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Sassy69
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Isn't one of the characteristics of kids in their 2's & 3's to test the edges of their "control"? The first thing they check is "NO!" So they tell you to not ask your child if he/she wants to do whatever - instead give them choices - if they dont' pick from the choices, then tell them that's not a choice. Its this or that whatever.
It'd be interesting to see where your daughter picked up those responses -- anyway, she tried it once, and it worked. So now she's sticking with it, and of course, how cute - so you go with it for a while, so that must seem to validate it as a sufficient response in her mind. There is the point where you need to let her know that just answering with one of those two canned responses is not the way to get out of responsibilities. Here is where you need to let her know that she does not have the upper hand by providing those responses and walking away from the responsibility. I like VDL's response -- just because your daughter provides one of those responses does not mean its the end of the "negotiation" -- I think parents are compelled to try to reason with their kids or else simply just state the rules - both will result in some sort of rebellion -- either you can't "reason" w/ the kid -- they think they can forever "discuss" the solution and never actually go with what you want, or they will resent being told what to do -- you need to get buyin to a certain degree, but also maintain your authority because this is how kids learn.
Good luck!
Kids are awfully cute tho
It'd be interesting to see where your daughter picked up those responses -- anyway, she tried it once, and it worked. So now she's sticking with it, and of course, how cute - so you go with it for a while, so that must seem to validate it as a sufficient response in her mind. There is the point where you need to let her know that just answering with one of those two canned responses is not the way to get out of responsibilities. Here is where you need to let her know that she does not have the upper hand by providing those responses and walking away from the responsibility. I like VDL's response -- just because your daughter provides one of those responses does not mean its the end of the "negotiation" -- I think parents are compelled to try to reason with their kids or else simply just state the rules - both will result in some sort of rebellion -- either you can't "reason" w/ the kid -- they think they can forever "discuss" the solution and never actually go with what you want, or they will resent being told what to do -- you need to get buyin to a certain degree, but also maintain your authority because this is how kids learn.
Good luck!
Kids are awfully cute tho
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