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gotmilk
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ND....there are other hot chicks in this world....believe it or not.
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I have no reason to live....I am contemplating my departure...
- Thread starter Nobledude
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Yeah, I saw my first ex-wife a couple of years after I'd remarried... and something in the back of my mind said "Hey, that's your wife over there." Not verbally, just a shock of recognition.Nobledude said:
I took that clump of brain cells out behind the barn and gave it a whupping. "EX-wife, dammit."
It's okay to wish someone well, honor the good things you had, but know when to let go and realize that letting go of her doesn't mean letting go of your life. Hell, it took me three tries. Looks like this one's going to stick, finally, but the secret is this time I'm not gonna get cocky about it.
gotmilk
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Nobledude said:
Actually, it's not hard to get rid of as long as you start making new memories. When you are sitting around the house, you having nothing really to start with. Jobs give you people to converse with, a chance to find something else to think about.
I've been in a situation like yours. I was totally blown away by someone who I caught cheating on me. An ex of mine had to take a 13 week assignment in a small town, about 800 miles from me. I never once had any reason to even think she was cheating on me. We were already making plans to get married and one day I had this weird feeling about a previous phone call I had made to her apartment. I called her place at 7:55 am knowing she was already at work. Some guy answered her phone. I called back and he answered again. I left a message with the guy to have her call "gotmilk" when she came home. 12:10 PM and my phone rings. Remember, I left a message with the guy who answered the phone. The first thing out of her mouth was that I must have dialed the wrong number...twice.
5 years of a relationship down the drain because someone thought she might be too involved. She went out drinking with her neighbor, became so drunk she somehow mysteriously had sex with the guy.
I jumped in my car and drove like 90 mph from Maine to Virginia to knock this fucks head in. Ended up getting arrested (the neighbor's Dad was the County Sheriff), a speeding ticket on the way home, and just became so frazzled for 5 months that one night I tried to cram myself into a telephone pole.
I realized what a turd I was dating when she didn't even have the courtesy to check on me after my accident. All our "in-common" friends did.
The more you sit and think about it, the more sick you make yourself. I totally blew the warning signs thinking it would get better again and it does not. You have to make it better yourself. By the way, I'm sure your field of work has openings. Cosmopolitan in Vegas is putting together staff.
These are not good enough reasons to stop living.
I'm not going to tell you it's wrong or selfish to not want to live, I get it - I've considered it and decided otherwise. Sometimes you feel like you just can't go on and the mere act of breathing is suffocating but I'm telling you this woman, this situation, that would be such a waste to make such a permanent decision on.
I will say this once you've reached the end of the very bottom of your worst feelings, you get the flickerings of light and some hope for something new to come into your life, you have to let it in, you'll start to fight back, begin to find your self worth and realize that people, possessions and memories are not the things that give you worth.
Sometime you have to fail, fall down and lose it all to see what is right in front of you.
Embrace it don't succumb to it.
I'm not going to tell you it's wrong or selfish to not want to live, I get it - I've considered it and decided otherwise. Sometimes you feel like you just can't go on and the mere act of breathing is suffocating but I'm telling you this woman, this situation, that would be such a waste to make such a permanent decision on.
I will say this once you've reached the end of the very bottom of your worst feelings, you get the flickerings of light and some hope for something new to come into your life, you have to let it in, you'll start to fight back, begin to find your self worth and realize that people, possessions and memories are not the things that give you worth.
Sometime you have to fail, fall down and lose it all to see what is right in front of you.
Embrace it don't succumb to it.
Longhorn85
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Nobledude said:
You simply have to man up and shake that shit off, period. Instead of wallowing in self-pity focus on all you have to look forward to in life. Envision where you could be 10, 20 years from now.
Nobledude
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mine is second try....I thought it would be the last one...digger said:
She is a a kind and hard working lady....a great mom and good housekeeper. She showed a lot of kindness towards me and she care for me when I was in crutches for more than 3 months...
It is hard not to appreciate her good nature....
I admit that my ego and my cockiness drove her away...she warned me several times that I destroy everything if I continue to behave like an asshole
I didnt care , I thought I was invincible....now I am down....and I can barely crawl....
Bikini Mod
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Nobledude said:
Well then consider this a wonderful life lesson because it is NEVER too late to begin again. But remember, the lessons that you are taking from this situation are YOURS ALONE. She will learn her own lessons in her own good time.
FOCUS ON YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER and everything else will fall into place. I promise you.
Little by little, one day at a time...
UncleBee
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Bro, BELIEVE me when I say I can empathize with your situation, as alot of us can. Two years ago I lost my fiance' right after a deployment and to this day have soo many questions of why and how, but no answers. I can say that time does help, but not a quick fix like you hope to have. Everyday that you wake up and feel that your life sucks and you want it all to stop, all the pain, all the humiliation, everything that has gone wrong is one day closer to NOT feeling those feelings anymore. I can also say that keeping busy IS very helpfull, but it toke me over a year to get the ambition and thoughts off my mind to get up and do something to keep my mind and emotions at bay. It is never gone, but very subdued. Nevertheless, YOU are already on your way! THAT IS A GOOD THING! You have already been through the worst of it although you don't realize it. Exercise. Dream Big. If you were the one who left for someone else, would you want the one you left to feel like this? I know, you 'll say , "But I would never do that" How do you know what could of or what could be in the future. If you did you wouldn't be where you are. Just think, what would you have done if your daughter wanted to off herself? Keep on keeping on and remember that everyday that goes by and you are still here is one day or 1/2% closer to not feeling that way at all.
