I can't get into dating again...

[binö]

lol ut oh.

Was he being mean?

no, i don't think i was...just felt like i was arguing for the sake of arguing

 

[binö]

Damn, some of you guys are pretty freaking harsh.

The fact that she has her infant son in bed with her is not a problem. Why would it be? If she is comfortable with him there then... so? If the child is still there when he is 6 (unless it is a matter of economy which sometimes life has a way of doing that to people) then I would raise an eyebrow but even then, WTF am I to pass judgment if it is working FOR THEM?

As for her boinking another adult consentually.... so? She is a grown woman supporting herself and her son. She doesn't need to give explanations to anyone - period.

Ms Heatherrae - I can completely understand your feelings. You want a particular component of an adult relationship (sex, which is a very strong biological urge) but aren't ready to give/risk all of yourself and that is why you are opting for these types of infrequent situations. As for dating... what's the rush? No one WANTS to be alone forever, but your feelings of not wanting to give up any of your "mommy" time to opt for finding a perspective life partner are completely normal. So why fight them? Take this time to be YOU singular before you concentrate of finding a YOU plural.

And may I offer you a bit of unsolicited advice to avoid the BS on elite C&C? The Old Grump says, come to Texas and bring the baby. WE will gladly watch him while you go on your date here. We live in a suburb of Dallas. They have carseats for Harleys... right?

i just think that if you aren't ready to date, random sechs with a stranger you're not gonna be ready for either.

 

[Bikini Mod]

i just think that if you aren't ready to date, random sechs with a stranger you're not gonna be ready for either.

You sir, are correct.

I don't believe the situation she was referring to, though was random sex with a stranger. She does have a long-distance e-thing going... Heck, ya'll know that the Old Grump and I "met" via the internet and because we were both honest, the e-getting to know one another was accurate. But that could go the other way too.

There is nothing wrong with two adults who choose to have a somewhat limited relationship but I wouldn't go betting the farm that it will turn into something more either.

 

[binö]

You sir, are correct.

I don't believe the situation she was referring to, though was random sex with a stranger. She does have a long-distance e-thing going... Heck, ya'll know that the Old Grump and I "met" via the internet and because we were both honest, the e-getting to know one another was accurate. But that could go the other way too.

There is nothing wrong with two adults who choose to have a somewhat limited relationship but I wouldn't go betting the farm that it will turn into something more either.

agree
but isn't that basically dating? i'm sure texas stud is not a complete random...basically she is low key dating someone.
which makes this thread irrelevant.
fuck it i'm out to party

 

[Bikini Mod]

agree
but isn't that basically dating? i'm sure texas stud is not a complete random...basically she is low key dating someone.
which makes this thread irrelevant.
fuck it i'm out to party

LOL The Old Grump is ragging on my ass to get it in gear to go out to ride. We will be over at Stroker's at some point (gotta drop off the bike for the repairs from when he dumped it back in October). You should check that place out... hehehehehee Sundays are always packed with THE ODDEST SORTS.

 

[heatherrae]

I had raised the issue in earlier threads about my concern for her raising a boy as a single mother; They all end up as momma's boys wanting to cuddle with mom in their teens.

Read Dr. Sears. I'm a proponent of "attachment parenting."

 

[heatherrae]

I'm confused here, hr says she can't get into dating but has no problem letting some stranger from texas fly up to hit it?
that'd doesn't make sense to me

He's not a stranger. I've known him for 15 years.

 

[myway]

Read Dr. Sears. I'm a proponent of "attachment parenting."

I hear ya. I left my baby alone with my hubby just long enough to get a hair cut and almost had an anxiety attack because I couldn't get home fast enough. I hate traffic. I don't think this attachment and dating issue has anything to do with being a "single" mother. The only reason my hubby gets to see me is because we live together.
When ur ready to make more time for urself, u will. Take ur time.

 

[heatherrae]

I just wouldn't advertise the long-distance hook-up. I can't imagine it helping her find a "non-dud", so why even mention it?

And yes, if I were in that situation even as a male I wouldn't mention it either. If you were looking for someone "quality", that person knowing you had a fuck-buddy sure can't help and would most likely hurt your search.

I like him more than a "fuck buddy." I have genuine feelings for him, and he has proven to be a good friend to me and Devin. There is just distance between us that isn't going to change soon. I like my job here in Ky, and he likes his in Texas. So, we just date.

The point wasn't that I needed sex that badly that it was just a hookup.

The point is that I don't have TIME for a regular full time BF thing or to try to date around to find it. So, I have a long distance fella.

 

[mrplunkey]

I like him more than a "fuck buddy." I have genuine feelings for him, and he has proven to be a good friend to me and Devin. There is just distance between us that isn't going to change soon. I like my job here in Ky, and he likes his in Texas. So, we just date.

The point wasn't that I needed sex that badly that it was just a hookup.

The point is that I don't have TIME for a regular full time BF thing or to try to date around to find it. So, I have a long distance fella.

Sounds like a distance BF then! Especially if you aren't really "dating" anyone else.