Is everything forgivable?

[kx250rider]

Seriously speaking, anything can be forgiven, but that's a personal choice. I might choose to forgive someone for something that society says shouldn't be forgiven, and if I do, it's for my own benefit. Grudges and anger take too much energy, and hurt ourselves more than they ever hurt the person you're holding them for. I've forgiven stuff that people think I'm crazy for forgiving, including a really bad situation with a friend of 20 years who attempted things with my wife while he stayed with us. I won't let him be a guest ever again obviously, but I used the energy from any anger and grudge-holding to work on repairing the collateral damage in my marriage, and thankfully this attitude was successful ;-)

There are of course cases where forgiveness is down-right wrong, such as hate. You cannot forgive hatred and acts thereof, as that would allow the person focusing the hatred to take over. A little too thick to write in a forum what exactly I mean, but that's the basics.

Charles

 

[cindylou]

There are of course cases where forgiveness is down-right wrong, such as hate. You cannot forgive hatred and acts thereof, as that would allow the person focusing the hatred to take over. A little too thick to write in a forum what exactly I mean, but that's the basics.

Charles

What is an act of hatred? Terrorism? Murder? Isn't forgiveness just refusing to hate someone? I'm not talking about reconciliation but just refusing to hate someone. If you can't forgive hate and those acts, don't you at the core kinda become that person who hurt you, who hates you?

 

[muscleaddiction]

Seriously speaking, anything can be forgiven, but that's a personal choice. I might choose to forgive someone for something that society says shouldn't be forgiven, and if I do, it's for my own benefit. Grudges and anger take too much energy, and hurt ourselves more than they ever hurt the person you're holding them for. I've forgiven stuff that people think I'm crazy for forgiving, including a really bad situation with a friend of 20 years who attempted things with my wife while he stayed with us. I won't let him be a guest ever again obviously, but I used the energy from any anger and grudge-holding to work on repairing the collateral damage in my marriage, and thankfully this attitude was successful ;-)

There are of course cases where forgiveness is down-right wrong, such as hate. You cannot forgive hatred and acts thereof, as that would allow the person focusing the hatred to take over. A little too thick to write in a forum what exactly I mean, but that's the basics.

Charles

Going through something personal at moment and need to practice this as you are right, it drains you completely...as it has me. Although I a so called friend do the same with my wife and that is unforgivable and I never will...so wrote him off, gone...good riddence!

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[mistaballoonhands]

What is an act of hatred? Terrorism? Murder? Isn't forgiveness just refusing to hate someone? I'm not talking about reconciliation but just refusing to hate someone. If you can't forgive hate and those acts, don't you at the core kinda become that person who hurt you, who hates you?

Does surprise buttsecks count?

 

[zwhit]

Does surprise buttsecks count?

my wife's got at least a 40" vertical

 

[bigpokey]

ahahahahahahah

 

[ceo]

You can only know how you would react if it happened to you and I hope it never does.

On that note; seeing that it's Easter, though I am not religious, I am going to let it go and work on forgiveness.
My best friend lost her Mom unexpected last night and when I went to her house seeing her pain, I realized, life is too short to drag "shit" with me from my past.

So far, I've had a great weekend with my sister in town, my awesome boyfriend and my great family, so it's all good. I'm letting it go

Love and Peace all (even you Chris and Plunk)

Pretty damn positive (no pun intended - teehee) that if I thought I may have contracted HIV, and finally found out I didn't, that I would be relieved and overjoyed.

 

[nimbus]

whoa, is this thread really 11 pages about pozzing negs?

 

[cindylou]

Pretty damn positive (no pun intended - teehee) that if I thought I may have contracted HIV, and finally found out I didn't, that I would be relieved and overjoyed.

Yes, CEO I'm sure that in that situation where your wife of over a decade cheated on you and contracted HIV, knew about it and slept with you the only emotions you'd have is relief and joy when you found out you didn't get it. That's it. Nothing else. Because emotions, people and situations are not any more complex than that.

Lol @ the pun tho. Tee hee Sorry blu

 

[AFeedz]

Yes, CEO I'm sure that in that situation where your wife of over a decade cheated on you and contracted HIV, knew about it and slept with you the only emotions you'd have is relief and joy when you found out you didn't get it. That's it. Nothing else. Because emotions, people and situations are not any more complex than that.

Lol @ the pun tho. Tee hee Sorry blu

I dont think hes saying he wouldnt be hurt by the betrayal, he's saying since he wouldn't have gotten HIV, there were no lasting effects enough for it to be worth it to him to be upset over 15 years later. It's been over for a decade and a half.