Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below Just got married several months ago and decided to bulk a little. I've gained about 20 lbs currently sitting at about 200 5'9" 14% BF, heaviest ever being an ectomorph. As proud as I am about his achievement and the constant praises by people at the gym, my most important counterpart, my wife, seems to be more turned off by the weight gain. She has mentioned on several occassions about my thicker waiste and asked several times "When are you going to start slimming down?" It just kills my confidence and my feelings. Is bodybuilding a double edge sword or what? How do you married guys deal with this or do you? Thanks in advance.
Just got married and.......
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majutsu
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hmmmm gee I don't know . . . Most women like a buff, muscular guy; my wife has been very pleased since I started training. If you are just getting fat, she's right; your waist on your pants shouldn't be changing too much or your diet's not clean. I'm 5'10" 210lbs 30in waist. I was wearing 30in pants, but with my new legs, I have to wear 32's for the leg room and cinch the waist in with a 30in belt to a smaller waist. Now, dealing with the new attention from other women is a source of trouble often . . . Takes some getting used to, especially if you've been a ectomorphic goober like us previously. . . So sometimes these negative expressions come from some jealously and discomfort with a lot of changes in her man. Few women like an unhealthy, unfit guy . . . So, there are two logical explanations :1) You are getting fat, she's right. Eat cleaner, build leaner. or 2) You kickin' ass and gettin' a little too sexy. Make her feel more comfortable, let her know you still think she's the sexiest thing on earth. You decide which is right.
Lift Chief
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If you're intentionally gaining tell her to shutup and that it's part of the game.
Nighthawkk
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She needs to be quiet and go make you a sandwich...
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lartinos
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She needs to shut the hell up. My GF tells me I'm perfect the way I am and that I don't need to do roids. (probably wouldn't have attracted her if i wasn't on them, but..... that was 20lb's ago) It is comforting knowing someone likes you just the way you are. you just come back and tell her you would love her no-matter what she looked like.
needsize said:
Whaddya expect? Women are there to torment us and they do a damn fine job of it.
Nighthawkk
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apexman said:
LOL
Mythicalbeing
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I'm like Needsize, my wife likes the bulk but is turned off by competition build...I'd be happy at 10% and I tink she would be too, but my hobbie, benching keeps me pretty heavy and super strong...and I realize I can't have both.
supertech69
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Well my soon to be wife could care less wether I'm bulking or not. She is happier when I'm bulking quite simply because I am a much more pleasant person to be around when bulking. It's good to be able to eat what you want 
Right now, I'm an asshole about 90% of the time but, that'll happen when you're in the 3-4%BF range.
Personally, my opinion is you need to quit being so sensitive to it, it makes you sound like a chick Next you'll be asking us if your jeans make your ass look fat! 
Right now, I'm an asshole about 90% of the time but, that'll happen when you're in the 3-4%BF range.Personally, my opinion is you need to quit being so sensitive to it, it makes you sound like a chick
Next you'll be asking us if your jeans make your ass look fat! 
Singleton
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Squats and deads can make your waist thicker, making you appear fatter.
Pilates and yoga can help tone your midsection and improve your posture, making you appear more cut. makes you look more like a fitness model -> lotsa girls like that look.
Whether or not to do these is up to you.
Pilates and yoga can help tone your midsection and improve your posture, making you appear more cut. makes you look more like a fitness model -> lotsa girls like that look.
Whether or not to do these is up to you.
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