I need some help bro's, my wife had cheated on me.

[Bikini Mod]

Mandinka - I feel you. I think that any woman who would keep a man's children from him out of spite should be beaten, drawn, quatered and the shot in the head. PERIOD - END OF STORY - NO EXCUSE!

Even if she never receives A DIME OF SUPPORT FROM HIM SHE SHOULD NEVER EVER KEEP THE CHILDREN FROM HIM... EVER.

A. It is WRONG - PERIOD. (Just because what he may be doing by imposing financial hardship out of spite is wrong, THAT DOESN'T MAKE HER BEING A TOTAL CUNT ANYMORE RIGHT.)

B. It will hurt the children as he is their one and only father.

C. It will inevitably HURT HER because anything that hurts her children SHOULD AND WILL HURT HER.

C. Why on earth would any one in their right mind make a martyr out of an asshole (which is EXACTLY what a woman is doing IF she keeps her children from a man who IS an asshole.)? Children are smart and sadly no matter how much they love a parent, when they see how nasty one is being to another REGARDLESS of whether there is "justification" or not - THEY WILL GROW TO HAVE CONTEMPT FOR THE PARENT THAT IS BEING AN ASSHOLE... OR THEY WILL JUST HATE BOTH. Why would any parent WANT to raise their children with hate?

Sadly, I have far too much experience in this arena. I have never kept my girls from their dad and I NEVER WILL - EVER. Regardless of what a prick he is to me - HE IS A LOVING FATHER. How his treatment of me will affect the way the girls feel about him IS ON HIM and is not for me to even TRY to taint.

I certainly hope that though few women have posted on this thread MANY HAVE READ IT. Far too many women have said to me, "Why are you being so nice to him and letting him have the kids so much when he is being SUCH AN ASS TO YOU?".... The answer is clear and it is simple.

HE IS THEIR ONE AND ONLY FATHER. HOW MY GIRLS FEEL ABOUT HIM IS ALL ON HIM AND NOT FOR ME TO EVEN TRY TO INTERFERE.

I can and do earn my own money. Though it isn't nearly what we need. It is all good because it is only temporaty. I have help from my family and some friends. The rest I leave up to the universe.

Whatever energy ye send out will be returned ye threefold.

I choose to send out positive.... This helps me to deal with WHATEVER the universe sends my way.

 

[dballer]

Spectre..

I wish you good luck. I did dump my girlfriend last night. I found out she lied to me for the 2nd time. She did not cheat on me.. it had nothing to do with that. But the fact is that someone who tells lies to the person they claim to love.. is basically a worthless person that I can do without.

I really feel sorry that this all has happened to you. Life is hard enough without all of this crap. I hope that whatever you end up doing makes YOU happy. None of our opinions are forced on you... just ideas. It is your decision. Whatever you do... make sure you are happy.

Good luck and let us know if you need anything else!!

 

[JohnyJuice]

I dont mind the sun sometimes, the images it shows. I can taste you on my lips and smell you in my clothes. Cinnamon and sugary and sweetly spoken lies... you never know just how you look through other peoples eyes.

 

[gotmilk]

But the fact is that someone who tells lies to the person they claim to love.. is basically a worthless person that I can do without.

Tru Dat! It's the little lies that turn into bigger lies as they realize they can get away with the little lies. Bummer but it works out.

Good luck Spectre....the good news is that professional counselors often recognize bullshit answers and you'll know the truth soon enough.

You're fighting the odds...but I hope it works out for you in the end.

 

[LawJigga]

Whats her Number

Hey Picture this

1. Picture Your wifes face as she reachs Orgasim! She has already sucked this guy off, so I mean, what more ... she needs her own joy.

2. 6 Months or 1/2 a year, not bad. She msut have been really vulnerable! Can I have your wife's number next time, who knows whats gong to happen in the future

3. Picture the dude who is boning your wife! Go for it!

 

[Baoh]

I am not sure what you mean by this???

I am not giving in or being reactionary.. It's just way too soon to make the call on a life long decision. Besides, I need the time to get some things squared away as well as I stated before. I still would like the counseling for myself and possibly learn allot to make #2 work that much better.

If I make a big mess I will cause myself more problems than playing it cool.. It's a game of poker really.

Again, I don't have a clue as to what you are implying. Peace

I'm glad you are getting things squared away. Financially, I mean. Also, work with a divorce lawyer ASAP. Get things rolling and dominate the situation.

However, the act of counseling here is not necessary. If it costs money or time, it is costing too much. No need for counseling to "learn" anything. You have been wronged, and you didn't do anything to bring this upon yourself. She was wrong. There's no rationalizing that FACT away. You were working. Providing. What did you get? Think about that, in case you haven't.

Poker, it may be, but you have no need for counseling. It could sway you over time, and to have you lose sight of what should be done would be an utter tragedy.

 

[JohnyJuice]

I'm glad you are getting things squared away. Financially, I mean. Also, work with a divorce lawyer ASAP. Get things rolling and dominate the situation.

However, the act of counseling here is not necessary. If it costs money or time, it is costing too much. No need for counseling to "learn" anything. You have been wronged, and you didn't do anything to bring this upon yourself. She was wrong. There's no rationalizing that FACT away. You were working. Providing. What did you get? Think about that, in case you haven't.

Poker, it may be, but you have no need for counseling. It could sway you over time, and to have you lose sight of what should be done would be an utter tragedy.

great post

 

[atlantabiolab]

I'm glad you are getting things squared away. Financially, I mean. Also, work with a divorce lawyer ASAP. Get things rolling and dominate the situation.

However, the act of counseling here is not necessary. If it costs money or time, it is costing too much. No need for counseling to "learn" anything. You have been wronged, and you didn't do anything to bring this upon yourself. She was wrong. There's no rationalizing that FACT away. You were working. Providing. What did you get? Think about that, in case you haven't.

Poker, it may be, but you have no need for counseling. It could sway you over time, and to have you lose sight of what should be done would be an utter tragedy.

This whole thread has evolved into the reality of why marriage is a dying institution: the devaluation of "value", the diminishment of virtue, the destruction of rational self-interest.

We would rather put more effort into learning about drugs to enhance physical appearance than to learn about one of the most important institutions in human life. We place more emphasis in maintaining a new car, than we do in developing human relationships. We have devalued the idea of person to where family members are disposable, no chance for redemption, no concept of atonement, simply excision of that which causes us discomfort. Do we discard our children when they cause us grief? Why not? We have no qualms with discarding our spouses, why not take the concept to complete fruition? Would we be so certain about the correct actions for others, if this situation would have been ourselves and the husband and wife were called "mom" and "dad"?

There is no discrepancy in the trend of devaluation of "values", society has been headstrong on this path for decades now. Person is no longer a term that connotes significance, value, acheivement, now it simply is defined by defect, mistake, and hinderance. Our mentality of entitlement has enforced the belief that we "deserve" happiness, as if it can happen with no effort, instead of earn or acheive happiness. And when happiness is not granted us, like a 5 year old child, we demand that it is given to us, for we exist and that is all that matters.

Man stumbles on his road in life, through poor choices and beliefs, what right do we have to not allow him to pick himself up, correct his actions and reconsider his principles? Should we just cut our losses for every problem in marriage, or, like the contract that it is, expect restitution? What is six months compared to 50 years?

 

[THE SWAMI]

swamalami

 

[Baoh]

This whole thread has evolved into the reality of why marriage is a dying institution: the devaluation of "value", the diminishment of virtue, the destruction of rational self-interest.

We would rather put more effort into learning about drugs to enhance physical appearance than to learn about one of the most important institutions in human life. We place more emphasis in maintaining a new car, than we do in developing human relationships. We have devalued the idea of person to where family members are disposable, no chance for redemption, no concept of atonement, simply excision of that which causes us discomfort. Do we discard our children when they cause us grief? Why not? We have no qualms with discarding our spouses, why not take the concept to complete fruition? Would we be so certain about the correct actions for others, if this situation would have been ourselves and the husband and wife were called "mom" and "dad"?

There is no discrepancy in the trend of devaluation of "values", society has been headstrong on this path for decades now. Person is no longer a term that connotes significance, value, acheivement, now it simply is defined by defect, mistake, and hinderance. Our mentality of entitlement has enforced the belief that we "deserve" happiness, as if it can happen with no effort, instead of earn or acheive happiness. And when happiness is not granted us, like a 5 year old child, we demand that it is given to us, for we exist and that is all that matters.

Man stumbles on his road in life, through poor choices and beliefs, what right do we have to not allow him to pick himself up, correct his actions and reconsider his principles? Should we just cut our losses for every problem in marriage, or, like the contract that it is, expect restitution? What is six months compared to 50 years?

You make the implication that his actions caused hers. Personal choice remains in existence. What he did did not make her do what she did. She made her do what she did.

Your reason for responding is likely born of guilt for having made such a trangression in the past. Defend and deny, if you so choose. It won't make you correct.