture of me being the 40 y/o bachelor that always talks about "the girl".. the girl he gave up on.. the girl he never should have left.. etc..

anyway.. thx.. fuckstick

 

[FletchNJ]

Still Married
1. have you thought about divorce
2. were you scared prior to getting married
3. did you have any doubts whatsoever
4. are you happy because of your marriage (not because of kids)
5. would you be happier if you had never married
6. has your marriage been good or bad for the most part
7. how was your relationship prior to marriage
8. how long did you date prior to marriage
9. have you ever been or are you now attracted to other women
10. did you ever cheat prior to or while married?

1. Nope things are going very well, but only been married a year.
2. Yes like you wouldn't believe!
3. Well yes but they were all selfish reasons like I'm not going to be able to go out every weekend anymore.
4. Yes we have so much fun together.
5. I don't think so I love having a beautiful woman to come home to and sleep with every night.
6. It's been great, I've known her for 12 years and knew she would be my wife some day after knowing her for a few months.
7. It was great
8. 11 years
9. come on I'm a man
10. I'm a hardcore flirt that's about it.

BTW congratulations on your day, Just relax, and don't worry about a thing. If she isn't the one then you would have never asked for her hand in marriage

 

[john937]

Divorced.

 

[pushing_fe]

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1. how long were you married?
2. did you have any doubts at all about your love.. or hers.. prior to marriage?

We were married for 3 years. The first year was great. Second year we started hanging out with a couple and going out drinking with them on the weeekends. Third year we started partying a lot.

I had a lot of doubts about my love for her. As a matter of fact for the first year or so I had no intention of marrying her. She was totally the agressor. There was numerous times that I told myself that it was over, but she would always call me and we would end of getting back together. The first time I bought her an engagement ring I got scared and ended up taking it back. However, the longer and longer we stayed together I started to fall in love with her and eventually asked her to marry me.


IMO if you haven't gotten all the partying and drinking out of your system yet then you are not ready to get married. The two just don't mix.

 

[decem]

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fletch.... thanks man.. i appreciate your response..

john937.................. for real?

I had a lot of doubts about my love for her. As a matter of fact for the first year or so I had no intention of marrying her. She was totally the agressor. There was numerous times that I told myself that it was over, but she would always call me and we would end of getting back together. The first time I bought her an engagement ring I got scared and ended up taking it back. However, the longer and longer we stayed together I started to fall in love with her and eventually asked her to marry me.


IMO if you haven't gotten all the partying and drinking out of your system yet then you are not ready to get married. The two just don't mix.

oh shit. dude.. that sounds like my situation.. to a tee really.. the doubts about loving her.. her total, complete, undeniable love for me.. my telling myself it's over.. buying her a ring... taking it back.. and now all i feel is my love for her growing.. and more and more "in love" times than not..


anywho.. we both have all our partying and drinking out of the way... i thought i didn't.. and that's why i broke up with her again the second time.. only to find out that i'm too fucking old to be doing that shit.. i go to bars and clubs and it's all 19-22 y/o's.. and me.. and my ripe old age of 25 (really though.. no matter what you guys say.. i'm much more mature than your average bear) i just couldn't get into that scene again.. and came to see that i've missed that time in my life (i was in the military.. and while we partied alot.. i didn't ever really go all out partying.. not like a college student would).. and i can pass up this opportunity in order to try to relive a time in my life that has already passed..

anyway.. thanks again for your responses bro.

 

[Rockafella Skank]

if still married:

1. have you thought about divorce
2. were you scared prior to getting married
3. did you have any doubts whatsoever
4. are you happy because of your marriage (not because of kids)
4. would you be happier if you had never married
5. has your marriage been good or bad for the most part
6. how was your relationship prior to marriage
7. how long did you date prior to marriage
8. have you ever been or are you now attracted to other women
9. did you ever cheat prior to or while married?

1. Nope
2. Yes, but not because I thought I was making a mistake
3. No. I knew I was going to marry my wife after about the second month together
4. I'm happy becasue I have a wonderful wife who has helped make me a better man. My hope is that I help make her a better woman twice as much as she helps me.
4. I can't answer that question, but I don't think so. I'd be just as happy unmarried but with this woman (if that's what you're asking)
5. My marriage has been great ... we both love being married to each other
6. Pretty gosh darned good, but "normal" in almost every way
7. Six years, now married four. A decade with the same woman
8. Absolutely and she's attracted to other women. We're human, you know
9. Nope and nope

 

[pushing_fe]

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oh shit. dude.. that sounds like my situation.. to a tee really.. the doubts about loving her.. her total, complete, undeniable love for me.. my telling myself it's over.. buying her a ring... taking it back.. and now all i feel is my love for her growing.. and more and more "in love" times than not..

I wish you better luck than me. Does she know that you bought her a ring a took it back. Me and my ex use to have some good laughs over that.

 

[decem]

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I wish you better luck than me. Does she know that you bought her a ring a took it back. Me and my ex use to have some good laughs over that.

worse.. i gave to her.. asking her to marry me.. only to lose my nerve two months later.. ask for the ring back.. and send her packing.. lol

then 5-7 months later i was missing her like crazy.. 7 months later we reunited.. dated for another 8 months.. i bailed again.. 2 months later... (last month).. i flew out and asked her to marry me..

 

[vixenbabe]

Originally posted by decem
if still married:

1. have you thought about divorce
2. were you scared prior to getting married
3. did you have any doubts whatsoever
4. are you happy because of your marriage (not because of kids)
4. would you be happier if you had never married
5. has your marriage been good or bad for the most part
6. how was your relationship prior to marriage
7. how long did you date prior to marriage
8. have you ever been or are you now attracted to other women
9. did you ever cheat prior to or while married?
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1) NO- but he's been on my shit list a few times.
2) A little
3) No
4) YES
4A)No
5) Good marriage- some bad times but we over came them.
6) Wonderful friendship before we got married.
7) 10 months
8) No, I'm not attracted to other women! LOL I can find other men attractive..Hell- I'm married NOT DEAD!
9) HELL NO! I respect him too much.

Respect one another, expect many changes in your spouse along the way, allow each other freedom to grow, laugh at yourselves and each other, express your feelings and thoughts to one another daily, expect to carry the "load" in the marriage once in awhile- it's not always 50/50...at times, can be 60/40 or worse. NOTHING WORTH WHILE IS EASY- TAKES WORK 24/7!

 

[sheez_ripped]

For me...married 9 yrs this year...

if still married:

1. have you thought about divorce - only when in a major fight with hubby. But, never seriously.
2. were you scared prior to getting married - not until it came time to walk down the aisle. Then my knees were shaking so bad that even my Dad noticed!
3. did you have any doubts whatsoever - no. But, then we were older. 32 for me and 35 for him. A first marriage for us both.
4. are you happy because of your marriage (not because of kids) - definitely!! We are best friends!
4. would you be happier if you had never married - no. Even though single life can be fun. It can be lonely at times...and the club scene gets old!
5. has your marriage been good or bad for the most part - Mostly good. Very little bad.
6. how was your relationship prior to marriage - the same as it is now except we had more time for each other. We have a son and kids do take up time! But, he's worth it of course!
7. how long did you date prior to marriage - engaged after 2 months and married after 10 months.
8. have you ever been or are you now attracted to other women - we both have
9. did you ever cheat prior to or while married? - He did once during a rough period. But, we have a pretty odd relationship. Have done some wild stuff...so it wasn't a "deal breaker" for our marriage....but that has been years ago....

The big thing is COMMUNICATION...and knowing where you both stand on all kinds of issues....having kids, raising kids, money, religion, politics, how to punish your kids....dealing with in-laws and holidays....to be able to work all that kinda stuff out and still be "in love"....what we do is stay very practical & matter-of-fact with each other thru the week....keeping up housework, childcare, homework & activities for child, gymtime...but then on weekends...always have a date night for ourselves and our son overnights with grandparents....

I would hate not being married....