how to cope

[Gymgurl]

First and foremost........go to the gym or run or do something that will help relieve some stress. Second....go see a counselor. You have had way to much grief to try to work through this alone! You are NOT responsible and your gf is a jerk for breaking up with you in the middle of all this stuff. So my professional advice (yep used to do this for a living lol) is to please go see someone to help sort all this out! The gf issue is one that I can't tell you why it happend, sure picked a horrible time for it. But maybe she can't deal with stress and what you are going through...she is young.

So.....1. Get active
2. Find a good counselor

 

[DIVISION]

will let u know how it went soon, most probably will write the letter tonight

I wish you the best of all things, please let us know how things turn out.

DIV

 

[future1]

i went to see a councellor but not really helpfull though

 

[future1]

oh shit, i am just at work and i dnt know i have this feeling in my stomach and suddenly threw up in the bathroom. anyway ever had that feeling.

 

[DIVISION]

oh shit, i am just at work and i dnt know i have this feeling in my stomach and suddenly threw up in the bathroom. anyway ever had that feeling.

Yes.

I upped the chuck in traffic.....if you think it's bad in the bathroom, imagine throwing up out a car door in bumper 2 bumper action.....

DIV

 

[future1]

it is kind of fucked cause i did not eat anything either so was throwing just water. i dunno i feell soooscared or i dunno that feeling like the world is going to end....thought by going to work it will help me but it is not happening

 

[Culero]

Love is not supposed to be painful. There is pain involved in any relationship but if it is painful most of the time then something is not working.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship - it is natural and healthy. There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship that will last forever - expecting it to last forever is what is dysfunctional. Expectations set us up to be a victim - and cause to abandon ourselves in search of our goal.

If we can start seeing relationships not as the goal but as opportunities for growth then we can start having more functional relationships. A relationship that ends is not a failure or a punishment - it is a lesson.

As long as our definition of a successful relationship is one that lasts forever - we are set up to fail. As long as we believe that we have to have the other in our life to be happy, we are really just an addict trying to protect our supply - using another person as our drug of choice. That is not True Love - nor is it Loving.

 

[future1]

u r right culero. if it is true love then it will happen otherwise it is not.
I just wish life was easier....

 

[future1]

I would like to sincerely thank everyone for their support. I never thought i would get that many replies. It is really nice to know there are people enough to care about some guy and spend time replying to him.
My best wishes for everyone. Thank you again

 

[SCK]

Love is not supposed to be painful. There is pain involved in any relationship but if it is painful most of the time then something is not working.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship - it is natural and healthy. There is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship that will last forever - expecting it to last forever is what is dysfunctional. Expectations set us up to be a victim - and cause to abandon ourselves in search of our goal.

If we can start seeing relationships not as the goal but as opportunities for growth then we can start having more functional relationships. A relationship that ends is not a failure or a punishment - it is a lesson.

As long as our definition of a successful relationship is one that lasts forever -we are set up to fail. As long as we believe that we have to have the other in our life to be happy, we are really just an addict trying to protect our supply - using another person as our drug of choice. That is not True Love - nor is it Loving.

I agree with you .... it's quite theoretical though.

Not sure abou this last part: "As long as we believe that we have to have the other in our life to be happy, we are really just an addict trying to protect our supply - using another person as our drug of choice."