Have you ever had a long term relationship disintegrate in one day?

[jh1]

i guess you've never been introduced to an age old concept called compromise? it goes both ways you know. both parties have to be willing and have to want to please the other person while at the same time maintaining a mutual respect and admiration for one another.
anyone who lets another person walk all over them or who sacrifices their own happiness for any reason is a fool.

Shuddup Bitch.

 

[Bikini Mod]

i guess you've never been introduced to an age old concept called compromise? it goes both ways you know. both parties have to be willing and have to want to please the other person while at the same time maintaining a mutual respect and admiration for one another.
anyone who lets another person walk all over them or who sacrifices their own happiness for any reason is a fool.

The HELL you say?

You mean BOTH parties have to swallow *their* pride?

Say it isn't so!!

You mean a happy relationship isn't all about the man pissing on himself in fear that the woman will not be pleased when he beats her or fucks her sister or is out all night with scandalous hos while spending the mortgage and food money at the strip clubs or when he sits around at home for the 50th MONTH in a row playing XBOX while ain't nuthin gettin dun round the house, but he is *wink* looking for a job?

Smurfy - you mean you yield too on occasion, it isn't all about YOU!?

I think the world is coming to an end....








As for the sharks, Biteme you don't have a vagina so I don't think that the brotherhood here on elite will be too harsh on you for being human and revealing any of your life's difficulties. As for the women, yes, we WILL point out the obvious if we feel so moved. But that isn't the same thing as high-fiving one another here or on the PM-circuit laughing hysterically at YOUR PAIN while life has run you over.... at least maybe they are better at publicly concealing it if they do?

meh




And as for a LTR just unraveling one day, it doesn't work like that. I like to equate it to a small leak in the roof. One day you realize that your carpet will get ruined if that little *drip* *drip* *drip* isn't addressed but there are so many other matters that need your attention and money. So you put a big barrel to catch the drips, while you pay for braces, fix the car, listen to your mate kvetch about their commute and how they hate their boss, put bandaids on skinned knees and bake 50 thousand cupcakes for the school fund-raiser of the minute.... then one day, many many many moons later the barrel bursts, furnishings destroyed and the ceiling caves in all of the sudden just ONE DAY. Now what would have cost *this much* to address and repair quite a while ago, though unpleasant would have been VERY fixable... is now maybe damaged beyond repair, no amount of time or money can repair. Or perhaps it can be fixed somewhat, will need extensive time and effort but will it ever be as good as it was before?

Men and women seem to view the same relationship with very different eyes.

Hope it works out, whatever it is.

 

[Smurfy]

Shuddup Bitch.

 

[velvett]

I think if a man needs a gauge as to how bad they have it in a relationship - may I recommend watching an episode (any episode) of Bridezillas. If you are appalled and horrified that such behavior was possible good news please change channels immediately, if you see some familiarities in with your relationship - run, run fast.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I think if a man needs a gauge as to how bad they have it in a relationship - may I recommend watching an episode (any episode) of Bridezillas. If you are appalled and horrified that such behavior was possible good news please change channels immediately, if you see some familiarities in with your relationship - run, run fast.

I've never seen it. When and what station does it come on?

That shit MUST be a put on. I find it hard to believe that ANY MAN could be oblivious enough to marry a woman that is capable of putting on a show like that for real. (I've seen some commercials, but never watched an episode.)

Shit, jumping the broom certainly had its merits... though I would still like to have a big party some time in the future when my family is whole.

 

[MichaelScott]

problems with ballet gal?>

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

The HELL you say?

You mean BOTH parties have to swallow *their* pride?

Say it isn't so!!

You mean a happy relationship isn't all about the man pissing on himself in fear that the woman will not be pleased when he beats her or fucks her sister or is out all night with scandalous hos while spending the mortgage and food money at the strip clubs or when he sits around at home for the 50th MONTH in a row playing XBOX while ain't nuthin gettin dun round the house, but he is *wink* looking for a job?

Smurfy - you mean you yield too on occasion, it isn't all about YOU!?

I think the world is coming to an end....








As for the sharks, Biteme you don't have a vagina so I don't think that the brotherhood here on elite will be too harsh on you for being human and revealing any of your life's difficulties. As for the women, yes, we WILL point out the obvious if we feel so moved. But that isn't the same thing as high-fiving one another here or on the PM-circuit laughing hysterically at YOUR PAIN while life has run you over.... at least maybe they are better at publicly concealing it if they do?

meh




And as for a LTR just unraveling one day, it doesn't work like that. I like to equate it to a small leak in the roof. One day you realize that your carpet will get ruined if that little *drip* *drip* *drip* isn't addressed but there are so many other matters that need your attention and money. So you put a big barrel to catch the drips, while you pay for braces, fix the car, listen to your mate kvetch about their commute and how they hate their boss, put bandaids on skinned knees and bake 50 thousand cupcakes for the school fund-raiser of the minute.... then one day, many many many moons later the barrel bursts, furnishings destroyed and the ceiling caves in all of the sudden just ONE DAY. Now what would have cost *this much* to address and repair quite a while ago, though unpleasant would have been VERY fixable... is now maybe damaged beyond repair, no amount of time or money can repair. Or perhaps it can be fixed somewhat, will need extensive time and effort but will it ever be as good as it was before?

Men and women seem to view the same relationship with very different eyes.

Hope it works out, whatever it is.

Women, can't kill em and can't shut em up.... OH if only sheep could cook!

 

[H_T_]

rome fell in a day....

 

[Mavafanculo]

Yes actually.

The thing was - it was only my interpretation that it happened in one day - it really had been happening for a few weeks, it was my being out of town and his ex being in bed with him when I called that made it seem to "happen in one day".

Aww, I was so naive in retrospect.

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[gotmilk]

Yes actually.

The thing was - it was only my interpretation that it happened in one day - it really had been happening for a few weeks, it was my being out of town and his ex being in bed with him when I called that made it seem to "happen in one day".

Aww, I was so naive in retrospect.

Hello. I called an ex one morning at 7:55 am knowing she was supposed to be at work.....and some dood picked up the phone. At lunch time, she had left like a dozen messages asking me to call her. When I called, she told me I must have dialed the wrong number.....so I hung up and dialed her apartment number and the dood answered again.

That was my 10 hour road trip to Virginia and another 72 hours in Mecklenberg County jail. I crushed that dood.

Within 24 hours, a long relationship just went poof