Rotten
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My wife wanted to go out with her friends and I encouraged her to. I figured she needed a break and I trust(ed) her. This is what happened when she came home.
Well my night just went to hell. It was a shitty day so what did I expect. Maria got home wasted. She was a happy drunk, but could barely stand. Then she wants to go over to a friends house. A friend of hers that I got into an arguement is there so I don't want to go. I admit it, I was totally out of line and said something that was meant to be a joke but it came out so wrong. I have said much worse so I didn't think she'd care, plus I was FUBARed. I tried to apologise because I was truely sorry, but she hung up on me. I was pissed that she wouldn't accept my apology so the more I thought about it the madder I got.
ANYWAY...back to the story. I didn't want to go there and I knew her friend didn't want me over so why push the issue. Maria got pissed. So then she wanted to drive, and I wasn't going to let her. No fucking way, she means too much to me. So we started fighting about that. She was telling me how much she hates me, what a fuckup I am, how she is going to move out tomarrow, etc. I wasn't going to say anything hurtful that I would regret, but what she said was fucking cruel. So she decides to walk off somewhere and we don't live in the best walking at night neighborhood so I went after her. I had hidden both of our keys so she couldn't drive and kill herself, so I locked the front door since I leave the backdoor open sometimes when Bear is in the house. I get about two blocks away and she is walking back, calling me a fucking psycho and a worthless peice of shit. Wasn't I just going after her so nobody would hurt her? We get back to the house and all the doors are locked. She thinks this is some kind of game and I did it on purpose. Once again the names start, telling me I'm psycho, she says I have mental problems but I'm not the one freaking out cause I'm butt wasted. She starts hitting me, and rips my shirt. I put my hands in my pockets so she knows I'm not threatening her. We crawl in through a window. More names are called, alot more. She calls her mom, but she doesn't answer(that was fucking mature). I call her friend that she was out with and ask her what the fruck she did to my wife, they talk, Maria calms down, I agree to stay in the bedroom and she'll stay on the couch.
My roomate walks in and it all starts up again. I will not give her the keys. I agree to drive her over to her friends house and drop her off so she won't drive. She wants me to go with her and I said I will if she apologises for saying what she called me, she refuses. We walk outside and she starts in about the keys again, I walk back inside. Fuck, I was trying to do what she wanted. I unlock the door and she rips the alarm remote off my keychain and throws it at me. I put my hands back in my pocket. I refuse to let her drive. My buddy says drop her off and give her the keys so I agree. I drive her to her friends and not a word is said. I hand her her keys, make sure she gets inside, and drive off.
Now what do I do? Do I forgive her for saying all of those hurtful things. I don't think I can, she was trying to hurt me inside the best she could and it worked.
Should I file for a divorce? I love her, but I didn't do anything to deserve this. I encouraged her to spend time with her friends.
Well my night just went to hell. It was a shitty day so what did I expect. Maria got home wasted. She was a happy drunk, but could barely stand. Then she wants to go over to a friends house. A friend of hers that I got into an arguement is there so I don't want to go. I admit it, I was totally out of line and said something that was meant to be a joke but it came out so wrong. I have said much worse so I didn't think she'd care, plus I was FUBARed. I tried to apologise because I was truely sorry, but she hung up on me. I was pissed that she wouldn't accept my apology so the more I thought about it the madder I got.
ANYWAY...back to the story. I didn't want to go there and I knew her friend didn't want me over so why push the issue. Maria got pissed. So then she wanted to drive, and I wasn't going to let her. No fucking way, she means too much to me. So we started fighting about that. She was telling me how much she hates me, what a fuckup I am, how she is going to move out tomarrow, etc. I wasn't going to say anything hurtful that I would regret, but what she said was fucking cruel. So she decides to walk off somewhere and we don't live in the best walking at night neighborhood so I went after her. I had hidden both of our keys so she couldn't drive and kill herself, so I locked the front door since I leave the backdoor open sometimes when Bear is in the house. I get about two blocks away and she is walking back, calling me a fucking psycho and a worthless peice of shit. Wasn't I just going after her so nobody would hurt her? We get back to the house and all the doors are locked. She thinks this is some kind of game and I did it on purpose. Once again the names start, telling me I'm psycho, she says I have mental problems but I'm not the one freaking out cause I'm butt wasted. She starts hitting me, and rips my shirt. I put my hands in my pockets so she knows I'm not threatening her. We crawl in through a window. More names are called, alot more. She calls her mom, but she doesn't answer(that was fucking mature). I call her friend that she was out with and ask her what the fruck she did to my wife, they talk, Maria calms down, I agree to stay in the bedroom and she'll stay on the couch.
My roomate walks in and it all starts up again. I will not give her the keys. I agree to drive her over to her friends house and drop her off so she won't drive. She wants me to go with her and I said I will if she apologises for saying what she called me, she refuses. We walk outside and she starts in about the keys again, I walk back inside. Fuck, I was trying to do what she wanted. I unlock the door and she rips the alarm remote off my keychain and throws it at me. I put my hands back in my pocket. I refuse to let her drive. My buddy says drop her off and give her the keys so I agree. I drive her to her friends and not a word is said. I hand her her keys, make sure she gets inside, and drive off.
Now what do I do? Do I forgive her for saying all of those hurtful things. I don't think I can, she was trying to hurt me inside the best she could and it worked.
Should I file for a divorce? I love her, but I didn't do anything to deserve this. I encouraged her to spend time with her friends.