How can I convince my friend to get an HIV test?

[Guvna]

I have a friend who has slept with 40-50 girls. He is only 21 and NEVER wears a condom. He sleeps around ALL the time. He has at least 5 girls on the hook all the time that he just goes around fucking. I am really starting to worry about him, and the girls that he could possibly be messing up. I am fairly good friends with him, but I really dont see him ever going to get tested. I think he would just get offended, and not bother anyways. Any tips for it without really letting him know what my objective is? I am going to try to get him to go donate blood with me one day, but I doubt he'll do that.

Any ideas?


thanks

 

[babybodybuilder2.5]

Depending on how good your friendships is, why not suggest that you want to go and get an AIDS test, and ask him if he would like to go with you. Then maybe you both could do it at the same time.
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[lundmaster]

Your friend is an Idiot! Tell him to grow up. Sex has a lot of implied responsibilities, and if he doesnt care about himself, he should care about others. Chances are he doesnt have it, as only 1 MILLION people in the use have it according to the lated survey. While that odds are in his favor.. Act like a friend and smack some sense into him.

Lund

 

[jriewer]

And if you do convince him to get tested and he is positive, what happens next? Do you think your friend is suddenly going to stop fucking everything that moves? Or start wearing a condom because he now knows he is poz? Your friend has no desire to know if his is poz. That kind of knowledge would cramp his style. And you’re not in control of him. You can only control your self. You can either decide you don’t want to hang out with people like him who have no regard for others, you can start to tell the girls he is banging that your friend has been around the block many times and that they should be insisting he wear protection, or you can tell your friend that you no longer care to hear about his sexual exploits as you don’t approve of how he is treating the women he fucks.
A 21 year old good looking straight boy (I assume he is good looking by the amount of ass he gets) full of testosterone and cum does not want to even remotely consider that he is susceptible to what is still considered my most to be a gay man’s disease. The best thing that could happen to him is for pick up a case of syph or clap from someone’s he’s banging. A trip to the clinic may be just the thing to sober this boy up to the real world.
Other than that, you have to decide what you need to do, not what he needs to do.

 

[alanchiras]

I agree. A trip to an ASO just might sober him up. The test might do more good for his mental health. Does this kid use sex as a way of covering up that he does not have love? It happens. Thanks! Alan.

 

[KIAN]

I am going to try to get him to go donate blood with me one day ...

If you are aware of what his current lifestyle is, then why would you even think of suggesting such a thing. He is already acting irresponsibly. There is no reason for you to be irresponsble too.

If your friend isn't concerned with his own health or the people he sleeps with then you are really wasting your time. As good as your intentions may be, it is very difficult to get a person to show the level of concern you have if they refuse to understand the high-risk lifestyle they have in the first place.

If you want to express your concerns to your friend then just be upfront and blunt about it. If he gets offended, then there will be two people in that room who are offended -- YOU and HIM .... as I am sure you don't condone his lifestyle.

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[chewyxrage]

If you are aware of what his current lifestyle is, then why would you even think of suggesting such a thing.

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cuz that would be a way to get his blood tested for hiv without actually going in specifically for an hiv test.

 

[A FREAK]

tell him "for the good times dude...and also for your own good"please take an HIV test because it will make me sleep better at night and i cant live under the suspense any more....or something along that line