Interesting article on becoming a parent

[blueta2]

So, the same as your boyfriend?

exactly....who needs a kid when I have him

Actually he has two kids which is a constant point of contention for us.

 

[all the whey]

As a cat Mom, I could nor would ever be able to give a cat up.

 

[Bikini Mod]

exactly....who needs a kid when I have him

Actually he has two kids which is a constant point of contention for us.

Is it the children?... or his ex?

Children will always complicate a relationship no doubt, but nothing worse then an uncooperative ex who has an ax to grind. Sucks for everyone involved.

 

[Bikini Mod]

PS - if that is more than you are willing to share, let me STFU! Didn't mean to pry.

 

[all the whey]

PS - if that is more than you are willing to share, let me STFU! Didn't mean to pry.

 

[all the whey]

exactly....who needs a kid when I have him

Actually he has two kids which is a constant point of contention for us.

This is what bluta trained her cat to do to her boyfriends kids.

 

[blueta2]

Is it the children?... or his ex?

Children will always complicate a relationship no doubt, but nothing worse then an uncooperative ex who has an ax to grind. Sucks for everyone involved.

Neither.... it's me, I cannot get used to having kids around.
His ex is cool and they all get along very well.

 

[blueta2]

This is what bluta trained her cat to do to her boyfriends kids.

HAHAH......you always find the right pics

 

[Bikini Mod]

Neither.... it's me, I cannot get used to having kids around.
His ex is cool and they all get along very well.

That's very honest of you and pretty hard on you as well. I am so sorry about that.

Are the children very young? Honestly, my children are older than my sister's and though I love her children like my own it was very hard for me to be around them sometimes because "I had already gone through whatever stage" with my own as many times as I cared too... Once they got older then it was fine. Oh God, the baby-thing was really tough.

I would love to have two children with my Grump HOWEVER -

We are both too old.

and though I wouldnt mind being pregnant (if I were healthy) I couldnt stand the thought of a newborn 24/7.... and then, MY GOD the pottytraining!!! I had to leave when my sister went through it with hers. Just too painful to even watch.

I suppose then watching my own children in adolescense (though admittedly they are in a TERRBILE situation) I imagine even *normal children* can be very taxing during this stage.

 

[blueta2]

That's very honest of you and pretty hard on you as well. I am so sorry about that.

Are the children very young? Honestly, my children are older than my sister's and though I love her children like my own it was very hard for me to be around them sometimes because "I had already gone through whatever stage" with my own as many times as I cared too... Once they got older then it was fine. Oh God, the baby-thing was really tough.

I would love to have two children with my Grump HOWEVER -

We are both too old.

and though I wouldnt mind being pregnant (if I were healthy) I couldnt stand the thought of a newborn 24/7.... and then, MY GOD the pottytraining!!! I had to leave when my sister went through it with hers. Just too painful to even watch.

I suppose then watching my own children in adolescense (though admittedly they are in a TERRBILE situation) I imagine even *normal children* can be very taxing during this stage.

the thought of a baby at this age is not even real for me. Taking care of myself is exhauting!

I am honest about the situation with his kids. It gets him horribly angry though. I've never had kids and cannot just adjust at 40 yrs old!
It's hard on me, but hard on him also.

His kids are 9 (girl) and 12 (boy)