I have no reason to live....I am contemplating my departure...

[jack sparrow]

How to stop wanting her:

Quit sleeping in the same bed.
Quit using the washroom when she's in it.
Quit touching/hugging/holding her.
Treat her as an administrative assistant or someone else you work with. Be professional.
Get an evening job - so when she's home with the daughter, you're out working.
Spend as little time as possible in her company - only what is needed to make the plans for your daughter.
Every time you start to think about sex with her, do something else mentally or physically . . whatever distracts you.

Have you talked to a lawyer? What are your custody options if she leaves you?

Is she supporting the household right now? If so, what are your options for making enough money to support you and your daughter without her?

And, most important, ARE YOU GOING TO LET HER WIN? If you off yourself, she wins. She will have succeeded in taking EVERYTHING, including your future, away.

There comes a time in everyone's life that they have to make a decision. Am I going to choose life or death? If you choose life, the ups and downs, the good and bad, the length of time you've been given, then you take what you've done, what's been done to you and the future possibilities and DO WHATEVER IT TAKES. You ride the hair off that horse, you refuse to LET someone else make your decisions for you, you decide that GOD DAMN IT I AM GOING TO LIVE and NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS I'll ride this train. I'll see the sunrise over the pyramids of Egypt, run the sands of the Sahara, climb the Himalayas, kayak the fjords of Norway, "sail beyond the sunset" and live for as long as I live.

When depression strikes, you take the bull by the horns - go back to the psych, go the the doctor and get the meds to deal with it, go make some new friends, do whatever it takes to live well. After all, the best revenge is living well!

If you decide not to choose life, then eventually some 'circumstance' will come along . . and it/she/he/them will win because ALL of us deal with pain at some time. "I've been there - that's why I'm here." I've chosen life - no scum-of-the-earth is going to take MY life away from me.

Or you could just man up and stop being a pussy.

 

[GUARDIAN]

Or you could just man up and stop being a pussy.

+1

 

[SaladFork]

Or you could just man up and stop being a pussy.

+1

 

[eddymerckx]

dude jesus!!!!!!!! its weird telling this coming froma person that has went through this...IT GETS BETTER!!!! You are better then her.PM me

been on the edge myself truth ne told--^^he ain't lyin' it gets better---much much better. I don;t know you so no reason to lie--bro, trust us^^highs, lows., but man, life works out

 

[Sub-Zero]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lt6PVVr4B04

 

[all the whey]

been on the edge myself truth ne told--^^he ain't lyin' it gets better---much much better. I don;t know you so no reason to lie--bro, trust us^^highs, lows., but man, life works out

Bro, tell him about your younger hotter wife and how much better in shape you are.

(Don't tell him she only gives you a $55 dollar weekly allowance though)

 

[seaking420]

everyone goes through grief in their lives...........thats how you appreciate the highs in life. I was depressed myself for the first time in my life about a year ago.......thought about alot of different things.....even offing myself......i think everyone has that thought at least once in their life.........but most dont and live on and go onto enjoying the rest of their life.
It will get better..........remember you have control of your life....do what you want with it.....done let other people control it

 

[javaguru]

Why don't men listen to my advice. You have a child, that's the end of discussion....

That being said, we've all been there, I'm divorced and I've posted it before. Men who genuinely care suffer much more in these situations. If you genuinely care then you probably did nothing wrong, she has convinced you that she left you for something you did, even though she is a scandalous slut. You let her lead you into this...."reality." She didn't do "anything?" I'm sorry you are down at this level...it will get better..especially when you realize there is life beyond a relationship. Trust me, I'll find your ass in hell and kick it if you do it.....

 

[all the whey]

Why don't men listen to my advice. You have a child, that's the end of discussion....

That being said, we've all been there, I'm divorced and I've posted it before. Men who genuinely care suffer much more in these situations. If you genuinely care then you probably did nothing wrong, she has convinced you that she left you for something you did, even though she is a scandalous slut. You let her lead you into this...."reality." She didn't do "anything?" I'm sorry you are down at this level...it will get better..especially when you realize there is life beyond a relationship. Trust me, I'll find your ass in hell and kick it if you do it.....

I listen to you java!

And, I apprectiate your effort to help the younger guys.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I didn't read that he wasn't good to her. I guess that must have come out somewhere after page 3 or 4 when I skipped to the last. This was her ex b/f right? More than likely she's been carrying a torch for him the whole time.

And smurf, I stand by that statement........there's some things that not even children are worth putting yourself through. The situation that I described would twist a man's soul horribly over time. THose are the kind of situations where the police are called only to find the entire household dead.......think about that. Better to take off than to put yourself to that.

You mean like having your ex steal your children, your life and try to take your freedom then have that ex abuse your children daily while there isn't A FUKKIN THING YOU CAN DO FOR YEARS?

Please spare me.

It ain't that bad.

Sorry, but no other human being is worth taking your life and taking you away from your children over.

NO ONE... not the man you loved faithfully for 13 years who gave you a beat down and cheated on you over...

NO ONE.