Yeah, Vballplayer, I hear ya. You're right. People think that they're just joking around, but others hear it, and it creates a climate where bashing someone in seems "reasonable".
When I lived in San Francisco, I didn't go anywhere without a police whistle around my neck.
And I broke up a couple of assaults with it, some guy getting beat up by the local tuffs,
They hightail it pronto when they hear a police whistle.
The straights around here have never had to experience stuff like that, so they don't see it as anything but a joke.
Actually, you just hit on our worst problem.
We are our worst problem, by remaining closeted.
Problem is, most straight people swear they don't know any gay people, and that allows them to believe we're ogres.
The more we come out, people realize they know gays and are already friends with them, the climate of violence goes down.
Problem is, guys like dballer mistake that for "flaunting" and "recruiting" and "demanding special rights".
Truth is, when you're gay, just existing is political activism.
Hey! Bullit! Don't be so straight!