Is It Possible To Be Friends With An Ex?

[Meantime1]

Q: What can you get out of this relationship?

Do you have plans to make your move at some point and get back together? Maybe some casual sex?

What?

Ask yourself these quesrions before you invest time and energy into cultivating a friendship with somebody whom was not compatible with you as a mate.

I feel that friends take up time, I only maintain friendships with people I feel are worth the time. Fuck everybody else.

Wise Words and that is why i write to guys for advice and you are right,
I have thought about this all morning at work, acquaintances yes, but not friends like best friends, since he was not a good BF when we were together and all he thought was himself,

I think i know what i need to do, I will always be polite when i run into him and i will NEVER loose my cool, regardless of the situation, and i will keep in contact through email

Thanks
Meantime1

 

[gregory]

If you were genuinely in Love with him, you will never be just friends with him. Simple as that. If the relationship was on a lighter note then i don't see why not.

 

[Big Rick Rock]

Wise Words and that is why i write to guys for advice and you are right,
I have thought about this all morning at work, acquaintances yes, but not friends like best friends, since he was not a good BF when we were together and all he thought was himself,

I think i know what i need to do, I will always be polite when i run into him and i will NEVER loose my cool, regardless of the situation, and i will keep in contact through email

Thanks
Meantime1

You said he was not a good BF when you were together but yet you feel *something* when you see him after so long... He was good in the sack wasn't he? thats what kept you int he relationship...

 

[AAP]

YEs, it's possible. However, if you were friends during the relationship, then you can be friends afterwards.

What a lot of people don't realize is that sometimes you are in a relationship with someone that you may love, but not like. They can be your lover, but not your friend. Kind of weird sounding, but true.

 

[Meantime1]

You said he was not a good BF when you were together but yet you feel *something* when you see him after so long... He was good in the sack wasn't he? thats what kept you int he relationship...

LOL LOL
Yes he was and i am very very good at the sack also
wow it feels as if u can see right through me

But seriously i am glad i can share my thought with you guys, sometimes the best advice comes from strangers,

Thank U ALL

 

[Meantime1]

I am social with my boyfriend from the younger days...

Its hard to befriend my X, though I try... he sometimes interprets friendly gestures as being a step tword reconciling our marriage. We have our UP's and out DOWN's ... So much baggage, but we also have kids and IMO we need to be cordial when we are around each other.. suck it up and do it for our kids.

WOW that must be difficult sometimes, since you two both still have ties,
well at least you are being adult about it, for the sake of the children and that takes great respect,
Thanks for sharing part of your story with me


XXX meantime1

 

[Big Rick Rock]

LOL LOL
Yes he was and i am very very good at the sack also
wow it feels as if u can see right through me

But seriously i am glad i can share my thought with you guys, sometimes the best advice comes from strangers,

Thank U ALL

Question: Was the hardest part about the break-up thinking that he was going to be f*cking some other chick the way he did you? Tha he would make her feel they way he made you feel?
Did jelousy make the break up harder than the separation itself ?


(I'm trying to get to the bottom of this)

 

[The_Ghost]

I am friends with probably a half dozen ex GF's. Once the feelings are gone it is quite easy. I don't hang and do stuff with them but we keep in contact as there is genuine concern how each is doing in life.

 

[Meantime1]

Question: Was the hardest part about the break-up thinking that he was going to be f*cking some other chick the way he did you? Tha he would make her feel they way he made you feel?
Did jelousy make the break up harder than the separation itself ?


(I'm trying to get to the bottom of this)

Well the break-up was hard AT THE begining only because i did love him and i really felt we could build a future, back at that time, the idea of him being intimate with somone else did cross my mind,
I am not really a jelous person, but i did distance myself from him, because i was hurting sooo badly and knew that, was the right thing for me, and i have done that ever since until late last yr,
By August i was fine and when i ran into him in clubs, i would sometimes walk over, be ever sooo polite say hi, shake his hand and move on, and that always seem to take him off guard, since he did not know how to react,
For me doing that, i was biscally saying, i am cool seen u here, and me been here
and that is exactly what i did on New Years Eve and also when he introduced me to his New Partner, I just shaked his Partners hand was ever soo nice and moved on
I would NEVER loose my cool over a man

 

[Smurfy]

i dont think you can make a blanket statement as to whether it will work or wont. it depends totally on the individuals and the dynamics of the relationship at hand.