Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below Lets say you love some girl with all your heart, and she is totally head over heels for you. But you find out about her sexual past, and it kind of bothers you... Lets say she had 3 somes (2 other guys). And lesbian relations. But it was about 2 years ago. But she says she had no feelings with any of the past relations which makes her seem like such a whore, (and she almost got pregnant from one of them). The one she almost got pregnant from moved then she moved to another state and hooked up with you about 1 month later. And she says ur the only one she ever loved this much and that she has changed. What would you think of her, would you be with her, would you trust her, would you love her...
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TxCollegeguy
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I would give it lots of time to work into things...
This is a tough one, obviously I'd want a girl who hasn't slept around a lot, but what is the cutoff point? 5 people? 10 people? I try not to judge people on thier past, just what has done since she met me. I don't even discuss these things with my girlfriends, I sure as hell don't want them knowing how many girls I've banged over the years...
THeMaCHinE
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Xalthus said:
I've done stuff sexually in the past that I wish I hadn't. The past is the past. You can't change it. Let it lie. But keep a watchful (not controlling/jealous/suspicious) eye.
You already said you love her. Loving somebody implies taking risks.
THeMaCHinE
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As an afterthought, she's done the things necessary to remove herself from the past situations. That's a good thing.
And as far as her not caring about the past relations, she probably did. But is doesn't want to threaten you/burden you with that knowledge. Or maybe the breaks were so severe that she lost the love that she once had for them. Very few women are able to be sexual without having feelings.
And as far as her not caring about the past relations, she probably did. But is doesn't want to threaten you/burden you with that knowledge. Or maybe the breaks were so severe that she lost the love that she once had for them. Very few women are able to be sexual without having feelings.
THeMaCHinE
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WombRaider
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how do you 'almost get pregnant'? The good thing is, you may be able to get her to bring a chick in to the festivities, so there may be an upside to her slutty behavior.
TxCollegeguy
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It doesn't sound like he wants other chicks
Can you say 'Chasing Amy'?
You need to decide if YOU can handle a girl's past and if so what sort of past experiencesa you can torlerate. Not necessarily your girlfriend's past but the past of any girl.
It seems that it was AN experience (or 2) in her life.
It's something in the past (?) that she is no longer involved in.
You really need to know what you are comfortable with in a relationship and what you decide and your girlfriend's past do not make either of you a bad person.
Make sense?
BTW: Is this something she told you or something you *found out* through other sources?
You need to decide if YOU can handle a girl's past and if so what sort of past experiencesa you can torlerate. Not necessarily your girlfriend's past but the past of any girl.
It seems that it was AN experience (or 2) in her life.
It's something in the past (?) that she is no longer involved in.
You really need to know what you are comfortable with in a relationship and what you decide and your girlfriend's past do not make either of you a bad person.
Make sense?
BTW: Is this something she told you or something you *found out* through other sources?
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KAYNE
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DUDE......NO OFFENSE BUT YOUR GIRL IS A SLUT. IT WILL BE VERY HARD FOR YOU TO TRUST HER. I KNOW THIS HOW YOU ASK GRASSHOPPER? BECAUSE I AM IN A SIMILAR SITUATION. MY GIRL HAS A SHADY PAST AND ITS VERY VERY HARD FOR ME TO TRUST HER. SHE RECENTLY TOLD ME SHE LOVED ME AND THAT SHE HAS ONLY TOLD ONE OTHER PERSON THAT. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK OR DO. SOMETIMES I THINK ABOUT ALL THAT SHIT AND WONT TO BONE OUT. SOMETIMES I THINK "GEE SHITHEAD, HOW DID YOU START CARING FOR THIS BITCH". SO I'M IN A DILLEMA AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.
WHEN YOU FIGURE IT OUT LET ME KNOW.
KAYNE
WHEN YOU FIGURE IT OUT LET ME KNOW.
KAYNE
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plifter
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I'm confused about the almost getting pregnant part. Did a sperm cell escape and she caught it just before it reached the egg?
mdd
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it would bother me alot. just make sure you can trust her. my ex i was totaly fallen for always told me she was totally done with her ex. until one day when he called her and we werent having the best of times and she started talking to him i guess. well now their dating.
mother fucker i swear, it still gets to me!
mother fucker i swear, it still gets to me!
he came inside of her without protection. But luckily she didnt get pregnant..
And picturing her with 2 other guys is what kills me the most. I dont care if she slept with 1 person, it just hurts to picture someone u love so dearly getting fucked by 2 guys that dont even care about her...
She told me this all last night after i was asking her about her sexual past... She also said she never tells anyone that she loves them and im like the first person she really said that too.. And she is really trust worthy right now.. She calls me everynight and she is like 10 states away from me. And she talks to me about 2 hours each night to tell me what she has done that day and to just talk. But if i find out she ever did anything with someone while she was with me, i would probably end up beating the hell out of her and even worste for him...
And picturing her with 2 other guys is what kills me the most. I dont care if she slept with 1 person, it just hurts to picture someone u love so dearly getting fucked by 2 guys that dont even care about her...
She told me this all last night after i was asking her about her sexual past... She also said she never tells anyone that she loves them and im like the first person she really said that too.. And she is really trust worthy right now.. She calls me everynight and she is like 10 states away from me. And she talks to me about 2 hours each night to tell me what she has done that day and to just talk. But if i find out she ever did anything with someone while she was with me, i would probably end up beating the hell out of her and even worste for him...
also.. She is leaving where she lived all her life just to be with me (or so she says). She was saying she wasnt goin to come back for a year until we talked for about 5 hours last nite and i guess she decided i mattered more to her then all of her friends and whatever she had where she lived all her life.... And i dont think i would have to worry bout her ex's if she was here.. I just hope she dont fuck me over here..
WombRaider
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Xalthus said:
TxCollegeguy
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No Tang is worth throwing your life away for...If you ever find out she has done something while with you, go find a real woman that cares for you
THeMaCHinE
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TxCollegeguy said:
Word.
Xalthus said:
well...if someone loved me and i love them i wouldn't much mind about their past, really...
i know it's hard to trust over the net
i guess you can hope the best, that she really means stuff, and see if she really does move to be near you or other stuff she says
it seems unfair to me that a woman with a sexual history - even if unusual - would make her seem less trustworthy than any other woman. really a virgin could mess with ya and leave ya high and dry, know what i mean?
so if she's kewl give her a chance i say...and if she doesn't do what she said at least give her fair opportunity to explain, it might not be her fault...
those are my suggestions...
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helen
This relationship will never work. 
It's quite obvious you consider her damaged in some respect and there seems to be no level of trust and faith in her from you.
I wonder though - what would be you opinion of her if she had a threesome with one man and another woman.
Just curious.
Double standard - but a man will always be able to a whore and get away with it. A women will always have to be sexually modest or lie to be deemed worthy.
To each his own.
It's quite obvious you consider her damaged in some respect and there seems to be no level of trust and faith in her from you.
I wonder though - what would be you opinion of her if she had a threesome with one man and another woman.
Just curious.
Double standard - but a man will always be able to a whore and get away with it. A women will always have to be sexually modest or lie to be deemed worthy.
To each his own.
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ryker77
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Its ok to be with her and to love her. Just don't Marry her. Marriage is a religious event and since she doesn't sound like she has strong ethics then she wouldn't make a good wife.
But what the hell get her to get a friend and have some fun.
But what the hell get her to get a friend and have some fun.
Whoever mentioned Chasing Amy hit the nail on the head. Go watch that movie. If you love her, her past shouldn't matter. If you can't accept the fact that she has done nothing wrong to *you*, and nothing to make you think you can't trust her, you don't deserve her. She obviously loves you and you need to get past your unfounded jealousy. She doesn't have a history of cheating - she has a history of experimentation.
If you can't handle a girl's past, don't ask her. You'll both be happier.
And if there's ANY chance you'd ever hit her, I hope she leaves you anyway. You don't have the right to beat someone unless they are trying to physically hurt you.
If you can't handle a girl's past, don't ask her. You'll both be happier.
And if there's ANY chance you'd ever hit her, I hope she leaves you anyway. You don't have the right to beat someone unless they are trying to physically hurt you.
THeMaCHinE
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velvett said:
Not in all circles. I know what you're saying though.
jja said:
So God's important in marriage, just not when you're fucking around beforehand??? If you fuck around before marriage then *YOU* don't have strong ethics (at least from a religious standpoint) either. You're going to hell
nah...you can do what you like as long as you say "Jesus is my personal Savior!!!" so they say, anyway...
it could be all wrong but do they care hell no...
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helen
The past is just that, the past..
I don't understand why everybody is so worried about her past.
I know I have made mistakes in my past, and I have
learned from them and grew as a person. If I don't want to be judge for my past, I'm certainlly not going
judge her for her past.
I don't understand why everybody is so worried about her past.
I know I have made mistakes in my past, and I have
learned from them and grew as a person. If I don't want to be judge for my past, I'm certainlly not going
judge her for her past.
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Frackal
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Trust me, I have been in a far milder version of your situation.
If you love this girl, if you really love her, then yes that stuff will just kill your insides for awhile, but you must realize that none of that affects how she feels about you any more than your past affects how you feel about her.
You must not consistantly bring this up to her, especially if she is not proud of it. It is like you are constantly bashing her over the head with it and there is nothing she can do to change the past.
Believe me, if you continue to bug her and it drives her away from you and ends your relationship, you will wish every day that you had done things differently, and you will realize that none of those things matter now.
If you love this girl, if you really love her, then yes that stuff will just kill your insides for awhile, but you must realize that none of that affects how she feels about you any more than your past affects how you feel about her.
You must not consistantly bring this up to her, especially if she is not proud of it. It is like you are constantly bashing her over the head with it and there is nothing she can do to change the past.
Believe me, if you continue to bug her and it drives her away from you and ends your relationship, you will wish every day that you had done things differently, and you will realize that none of those things matter now.
Checkmatebloated
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SORRY bro, but I got to say this, she must have told you and I don't know why. I would just keep thinking about two guys with my girl and they were laughing about it. That would just play over and over in my mind, but I have a very weak mind when it comes to things like this.
I could not handle it. PERIOD
I could not handle it. PERIOD
jja you are an idiot... people do not goto hell for having sex before marriage.
Sounds like this is your first real relationship... everyone goes thru this... is this the first girl you have been with? There is no such thing as a virgin... unless you are going out with a 13 yr old. Be happy that she has only had 2 partners. That is not a lot.
It will be hard for you to get past her history... and usually, almost always, the first love never works out in the end. But who knows.... you gotta give it a shot. Don't listen to the other idiots telling you she is a slut.. she doesn't sound like it at all... Sounds like she really loves you a lot.
Try to get over the past... or this relationship doesn't have a chance.
Sounds like this is your first real relationship... everyone goes thru this... is this the first girl you have been with? There is no such thing as a virgin... unless you are going out with a 13 yr old. Be happy that she has only had 2 partners. That is not a lot.
It will be hard for you to get past her history... and usually, almost always, the first love never works out in the end. But who knows.... you gotta give it a shot. Don't listen to the other idiots telling you she is a slut.. she doesn't sound like it at all... Sounds like she really loves you a lot.
Try to get over the past... or this relationship doesn't have a chance.
the Prince
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Well if it's in the past, then I guess you need to decide if you want to love her for who she is today, not who she was.
We cannot change our past, only our future!
We cannot change our past, only our future!
FrankRizzo
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I wouldn't be with her at all. Girls like that don't ever change. I don't care what they say. I've been there before and got burned.
My wife had never been with another before she met me, and hence forth....I married her. She got a ggod deal too, she got to be with the studliest of em all right off the bat!!!
My wife had never been with another before she met me, and hence forth....I married her. She got a ggod deal too, she got to be with the studliest of em all right off the bat!!!
FrankRizzo
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I hear ya over there....It's a good thing I'm married or I'd have to show you all about it
(j/k too, I am not a perv)
(j/k too, I am not a perv)
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plifter
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velvett said:
I'm trying to be a whore but it's just not working! Velvett, can you help me become a whore? JK
plifter said:
Well DAMN, I have no good advice for ya on that one.
Just don't say NO?
Say YES to all sexual advances, and bring telephone wire in case someone should change their mind.
(Kids, don't actually do the telephone wire thing - last I checked uh, that would be unlawful.)
IT'S ALL GOOD!!!!
No bestiality? Well, we don't really know that yet. In my humble opinion, anyone that ignores a potential mate's past is letting himself in for some serious heartache down the road. Behavior changes, people don't change. Is it enough that she now behaves differently, or is what is in her heart more important?
It is true that the past is gone, but that doesn't mean that it never happened. Bail. Now.
It is true that the past is gone, but that doesn't mean that it never happened. Bail. Now.
Past = future
Xalthus,
Hi dude , you're in a bad place my friend , and I don't think anyhting you read here will honestly change what's gonna happen but the omens aren't too good.
I'll (try) make a long story short:
1.Beautiful girl , German - meet her in Dublin pub.
2.Sleep together first night out - first alarm bells
3.Find out has live-in boyfirend in Germany for past 6 years.
4.Dumps the poor son-of-a-bitch like that.
5.Has lousy past (surprise) - lost virginity at 14 , 2 married guys in past etc....
6.After three months tells me she loves me (like no-on before blah , blah)
7.Decide to take a chance and say Fuck it ! and fall in love.
8.Tattoed my name on her ass just so I wouldn't break up with her when we were apart for a summer.
9.A year later , she moves to Ireland , gets a job , I'm in my final year in college , need a bit of support.
10. She starts talkin about some guy at work , we argue , she fucks him , we break up (of course).
11. I'm totally fucked for my exams , on anti-depressants and she spends all her time ringing me telling me how much she loves me while still fucking someone else.
Conclusion: The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour.
Prognosis for this chick - not good.
Take care (of yourself).
Xalthus,
Hi dude , you're in a bad place my friend , and I don't think anyhting you read here will honestly change what's gonna happen but the omens aren't too good.
I'll (try) make a long story short:
1.Beautiful girl , German - meet her in Dublin pub.
2.Sleep together first night out - first alarm bells
3.Find out has live-in boyfirend in Germany for past 6 years.
4.Dumps the poor son-of-a-bitch like that.
5.Has lousy past (surprise) - lost virginity at 14 , 2 married guys in past etc....
6.After three months tells me she loves me (like no-on before blah , blah)
7.Decide to take a chance and say Fuck it ! and fall in love.
8.Tattoed my name on her ass just so I wouldn't break up with her when we were apart for a summer.
9.A year later , she moves to Ireland , gets a job , I'm in my final year in college , need a bit of support.
10. She starts talkin about some guy at work , we argue , she fucks him , we break up (of course).
11. I'm totally fucked for my exams , on anti-depressants and she spends all her time ringing me telling me how much she loves me while still fucking someone else.
Conclusion: The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour.
Prognosis for this chick - not good.
Take care (of yourself).
Last summer I was in love for the first time in my life with a girl I thought was absolutely perfect. After a few months, some rumors started going around about guys she had slept with that she denied to me. The girl was the perfect girlfriend in that she wanted a serious relationship and I knew she would never cheat on me. The only problem is that her father totally neglected her her entire life which caused her to need approval from a male, so whenever she got hurt by a guy she got kind of crazy and regretted it later. Anyway, I wasnt mature enough to understand her and ended up breaking up with her. Now she is pregnant by her new boyfriend. There isnt one day I dont regret breaking up with her. If you love her, thats all that matters.
nikolai_bolkov
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WombRaider said:
Damn good point!
Just don't for the love of God put all your trust in her. Trust her to an extent, but make yourself keep her at an arms distant. If you put everything you have into one person, that person can literally destroy your life. Ive seen it happen one too many times.
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