Have you ever felt like just giving up?

[calveless wonder]

While time does heal...I don't think it's a bad idea to be a little proactive about some of that healing. Rather than saying time heals all wounds I prefer to think simply that healing takes time.

Be patient with the process, but don't expect it to fix itself.

yeah. thats kinda what i was alluding to

 

[blueta2]

While time does heal...I don't think it's a bad idea to be a little proactive about some of that healing. Rather than saying time heals all wounds I prefer to think simply that healing takes time.

Be patient with the process, but don't expect it to fix itself.

some of the best advice right here

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

I still havent slept

 

[ortiz34]

How many of these pity threads can one poster make man?

Come on man! Grow a set, it ain't that bad.



"If you are going through hell, keep on going"

 

[blueta2]

I've always believed that...but now i'm not so sure.

I just feel like i'm taking steps backward in many ways and getting further away from my happiness and becoming diverted from my goals. i haven't been able to address the things in my life(functionally) that held me back and emotionally things have just gotten worse. I'm getting older and when i look at my friends lives and people around me and the expectations that others have of me, it only makes it worse. Before it was the opposite..I had the life they envied. i try to accept it as much as possible that it is not the case, but i dont know if ive completely let go

there have been times where i thought i was at peace with what happened, but my mindset has shifted so many times. Some days i'll feel guilty...some days i'll feel tons of pain, other days anger. Very rarely i'll feel like it had a true purpose and was intended to happen, but those days are not common enough.

what worries me is that this is a deep rooted problem with my beliefs and thought process. As far as how i viewed the situation, and my feelings toward the past. I felt at peace when i believed that this happened for a reason and that better things are ahead...but as more setbacks occur the further i look to the life i had and question whether i'll ever be able to get it back. This negative mindset has literally spiraled to every other aspect of my life where i'm literally paralyzed to step out of my comfort zone. Its crazy that i recognize this but as im typing this i feel like my mind has a strong grip on me and never wants that to pain to occur again, so instead it completely shuts down.

i might have to self ban myself from EF and shut off my satellite dish or something.take away all my procrastination/escape tools

CW, know one thing, no one ever takes a step back, even if it feels like it.
Every step, whether it feels good or bad, is a step forward. The past can be relived, but it's usually relived with more knowledge and wisdom.

It's self defeating and dangerous to compare yourself to how others are doing. First off, because no one ever really knows truly how someone else feels and secondly, no two people are the same.
I used to, and at times still do, compare myself to everyone else around me. All that does is make me feel toxic. I then bring back the focus to myself and realize all the great things that I am and that surround me.
For example: I may not be working right now, but I'm a good hearted soul. I may be ill right now, but I'm working towards helping others will illness.

Negativity is the poison of the mind/body. If you have to work on anything, work on that and I promise everything else will fall into place.
It's taken me therapy, reading tons of books and to live a lot more mistakes to realize how to heal. You'll get there. When I was your age, I didn't even touch on the "Why's" of life, so you're WAY ahead of most people.

If you like to read, I can suggest some great books that can help you understand the negative "dialogue" in your head.

 

[calveless wonder]

How many of these pity threads can one poster make man?

Come on man! Grow a set, it ain't that bad.



"If you are going through hell, keep on going"

lol. very ortiz like response, but very neccessary

kinda wack though. i dont give a shit about pity..its more appropriate for other people in worse situations.but i need an outlet sometimes. only augmented by the fact that i dont show this side to anyone but EF.








>---blue, hook me up with those books plz great post btw

 

[hog#head#cheese]

How many of these pity threads can one poster make man?

Come on man! Grow a set, it ain't that bad.



"If you are going through hell, keep on going"

LOL you fuckin nut

 

[ortiz34]

Not trying to be an ass
just thought this was an old bumped thread, then I realized it wasn't and went off

You gotz way to many of these threads going on bor

 

[ortiz34]

start rooting for Boston based sports teams
your life will change overnight

 

[Cutiebaby]

Absolutely.
I think that everyone reaches that far at some point in their lives. However the best way out is to forget the negatives and what not and think of all the positives.