I'm like Needsize, my wife likes the bulk but is turned off by competition build...I'd be happy at 10% and I tink she would be too, but my hobbie, benching keeps me pretty heavy and super strong...and I realize I can't have both.
Well my soon to be wife could care less wether I'm bulking or not. She is happier when I'm bulking quite simply because I am a much more pleasant person to be around when bulking. It's good to be able to eat what you want Right now, I'm an asshole about 90% of the time but, that'll happen when you're in the 3-4%BF range.
Personally, my opinion is you need to quit being so sensitive to it, it makes you sound like a chick Next you'll be asking us if your jeans make your ass look fat!
knit you a sweater? I'd rather just stick my cock in her mouth. No offense bro, but she should'nt be saying things like that to you, if she really LOVES you.
Squats and deads can make your waist thicker, making you appear fatter.
Pilates and yoga can help tone your midsection and improve your posture, making you appear more cut. makes you look more like a fitness model -> lotsa girls like that look.