I am hurt! I have been cheated on...

[Grumpy Old Man]

well, yea, but I dont want to get stuck in the blockstart...I have to start running towards a cleaner head..

On another note, she is a hot woman and that makes it even tougher not to want her ass anymore. Our sex life used ot be very good and I always enjoyed having sex with her!..

I need to get myself emotionally detached but I dont know how to do it.

If you have sex with yourself it can be enjoyable too. It will also help you fall in love with yourself.

This means sex doesn't make you emotionally attached. Let her go bro, move on and find someone that you like, start again. Good luck!

 

[puddlemonkey]

I dunno if that is the answer, but it couldn't hurt... could it?

Works for me.

 

[binö]

bro, i couldn't read more than a first few posts.
honestly i'm disgusted.
disgusted that a woman has beaten you up so bad and confused you enough that she has been able to make YOU feel guilty for her getting fucked by some romanian sleaze/dutch bag.
She did the deed, it's not your fault, don't buy into that bullshit that woman play when the slut around.
they always try to make it your fault.

 

[Bikini Mod]

bro, i couldn't read more than a first few posts.
honestly i'm disgusted.
disgusted that a woman has beaten you up so bad and confused you enough that she has been able to make YOU feel guilty for her getting fucked by some romanian sleaze/dutch bag.
She did the deed, it's not your fault, don't buy into that bullshit that woman play when the slut around.
they always try to make it your fault.

Her behavior is NOT his fault. But he does accept responsiblity for his role in the demise of their relationship. <---- there is a HYUGE difference.

 

[binö]

Her behavior is NOT his fault. But he does accept responsiblity for his role in the demise of their relationship. <---- there is a HYUGE difference.

regardless of who is the offending party, the person that fucks/get's fucked is responsible 100% for the demise of the relationship.
there is no debating this in my eyes.
you wanna fuck/get fucked somebody else then end it before

 

[wootoom]

HH make me happy

 

[puddlemonkey]

regardless of who is the offending party, the person that fucks/get's fucked is responsible 100% for the demise of the relationship.
there is no debating this in my eyes.
you wanna fuck/get fucked somebody else then end it before

Yeah, if there are problems in the relationship either work them out or leave. No other respectable options.

 

[Bikini Mod]

regardless of who is the offending party, the person that fucks/get's fucked is responsible 100% for the demise of the relationship.
there is no debating this in my eyes.
you wanna fuck/get fucked somebody else then end it before

I never defended her behavior but what YOU are failing to see is that SHE DID LEAVE... I am thinkin maybe that Nobledude didn't realize or want to admit it at the time. I mean, hell he was asking her to have another baby even though she has slept with another man!

Case in point... I kicked my ex out when he beat me up. I never EVER told him that we had a snowball's chance in hell, told him to do whatever he wanted to do because WE WERE OVER AS HUSBAND AND WIFE WITH NO HOPE OF RECONCILIATION EVER.... Yet that sorry bastard to THIS DAY thinks that he will somehow get me back, just so that he can "torture me for having the balls to leave."

Nobledude is hurting. We can see that. But rather than blame his fiancee for her choices (which I believe are extremely poor. I mean WTF is she doing lowering herself to be with a man who chose to marry someone who WAS NOT her?) he should focus on making himself the best man for :

A - his own sake.

B - the sake of his child.

That is all I am saying.

This woman is clearly not a good choice for HIM. No need to put her down as her choices will lead to her own unhappiness. I mean, even Nobledude admitted that he did not treat her well.

Seems to me that she has no clue what love is...

Nobledude need love himself FIRST, then he will undoubtedly raise his standards.

 

[binö]

Yeah, if there are problems in the relationship either work them out or leave. No other respectable options.

this infuriates me cause i was once a victim of a cheating gf...and of course she blamed me for spreading her legs and inserting a penis in her vag.
and of course i swallowed her bulllshit and blamed myself like a faggot.
never again

 

[puddlemonkey]

this infuriates me cause i was once a victim of a cheating gf...and of course she blamed me for spreading her legs and inserting a penis in her vag.
and of course i swallowed her bulllshit and blamed myself like a faggot.
never again

I've been the one they've cheated with countless times. Have gone out of my way to be that guy on many occasions. For years I felt that if I was the other guy then I already know they are a liar and cheat and I'm not the one who has to worry about them being faithful. Its given me trust issues though.