Interesting article on becoming a parent

[Faizakafez]

damn immigrants ;-)

LMAO i will let that go cuz you have glasses!

 

[Bikini Mod]

lol,

Its weird cuz i do want kids, but after reading this thread i went to take a piss and was like "do i really want kids" or was i hard wired earlier in birth to come to terms that kids and my culture are a part of it.. but i would like kids


i think

Darlin, you have your whole life ahead of you.

This is what I tell my girls about the topic - "First you live for YOU and fulfill the dreams you set for YOURSELF and when you have reached most of these goals and life brings you your very best friend who is your kind and supportive partner - some one you respects and accepts you exactly the way you are and for whom you return these sentiments and who has also fulfilled some of their greatest dreams that they had set for THEMSELVES... and the two of you genuinely LIKE one another... if God is good and you are very lucky and if that is what you two decide then you will be blessed with the experience to have a child that will teach you more about yourself and about the world around you than you never thought you didn't know."

 

[blueta2]

Children and pets are not one in the same, however they are the same in that there is a degree of commitment, responsibility and long term obligation - also love, nurturing and attention. The good news is if you really HAVE TO you can give a pet to a shelter or someone who wants it, but you can't do that with a kid.

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As a cat Mom, I could nor would ever be able to give a cat up.

 

[blueta2]

I can't believe they keep the kids out so late. It's like 11 at night and their kids are exhausted and crying. They should be in bed.

or locked up in a cage ;-)

 

[Bikini Mod]

As a cat Mom, I could nor would ever be able to give a cat up.

Me, I do not want the responsibility for a pet so I don't have one.

I genuinely do not understand either the parents who have kids and then say, "Oh shit!" (I was a teen too and hello, I got on birthcontrol when I decided to become consentually sexually active) or pet owners who say, "Oh shit."

 

[blueta2]

I actually had someone who I thought was my friend tell me that I should have had an abortion because I'm too old and am cheating the baby. He said I could die when the boy is in his twenties and I'm basically a selfish person and should give the child up for adoption to someone younger.

I've just come to terms with the fact that whether or not you have kids and no matter at what age, there will be some asshole with a bad attitude about it. You gotta just ignore the idiots.

what, does he think people die at 57? Can't believe he said that. He should have said "Have the kid you old hag and sell it".....geez ;-)

 

[all the whey]

or locked up in a cage ;-)

So, the same as your boyfriend?

 

[all the whey]

Oh my, I agree so much with that article. I used to get that question from EVERYONE. My ex-hubbie has one side of his family that are really weird very hard core catholics that even the roman catholic church thinks is too hard core. One of his aunts came up to me upon first meeting me and had a discussion about how my curvy body should be good for having at least 6 or 7 children if I got started right away! She was NOT JOKING.

At our wedding, I made it ABUNDANTLY clear that it was an adults only reception. It didn't begin until 9 p.m. His family thought that was a dumb idea so they all brought their kids anyway. So, there were lots of sleepy, cranky kids at this late night booze soaked reception. It pissed me off.

Plus, if you kid starts screaming in a restaurant, TAKE HIM/HER OUTSIDE and comfort the poor kid.

Don't even get me started on taking babies to R-rated films and then just letting them cry and ruin it for everyone else.

Some parents are clueless.

 

[all the whey]

 

[all the whey]

This is what I do to babies!~