How shy are you?

[Scotsman]

I'm almost debilitatingly shy. If I don't know someone I probably won't talk to them or I'll give simple short answers. It also takes me quite a while to warm up to anyone.

So hows about y'all.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Lestat]

it really depends. I can be shy in large groups of people i don't know, but it really just depends on my mood, I can be the exact opposite at times too,.

 

[jnevin]

I'm not really a social butterfly, but I don't have a problem meeting or talking to people at all. It's weird though. Sometimes I feel exactly the way you described and it's really not like me. Almost like a mild anxiety.

 

[curvymommy]

I'm painfully NOT shy, lol.

I make friends and swap email addys with people in line at sporting events and costco. My DH used to be so embarrassed by it. Now that he knows it's just how I am it brings us a TON of friends and business.

I Have grown more reserved over the years though believe it or not.

I like shy people. They listen to me a lot I don't give short answers either. Everything has a story.

 

[cindylou]

i have no clue

 

[digimon7068]

i only get st00pid around beautiful women. . .i'm not as bad as i was when i was single, but i can still be pretty goofy sometimes. . .otherwise? nah. . .i'm pretty outgoing. . .

 

[silverstar1025]

I am shy around people I don't know. Once we are introduced though it is all over. Then I am just silly and very open. I don't know why I am this way. I am ok and not as shy if I am with friends, but when I am alone I often times avoid eye contact. I don't know what my problem is. I know I am doing it and try to break it, but I cannot. I always say "today I am going to keep my head up and smile at people" never happens. Now if I am out drinking that is another story.

 

[pappad]

I am a loner type. I like to have fun but hate crowds. As I have been in the music business all my life and been on stage that is where I am most comfortable. Like at a concert I hate being in the middle of everyone. When I was in Hollywood I wouldn't go to a show unless I could watch from backstage!

 

[jnevin]

i only get st00pid around beautiful women. . .i'm not as bad as i was when i was single, but i can still be pretty goofy sometimes. . .otherwise? nah. . .i'm pretty outgoing. . .

That's me too. I've been so tounge tied (not in a good way) when I've been approached by a beautiful wimmens they must think I have palsy.

 

[SaladFork]

I'm not shy but people are stand offish cause they say I am intimidating lol.

 

[digimon7068]

That's me too. I've been so tounge tied (not in a good way) when I've been approached by a beautiful wimmens they must think I have palsy.

the first couple of weeks that i was dating my wife, i had a hard time breathing when we were in the same room together. . .thank God that shit went away. . .looking back, it was kinda cool though. . .she still gives me butterflies sometimes.

 

[jnevin]

I'm not shy but people are stand offish cause they say I am intimidating lol.

Fizzing cold sores will getcha every time.

 

[silverstar1025]

the first couple of weeks that i was dating my wife, i had a hard time breathing when we were in the same room together. . .thank God that shit went away. . .looking back, it was kinda cool though. . .she still gives me butterflies sometimes.

Aww

 

[SaladFork]

Fizzing cold sores will getcha every time.

That and the scabbies.

 

[chris302001]

I'll give simple short answers.

Same here....and then they assume Im an ass cuz I'm a bigger guy with a shaved head....

 

[puddlemonkey]

I'll talk to anyone, anywhere, and about anything.

 

[-Ariel-]

I'm not really a social butterfly, but I don't have a problem meeting or talking to people at all. It's weird though. Sometimes I feel exactly the way you described and it's really not like me. Almost like a mild anxiety.

the older I get, the more reserved I get, its not that I'm shy, shit I love talking shit in class the first day, but I'm more reserved, just more wary of people... and I can't stand big crowds... and the older I get the more anxiety I get in big crowds... the way its developing I'll be like Ricky Williams when he first entered the NFL wearing a helmet to do his interviews... IMHO this should be thread of the week...

 

[Scotsman]

Same here....and then they assume Im an ass cuz I'm a bigger guy with a shaved head....

LOL, I get that a lot too.

No one ever assumes I'm shy because I'm big and loud. When I'm around my friends I am always laughing and joking so people assume I'm really friendly and outgoing. I think they kind of get shocked when I am stand offish when approached.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[DannoMight]

its all situation pending and sometimes alcohol related. then i ain't afraid to walk around with my pants down.

 

[mountain muscle]

I am not really shy. I just don't like most people.

I figured that would be on the poll for certain.

I do get kind of loud after I warm up to someone, Just ask Beefcake and Jmo.

 

[Scotsman]

its all situation pending and sometimes alcohol related. then i ain't afraid to walk around with my pants down.

Alcohol does change this a lot for me I'm a lot more open when I've been drinking.

Now the pants thing I don't get embarassed by anything so I have done shit like that. I've dropped my pants in the middle of a bar while stone sober.LOL

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[DannoMight]

Alcohol does change this a lot for me I'm a lot more open when I've been drinking.

Now the pants thing I don't get embarassed by anything so I have done shit like that. I've dropped my pants in the middle of a bar while stone sober.LOL

Cheers,
Scotsman

Man I'm glad I'm not the only one

 

[Mr. dB]

This thread just got real scary.

 

[DannoMight]

This thread just got real scary.

Its all good just have a drink and stay a while.

 

[Scotsman]

Man I'm glad I'm not the only one

LOL, I have a big band tattooed around my right thigh so every once in a while some girl will challenge me to show her so I do.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[dirty~d~]

I'm a wallflower.

 

[Spartacus]

I have difficulty only with the gals I'm highly attracted to
I'll go into the panic response
it's a hold over from my youth as a fat kid
and what happens is some sort of mexican standoff
chciks dont approach me

anybody,anybody else and it's all good
I have years of experience going into homes in which someone has died and I have 2 dozen people to deal with
and all the variants of the death
expected (long term illness at home under hospice care)
quick (heart attack on the kitchen floor)
violent
suicides

I mold my demeanor with the circumstances and then search for ques in the people to go with
often this is in seconds
when I knock on that door I don't know what I'm going to get
I know what's likely
(e.g. suicide)
but I still have to read quick
you can't say anything wrong and every word has to be thought out

and everybody dies
so I know everyone

 

[Scotsman]

I'm a wallflower.

If you were on the wall you'd be a mASSterpiece.















I can get more cheesy before you ask.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[dirty~d~]

If you were on the wall you'd be a mASSterpiece.















I can get more cheesy before you ask.

Cheers,
Scotsman

I would never need to ask... I already know. LOL!!

 

[velvett]

I an extremely reserved and not likely to speak unless spoken to.

I can be quite content at an event and not have said more than 10 words - I like to watch people, it satisfies my inner voyeur but I don't necessarily care for small talk.

But if I see someone I want to meet or I want to be friends with because there's something about them I like I will walk up to them and introduce myself.

I think (I know) I frustrate people at times and very often people who I am very fond of have no idea because I'm just not a big talker.

 

[Scotsman]

I would never need to ask... I already know. LOL!!

Uh huh.

BTW-I was really hoping to get your voicemail sat instead of your delirious self. I was all kinds of feisty.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[hardrock]

Never had a problem meeting new people, especially with a few drinks in me. On the other hand I can be really shy when in a big group of un knowns or unknown ladies even more so.

 

[Spartacus]

I drink so I'll be outgoing-otherwise I'd just sit there

when I used to bartend I behaved far different than my usual quiet self
then it was show time
I was a very involved with my customers type bartender
often encouraging to success customers to meet each other and dialog

I wore different "hats" behind the bar and was a character
what character I was that shift was how I felt and who was there
what would work

I do it here when I post as to me posting here is similar to my old bartending acts and entertaining
sometimes I'm don rickles

 

[Spartacus]

"seeing" people when they've been drinking and seeing people soon after a loved one close to them has died
you get the real mccoy
I bartended a dozen years
I'm in my 15 year as a mortician

 

[Dial_tone]

I used to be off the scale shy. I've gotten over since I got into IT. I'm constantly dealing with people so it was forced on me.

 

[Spartacus]

I used to be off the scale shy. I've gotten over since I got into IT. I'm constantly dealing with people so it was forced on me.

yeah for the intellectual it's common to keep to self
I think it's part perfectionist in the intellect
you want every exchange or potential exchange to be "right"

 

[Spartacus]

or more salient than being "right"
is not making a mistake

"if I go over there and talk to her"

 

[dirty~d~]

Uh huh.

BTW-I was really hoping to get your voicemail sat instead of your delirious self. I was all kinds of feisty.

Cheers,
Scotsman

LMFAO! I was so out of it I thought I was dreaming... er, having a nightmare. I had to go through my call log the next day just to verify that I actually talked to you.

I'll remember to turn my phone off next time. Give me a heads up text before you get to the bar.

 

[sparkie34]

Overly outgoing. I have the type of job that requires me to meet new people all day long.

 

[-Ariel-]

or more salient than being "right"
is not making a mistake

"if I go over there and talk to her"

So true... thats why I'm glad I've made an ass out of myself so many times, been overeager so many times, and blown it to decondition myself get over that voice that reeks of self importance... hard voice not to listen to though.
Can be so convincing at times.. but he's cost me too much

 

[Scotsman]

LMFAO! I was so out of it I thought I was dreaming... er, having a nightmare. I had to go through my call log the next day just to verify that I actually talked to you.

I'll remember to turn my phone off next time. Give me a heads up text before you get to the bar.

LOL, you sounded like you had no idea who you were talking to.

If I send you a heads up text then I can't very well suprise you now can I?

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Spartacus]

So true... thats why I'm glad I've made an ass out of myself so many times, been overeager so many times, and blown it to decondition myself get over that voice that reeks of self importance... hard voice not to listen to though.
Can be so convincing at times.. but he's cost me too much

it's not self-importance
for me it's more about having the right intro and to avoid the come on approach
I hate the idea that I'm coming on to a chcik

so I'll bide my time and wait for a better angle
and even then when I'm satisfied it's time
I don't go

 

[Stefka]

It really varies for me. Some days I'm super social and some days I get uncomfortable if someone even looks at me.
I can get over my shyness and meet fun people and have a fantastic time, but I have to get in the right mindset as it takes work.

 

[vansmack2000]

dialing the digits to ask for a first date can be a tough one

 

[calveless wonder]

if i'm not feeling right about something or i'm insecure (know that i'm looking bummy etc) i keep alot more to myself. when i'm looking and feeling good, i'm pretty outgoing.

it varies though, sometimes i get anxiety for no reason.

i'm awesome with strangers though (moreso with a little alcohol)

 

[-Ariel-]

it's not self-importance
for me it's more about having the right intro and to avoid the come on approach
I hate the idea that I'm coming on to a chcik

so I'll bide my time and wait for a better angle
and even then when I'm satisfied it's time
I don't go

I agree, I see that, I dunno whether its a cultural thing where flip women are vain, and the men even vainer...

too many times I've came in just reeking of self exuberance and then shot down, I've gotten a little wiser, but the best times are when I'm able to actually just connect... I don't care with who... that feeling of being understood, making the self known is why we are alive.

you are right, i think you lose a lot of the total experience of actually meeting people when you put the seduction hat, it does cheapen things... but who actually knows that at 23-27. If they do, thats a very wise kid.

 

[PICK3]

I'm shy around Mo's

 

[AztecWarrior]

I'm anything but shy.

 

[Longhorn85]

Mrs Longhorn says I am good at engaging all kinds of people. I like to talk and listen and I'm openly curious.

 

[Mr. dB]

Dealing with strangers gives me social anxiety, but I can be gregarious if I'm in my comfort zone.

 

[cindylou]

Depends on the mood/day

there are days like yesterday where I'm so lonely i could die, but on those days im supershy, wont even look people in the eye, or at their face even

 

[AztecWarrior]

Depends on the mood/day

there are days like yesterday where I'm so lonely i could die, but on those days im supershy, wont even look people in the eye, or at their face even

I don't understand. Is it really that bad?? I've never been shy ever. Why you think your like this?

 

[AztecWarrior]

I'll talk to about everyone. White, black, brown, yellow, and purple. I don't give a fuck!!!!

 

[cindylou]

I don't understand. Is it really that bad?? I've never been shy ever. Why you think your like this?

I dont know? Its not all the time.

Im neither introvert or extravert.

I dont consider myself shy, but I can be really really shy on some days?

maybe it depends on what I'm wearing. lol

 

[nefertiti]

I'm almost never shy....it's really really rare. But the guy I've been seeing lately makes me blush almost every time I see him. I've never felt like such a clumsy, tongue tied fool around someone I've dated and it's completely awesome.

 

[-Ariel-]

Depends on the mood/day

there are days like yesterday where I'm so lonely i could die, but on those days im supershy, wont even look people in the eye, or at their face even

Jesus, I know its odd how it comes out of the blue, like normally you are way more social than that.. but yeah some days I feel utterly fragmented and want nothing to do with people...
You sound like that song by my name is luca...

 

[Scotsman]

I'm almost never shy....it's really really rare. But the guy I've been seeing lately makes me blush almost every time I see him. I've never felt like such a clumsy, tongue tied fool around someone I've dated and it's completely awesome.

That's a cool feeling but completely different from shyness.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[mountain muscle]

I'm almost never shy....it's really really rare. But the guy I've been seeing lately makes me blush almost every time I see him. I've never felt like such a clumsy, tongue tied fool around someone I've dated and it's completely awesome.

That is how Jmo is around all women.

 

[chris302001]

I'll talk to about everyone. White, black, brown, yellow, and purple. I don't give a fuck!!!!

It ain't easy bein green.....

 

[-Ariel-]

Only shy girls don't dig on me... thats my mantra anyways...

 

[bw1]

I'm very shy, really

 

[AztecWarrior]

I'm very shy, really

BOO!!!!

 

[mustang_00]

depends on who it is. i've been "shy" twice. oddly enough it was enjoyable like a wtf rush

yawn