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heatherrae said:Yeah, I do tend to give more than I get. It is one of my faults.
Stop and listen for a minute...
Wanting someone to love and cherish YOU the way that you are capable of loving and cherishing is not selfish or destructive... and neither is holding out till you meet someone who will treat you this way and do it GLADLY!
I was the same as you, grew up similarly and so I chose partners that would treat me the only way that I knew how to be treated: abusively. I remember the first time a man doted on me. I sat there, uncomfortably not knowing WHAT to do as my entire life I had served others. And you know what? I GOT USED TO IT so much so that I would only date a man that reveled in the fact that he was selfless and WANTED to dote on me.
Just a little tidbit:
When you are gettting to know a man ask him this simple question:
"Are you a giver or a taker?"
Unless the IMMEDIATE response is: "YES"
the answer is "NO." and move on.
There are only two types of people in the world in this respect: givers and takers. When two givers align, it is a beautiful thing... think about that, a never-ending circle of giving.
