how honest are you...

[snacky cake]

I "never" hide anything..........that way - I can devote 100% to my significant other and they know what to expect fro me.
"timing" of "when" to spill your most intimate guts is up to you, but when you do - a real man should be able to handle it, and should be able to recoup with some things of his own........

yes, indeed.

I had a recent experience where someone really took things I shared with them about the past and turned it into a big mess.

Then, the weird thread tonight just sort of was disheartening.

It's very hard for me to just let my guard down sometimes.

The internet is easier.

woah, that was scarily honest...LOL.

 

[curvymommy]

yes, indeed.

I had a recent experience where someone really took things I shared with them about the past and turned it into a big mess.

Then, the weird thread tonight just sort of was disheartening.
It's very hard for me to just let my guard down sometimes.

The internet is easier.

woah, that was scarily honest...LOL.

 

[snacky cake]

Real quick I want to add this before I have to retire for the evening.

This is a subject close to my heart because I've learned a lot about it and me in the past couple years. I USED to have a hard time opening up because to do that also means being invested in others. It's easier not to be invested sometimes. Takes less time and you can be more selfish (fun, lol).

Now, I give friends and new people I meet subtle little clues into my life's challenges, my past, my dreams. Many times, this is all it takes for that person to open up to me a little bit too, sometimes a LOT! Then we have more in common and the more I share the more they open up the flood gates. It creates deeper relationships rather than surfacy "top this" relationships. I HATE those. They suck me dry even more than being invested.

Edited to add: I've learned the hard way to only give people information they can "handle" about me. If not, sometimes it can come back to bite you in the butt. More on that later too. I have experience there sadly.

Exactly, CM. This is how I feel too. Unless we share the little foibles, the things that make us human, it just isn't fulfilling for me. And, if I can't trust that person not to throw that stuff back at me, I can't move forward, either.

I'll be interested to read how you know how much is too much for each person. I'm a bad guage of those things.

In real life, I'm much like on EF -- very polarizing. People either absolutely LOVE me or HATE me. People are never ambivalent about me...lol.

 

[walliwalibus]

There's a answer to that, and I posted it in another thread. It's simple, Fuck 'em if they don't respect. People have your back here... I am sure. OMG (had to get it in). Just be yourself, and don't put on a act like half the people here do. So:

Is there a line? Only if you decide where it is, otherwise its open.

 

[chris302001]

I dont think it would be any fun if I wasnt honest about everything and open to people. I was concerned about things when I first came, but now that I just hang out in chat with the rest of the fatties, theres nothing to worry about!

 

[snacky cake]

I dont think it would be any fun if I wasnt honest about everything and open to people. I was concerned about things when I first came, but now that I just hang out in chat with the rest of the fatties, theres nothing to worry about!

I like fatties.

 

[walliwalibus]

Real quick I want to add this before I have to retire for the evening.

This is a subject close to my heart because I've learned a lot about it and me in the past couple years. I USED to have a hard time opening up because to do that also means being invested in others. It's easier not to be invested sometimes. Takes less time and you can be more selfish (fun, lol).

Now, I give friends and new people I meet subtle little clues into my life's challenges, my past, my dreams. Many times, this is all it takes for that person to open up to me a little bit too, sometimes a LOT! Then we have more in common and the more I share the more they open up the flood gates. It creates deeper relationships rather than surfacy "top this" relationships. I HATE those. They suck me dry even more than being invested.

Edited to add: I've learned the hard way to only give people information they can "handle" about me. If not, sometimes it can come back to bite you in the butt. More on that later too. I have experience there sadly.

Excellent post!

 

[snacky cake]

There's a answer to that, and I posted it in another thread. It's simple, Fuck 'em if they don't respect. People have your back here... I am sure. OMG (had to get it in). Just be yourself, and don't put on a act like half the people here do. So:

Is there a line? Only if you decide where it is, otherwise its open.

okay.

how about IRL? Same? More? Less?

 

[velvett]

We all have faults and those that we become intimate with over time will see our value despite them or they will simply move on.
There is no real good reason to take your faults, wrap a bright colored bow on them and present them with bells and whistles.

Just be yourself and the rest will follow.

I've said this before, but to love fully we have love someone for their imperfections before anything else.

 

[chris302001]

I like fatties.

Hi, my name is Fatty McFattington!