I love the way my BF pushes...

[smurf2]

So ledhead and cindy arent an item anymore?

 

[cindylou]

Although I pride myself in being passive aggressive I must honestly admit this post had absolutely nothing to do with you, I actually posted it because someone messaged me saying abuse is real,so I wanted to come back and state that I didnt mean tominimize the effects of abuse in a relationship and that regardless of the cause of the abuse it's still wrong, however people (and I dont mean you or anyone specific) love walking around labeling people around them to feel better, for example my husband usually scolds me and gets mad,however he gets mad over shit that LITERALLY is my fault, it's my turn to do the dishes and I let them just pile, or it's my turn to pressure wwash the deck and I procrastinate it, or he says I'll do this thing and you do that and he'll do his and I wont do mine, so from my point of view I can say he's an asshole who is always mad and constantly scolds me, and id I try really hard I can probably fit him in a personality disorder over this, however in reality my lazy procrastination gets me in that position, truth is subjective to your own thoughts and experience, we will always feel better labeling and putting the blame on others....

As I said Im not trying to minimize the experience of others, but people have to be careful, it's not just a matter of reading criteria and thinking (from their point of view) that someone else fits it... it's not that simple... maybe we even want them to fit the description so we can find an explanation/excuse for behaviors in others we dont like/accept

You're right nan not all assholes and abusers are narcissists. It actually helps when you think they can't help it to show them a little more compassion. I assume laymen are not interested in actually diagnosing someone but acknowledging and understanding those in their lives with problems and how to cope with them. Labeling and understanding, sharing stories with others is just part of it

 

[-SD-]

that is entirely possible under normal circumstances. And you're right, the label doesn't matter, but as humans, we have to give everything a label. It's what works! If we didn't then therapists would be out of business.

Butt the rapists are always in business

 

[nangiggles]

that is entirely possible under normal circumstances. And you're right, the label doesn't matter, but as humans, we have to give everything a label. It's what works! If we didn't then therapists would be out of business.

I agree up to the red part....

 

[heliosorion]

Can't a person just be weird or a little off anymore? When I was a kid they just used the term eccentric. Now there's a disorder and a pill to cure it for everything...except for the ever present JackassToolitis. They're still working on a cure for that one.

 

[nangiggles]

Can't a person just be weird or a little off anymore? When I was a kid they just used the term eccentric. Now there's a disorder and a pill to cure it for everything...except for the ever present JackassToolitis. They're still working on a cure for that one.

I completely agree

 

[Spartacus]

Can't a person just be weird or a little off anymore? When I was a kid they just used the term eccentric. Now there's a disorder and a pill to cure it for everything...except for the ever present JackassToolitis. They're still working on a cure for that one.

I embrace it
saw too much on LSD in the eighties

 

[Spartacus]

but I'll take an y pills y ou got

 

[ledhead]

So ledhead and cindy arent an item anymore?

You better be careful about what you post! She might diagnose you with having Chronic Halitosis...

 

[cindylou]

settle down