help with my girl sitation

[B0ARDIN087]

i broke upw tih my girlfriend yesterday. and was planning on being with this girl i work with. well this girl has a bf of a year and a half. she is going to break up with her bf so we can be together till i go away. well......... this girl begged me the other night to kiss her, but i couldn't cheat on my gf. and today i am "single" and she has told her bf several times she wants a break. but he doesn't seem to be listening. but me and the girl went out tonight and we hooked up. so i dont know if that counts a cheating and everything but we were both raelly really happy after we did hook up. i mean i can only speak from waht she told me about how she was feeling but i was really happy.

anyway here comes the problem. her bf isnt going away. she tells him they are broken up and he really doens't listen..... hes taking her to work tomorrow and its really messed up. i know this girl doesn't want to be with her bf, but how am i supposed to help her get rid of him when she doens't want to be too mean to him......

 

[Mammoth2500]

Theres no way you can help and theres no way of dumping someone easily. Shes gotta be straight to the point and blunt about it if he hasn't gotten the picture this far.
Well i guess there is a way for you to help and thats by telling her this info

 

[B0ARDIN087]

ya im a tell her that but she keeps waivering back and forth. like i know she wnot ditch me but she is waivering back and forth about how seriously she is taking breaking up with him.

 

[UA_Iron]

she needs to cut off all contact with this guy. He'll get the hint.

 

[Mammoth2500]

give her the bang of her life then tell her soon after that its gotta be either him or you cause you feel as though it is wrong what your doing and can not keep going on like that..
Hopefully shes gonna want more of you cause you gave her the screw of her lifetime... I would also try and minimize contact with her so she can tell that she does miss you and get herself figured out.

 

[H_T_]

you guys were being idealistic and not considering the concept of other people. if she could do that to the guy she was with, she'll do it to you. maybe you don't care. lol@ being with chicks you work with. you must not like that job.

 

[Sub-Zero]

i broke upw tih my girlfriend yesterday. and was planning on being with this girl i work with. well this girl has a bf of a year and a half. she is going to break up with her bf so we can be together till i go away. well......... this girl begged me the other night to kiss her, but i couldn't cheat on my gf. and today i am "single" and she has told her bf several times she wants a break. but he doesn't seem to be listening. but me and the girl went out tonight and we hooked up. so i dont know if that counts a cheating and everything but we were both raelly really happy after we did hook up. i mean i can only speak from waht she told me about how she was feeling but i was really happy.

anyway here comes the problem. her bf isnt going away. she tells him they are broken up and he really doens't listen..... hes taking her to work tomorrow and its really messed up. i know this girl doesn't want to be with her bf, but how am i supposed to help her get rid of him when she doens't want to be too mean to him......

if she 100% doesnt want to be with him, she wont be. she doesnt have to go to work with him, and lol@ you fro believing that.

just because signfeld addresses alot of things that happen in life, it doesnt mean how it unfolds is always true.

it doesnt take 2 people to end a relationship.

fuck her in her holes (cause thats all shes good for), and then leave for college with ur head held high.

 

[UA_Iron]

you guys were being idealistic and not considering the concept of other people. if she could do that to the guy she was with, she'll do it to you. maybe you don't care. lol@ being with chicks you work with. you must not like that job.

"she is going to break up with her bf so we can be together till i go away."

its a short lived thing

 

[GoldenDelicious]

yuk

your relationships are both doomed, your first because you dumped her for someone else (plus its likely that she is as young as you are) which is a betrayal, so that one has unravelled, and your new ...'thing'...is also headed that way because 1.5 years is a LOT of baggage, plus she is wavering between you and her ex, plus you have a boyfriend who is stuck in a rut with this girl and things are primed to explode when he finds out that she hooked up with you (i get the impression he doesnt know), plus youre leaving to college putting a time limit on things in any event....

sooooo imo you dont need help with this. you need to realise that the best case scenario for you is to enjoy what little time you have with this girl in a one dimensional way without it blowing up in your face, with an angry (violent?) boyfriend, an awkward workplace, and a lost friend in your ex...though the last one is probably a given anyway.

personally ill bet a thousand karma that you lose both of them from your life, for the sake of a bit of sex...though you might be happy with that deal.

whatever you do, be considerate of your exes feelings

cheerios

 

[Sub-Zero]

personally ill bet a thousand karma that you lose both of them from your life, for the sake of a bit of sex...though you might be happy with that deal.

whatever you do, be considerate of your exes feelings

cheerios

hes going to college at the end of the summer. hes young...i dont think marraige is what hes looking for.

fuck her brains out bro, and walka way like nothing happened

 

[slickdadd]

What do you mean you hooked up? be clear and to the point? Did you guys kiss and touch each other's swimsuit areas? Or did you bend her over, ride her for 2 hours, and bust one on her earlobes? Be clear.

Also, yeah, she is totally not over this dude clearly. She would have lost him already. Bang her. enjoy it.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

hes going to college at the end of the summer. hes young...i dont think marraige is what hes looking for.

fuck her brains out bro, and walka way like nothing happened

thats not what i mean - i mean even as friends. when you do something like that to someone, they tend to start calling you a scumbag and not talk to you anymore

 

[The Red Dragon]

You sure you made the right decision? This looks very messy and way too uncertain.
If she can subvert her current boyfriend in such a manner, she can easily do the same to you

 

[Spanky11]

What do you mean you hooked up? be clear and to the point? Did you guys kiss and touch each other's swimsuit areas? Or did you bend her over, ride her for 2 hours, and bust one on her earlobes? Be clear.

Also, yeah, she is totally not over this dude clearly. She would have lost him already. Bang her. enjoy it.

I agree.

The phrase "hooked up" is thrown around far too much these days. In my day (adopting a Wodin voice over here), hooked-up means you banged the bejesus outta her. Not just holding hands, and the like.

Oh, and your relationship is doomed. Workplace things rarerly work out, and when her ex is there as well, watch out.

tooteloo

 

[patsfan1379]

bridge. jump. now.

 

[SoKlueles]

i agree with sub
Shes not broken up with him or he would have got the drift......he took her to work? What did he do? force her in the car?
shes having her cake and eating it too

 

[Raina]

I could have told you that cookie. The significant other tends not to go away. She is having her cake and eating it too. You're the cake on the side and if she has something good at home and gets to enjoy you too, why would she give up the cake at home?

 

[SoKlueles]

I could have told you that cookie. The significant other tends not to go away. She is having her cake and eating it too. You're the cake on the side and if she has something good at home and gets to enjoy you too, why would she give up the cake at home?

we are brilliant together, do you know that?
i love you
lets make babies

 

[Rex]

we are brilliant together, do you know that?
i love you
lets make babies

Just b/c Raina talks about cake and you like cake does not make you two brilliant together.

 

[SoKlueles]

Just b/c Raina talks about cake and you like cake does not make you two brilliant together.

blah blah blah

 

[Raina]

I talked about cake and cookies! I love SoKlu. She loves me for me.

I've been the cake on the side. Everyone told me "he'll never leave her". But I was in happy retarded lala land. Everyone was right.

 

[Rex]

I've been the cake on the side.

If you were cake, I'd eat you. You don't even have to be a cake actually.

 

[alien amp pharm]

What do you mean you hooked up? be clear and to the point? Did you guys kiss and touch each other's swimsuit areas? Or did you bend her over, ride her for 2 hours, and bust one on her earlobes? Be clear.

Also, yeah, she is totally not over this dude clearly. She would have lost him already. Bang her. enjoy it.

lol. Slickdadd is anxiously awaiting details with lube in hand.

 

[Rex]

Raina, in response to your karma message, that should be done daily.

 

[HiDnGoD]

i agree with sub
Shes not broken up with him or he would have got the drift......he took her to work? What did he do? force her in the car?
shes having her cake and eating it too

Yup, she's holding out with him 'til you're gone. Then they'll 'settle down' again.

 

[slat1]

LOL... she played you out. She is fucking both of you.
Too bad your not getting it from the ex any more.
She is not going to get rid of him. Even if she says she is she will still be talking to him and seeing him.
Lost cause. Get it while you can.

 

[Cutiebaby]

uhm wait a minute if she dont wanna be with him why is he taking her to work???? i think i may be a little out of touch but in reality i think she is playin yo ass!!!!!!
if she wanted him to be gone he would be gone and she wouldnt have him taking her to work......am i correct?

 

[Daisy_Girl]

LOL... she played you out. She is fucking both of you.
Too bad your not getting it from the ex any more.
She is not going to get rid of him. Even if she says she is she will still be talking to him and seeing him.
Lost cause. Get it while you can.

I agree 100%.

If she wanted him gone, she would get rid of him. Are you SURE she told him she wanted to break up (i.e., did you actually HEAR her say it)?

 

[Steve The Bluesman]

ya im a tell her that but she keeps waivering back and forth. like i know she wnot ditch me but she is waivering back and forth about how seriously she is taking breaking up with him.

Tell her to get her shit starightened out - until then, no action with you. None.

If that doesn't get the ball rolling, then she's not that into you.

It is a control issue. Right now she has control by stringing the both of you along like dogs. If you say that you are done until she gets her drama taken care of, then you have control.

Don't be led around by your dick.


Bluesman

 

[awittyusername]

Bro, she is doing one of two things

1.She has you in the pic to create drama/make her bf jealous.

2. She likes you, but she isn't going to let her ex go until she finds out if you are a step up for her on the food chain. As I look back at all my relationships when I was younger almost every girl I went out with had an ex she wanted to break up with, "just broke up" (lie), crazy ex stalker (meaning she was still fucking her)

You see...Girls are like Monkeys....(I have posted this before)

Girls swing from branch to branch. (guy to guy) However, they won't let go of the current branch until they have a good hold of the new branch. And, made sure its a strong enough branch before they swing over. If not...Well, they just swing right back to the first branch.

 

[Fajitas]

she's cheating on you.

 

[H_T_]

let the players play, eh?

 

[strangebrew]

Bro, she is doing one of two things

1.She has you in the pic to create drama/make her bf jealous.

2. She likes you, but she isn't going to let her ex go until she finds out if you are a step up for her on the food chain. As I look back at all my relationships when I was younger almost every girl I went out with had an ex she wanted to break up with, "just broke up" (lie), crazy ex stalker (meaning she was still fucking her)

You see...Girls are like Monkeys....(I have posted this before)

Girls swing from branch to branch. (guy to guy) However, they won't let go of the current branch until they have a good hold of the new branch. And, made sure its a strong enough branch before they swing over. If not...Well, they just swing right back to the first branch.

You had me at "girls are like monkeys."

 

[Sub-Zero]

i agree with sub

sig worthy

 

[B0ARDIN087]

you guys were being idealistic and not considering the concept of other people. if she could do that to the guy she was with, she'll do it to you. maybe you don't care. lol@ being with chicks you work with. you must not like that job.

im only giong to be at this job for 3 more weeks. then i go to college. so im not too worried about the job and have thought that thru.

 

[Y_lifter]

I had a similar situation with a beautiful girl with a crazy ass redneck boyfriend
that she said was her ex BF. We went out like 2 times. He saw me dropping her off.

He actually threatened to actually KILL me in the literal sense.

I was only 18 back then and I ran from that with a quickness.

 

[Lestat]

she needs to ditch this dude, why would she let him take her to work?

if she doesn't ditch him, you need to ditch her and play the field some more.

 

[B0ARDIN087]

ya...... i know its not the best situation. but i know that i dont wanan be iwth my ex. im positive of that.

as for the new girl. she has told him on the phone that she needs a break. i haev heard her say it more then once. he responds by saying i odnt know how im going to deal with that. then he keeps on calling and txt'ing her but she doesnt' pick up. eventually she does and he took her to work becuz she doesn't have another ride and he knows that. i have already told her that she needs to get this straightened out and until then im not commiting to anything. waht i want is jsut to have a fun rest of the summer with her, then go off to college single and happy. we are talking about like 30 days here, so its not such a big deal if it doesn't work out. i do believe that she is afriad to lose her bf but i know that they ahev major major problems. i think in time she will want to be with me and not him. but if she chooses him.......... who cares really........ i already hit it

 

[B0ARDIN087]

ok supposedly shes done with him completely now. i dont really care we are doing something tonight tho

 

[Whiskey]

Just do it like I did, walk up to him and tell him it's over. I had to do it once, but after we "talked" she was mine. If you don't think that approach is for you, hire a drunk at a bar to knock him out. I've seen it done

Whiskey

 

[B0ARDIN087]

Just do it like I did, walk up to him and tell him it's over. I had to do it once, but after we "talked" she was mine. If you don't think that approach is for you, hire a drunk at a bar to knock him out. I've seen it done

Whiskey

hehe its not worth getting in a fight over. shes not all that important to me but i'd be lieing if i said i dont like being with her.....

 

[big_bad_buff]

you're being played lol, she gets two guys and you get one girl....HA HA

 

[sigweed]

lol i went through the EXACT same thing... right down to the new girl "breaking things off" with her bf... let me save you the drama: she'll tell him they need a little time apart, while maintaining loose contact. After your first sign of weakness, their contact will grow considerably stronger until they're talking every day and eventually get back together. Then you're out a hottie, a girlfriend, and a good friend.

its probably too late but this is one thing i really regretted

 

[Sub-Zero]

ya...... i know its not the best situation. but i know that i dont wanan be iwth my ex. im positive of that.

as for the new girl. she has told him on the phone that she needs a break. i haev heard her say it more then once. he responds by saying i odnt know how im going to deal with that. then he keeps on calling and txt'ing her but she doesnt' pick up. eventually she does and he took her to work becuz she doesn't have another ride and he knows that. i have already told her that she needs to get this straightened out and until then im not commiting to anything. waht i want is jsut to have a fun rest of the summer with her, then go off to college single and happy. we are talking about like 30 days here, so its not such a big deal if it doesn't work out. i do believe that she is afriad to lose her bf but i know that they ahev major major problems. i think in time she will want to be with me and not him. but if she chooses him.......... who cares really........ i already hit it

if ur looking for a good time, then what do ue ven need her to leave her boyfriend for?

your being a huge pussy about this, thinking u have to offically be "bfs and gfs" to have some fun. u dont. just hang out with her, bang her if u both want it, and let her go back to her boyfriend once ur happy and single in college

 

[B0ARDIN087]

its not about being "bf and gf". i jsut dont feel like being with her and having her worry about what her bf thinks shes doing and him calling her every 2 secs while shes with him. btw whos to say shes not doing waht im dong...... and thats actually breaking up with my gf.......

 

[nycgirl]

Aren't you about to go to college? Don't worry about this one girl. Summer is almost over. Leave this situation alone and enjoy one of the last few "free" summers you have left.

 

[Spanky11]

Bro, she is doing one of two things

1.She has you in the pic to create drama/make her bf jealous.

2. She likes you, but she isn't going to let her ex go until she finds out if you are a step up for her on the food chain. As I look back at all my relationships when I was younger almost every girl I went out with had an ex she wanted to break up with, "just broke up" (lie), crazy ex stalker (meaning she was still fucking her)

You see...Girls are like Monkeys....(I have posted this before)

Girls swing from branch to branch. (guy to guy) However, they won't let go of the current branch until they have a good hold of the new branch. And, made sure its a strong enough branch before they swing over. If not...Well, they just swing right back to the first branch.

one of the best posts on c and c - ever.

and i mean it.

 

[H_T_]

bladerunner is on again.

 

[Sub-Zero]

u could try having sex with her best friend to make her jealous