I'm sorry that you two are having such crappy days...
In my life, no one says anything negative to me when I'm out. However, yesterday I was watching my 11 year old nephew and when I went to lay down on the couch, after a hard day of working, he said, "You need to lose weight." I said to him, "How rude you are." He said that he was trying to be nice. Yeah, it was very hurtful to me because no one else has ever said anything like that to me. Then today, when he was here, he sat down beside me and put his head on my arm. I asked him why he was leaning on me and he says, "You're comfy like a pillow."