has anyone else here ever caught their girlfriend in the act with someone else?

[mr.cuts]

A few weeks ago I stopped by my girlfriends place and caught her in bed with another guy. She gave me a key to her place, however she wasn't expecting me to stop by that night. Anyway, after I entered her place I could hear moaning coming from her bedroom, so I immediately knew what was up. I walked into her room and saw some little shit on top of her. She was obviously shocked, and began to become hysterical, the guy was scared shitless. I let her know that she was a whore and then I left. She has tried to call me numerous times since this incident, however I don't return her calls.

Anyway, the thing that is eating me up is the fact that the guy she was with was a skinny little shit. I mean I completely dwarfed this guy! I am 5'10'' 220lbs at 8-9% bodyfat, by the way. I just can't understand how she could cheat on me with a guy like that. This is the only thing that bothers me, otherwise I can care less about what happened. Has anyone else here had this happened to them, and if so felt the same way I do???

 

[Smurfy]

i would say shes cheating on you but you already know that.

 

[mr.cuts]

i would say shes cheating on you but you already know that.

Listen, I know she cheated on me, I walked in on her in bed with another guy! What is your point???

 

[gtrcivic]

you must have had a notion, thats why you came by that night ??? maybe ask her why she did it ? for the excitement, inadequacy of you, etc ??? or she's just a plain ol simple whore...

 

[mr.cuts]

you must have had a notion, thats why you came by that night ??? maybe ask her why she did it ? for the excitement, inadequacy of you, etc ??? or she's just a plain ol simple whore...

The thing is I could care less about the end of this relationship. The thing I am upset about is the fact that she cheated on me with someone who was so physically inferior to me. I just can't understand that.

 

[marshallmadman]

A few weeks ago I stopped by my girlfriends place and caught her in bed with another guy. She gave me a key to her place, however she wasn't expecting me to stop by that night. Anyway, after I entered her place I could hear moaning coming from her bedroom, so I immediately knew what was up. I walked into her room and saw some little shit on top of her. She was obviously shocked, and began to become hysterical, the guy was scared shitless. I let her know that she was a whore and then I left. She has tried to call me numerous times since this incident, however I don't return her calls.

Anyway, the thing that is eating me up is the fact that the guy she was with was a skinny little shit. I mean I completely dwarfed this guy! I am 5'10'' 220lbs at 8-9% bodyfat, by the way. I just can't understand how she could cheat on me with a guy like that. This is the only thing that bothers me, otherwise I can care less about what happened. Has anyone else here had this happened to them, and if so felt the same way I do???

This is always the way it's happened for me, too. I have never actually caught my girl in the act. They have always left me for short little pot bellied losers. It's almost like they have a hangup that centers on them not looking good enough to be with me....I don't know if that's what it is, but it sure seems that way. Their flings usually last a couple of weeks tops, and then they start blowing up my cell phone with booty calls. I usually oblige them, because I love pussy, but I usually end up regretting it. You should return her call so you can listen to her beg!

 

[geoboy]

I had an ex that I always had my suspicions about, so I had given this some thought. Intellectually, I decided I would do the same thing as you if ever confronted with that. tell her what I thought of her, and then just shun her. after all, it's not the guy's fault, and a girl who showed herself to be a slut isnt worth going to jail for.

if it actually ever happened, tho, I don't know how I'd react in the heat of the moment.
-

 

[jestros]

You should return her call so you can listen to her beg!

time for some anal with no lube!

 

[mrplunkey]

The thing is I could care less about the end of this relationship. The thing I am upset about is the fact that she cheated on me with someone who was so physically inferior to me. I just can't understand that.

We males overestimate the value a female places on a good (or great) physique relative to other qualities. Sure, women like a guy with a good body but they also respond to things such as emotional strength, intimacy, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves, etc. etc. They are a good bit more complex than we are

 

[Razorguns]

Office Space:

"You ever get the feeling she's cheating on you."

"No why?"

"Oh nothin'..."

hehe.

 

[*Bunny*]

The thing is I could care less about the end of this relationship. The thing I am upset about is the fact that she cheated on me with someone who was so physically inferior to me. I just can't understand that.

How about the mental aspect? Did you get the impression she was into you only for physical attributes?

 

[*Bunny*]

We males overestimate the value a female places on a good (or great) physique relative to other qualities. Sure, women like a guy with a good body but they also respond to things such as emotional strength, intimacy, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves, etc. etc. They are a good bit more complex than we are

^^^ You said it better

 

[mr.cuts]

How about the mental aspect? Did you get the impression she was into you only for physical attributes?

Honestly, I never really paid that much attention to what her expectations were. The only thing that I cared about was that she was able to take care of my sexual needs when necessary.

 

[mrplunkey]

Honestly, I never really paid that much attention to what her expectations were. The only thing that I cared about was that she was able to take care of my sexual needs when necessary.

Then no offense, but you just answered your own question

 

[theoak01]

never have caught a girl fucking around on me,and thank god,Id probably lose control

 

[marshallmadman]

We males overestimate the value a female places on a good (or great) physique relative to other qualities. Sure, women like a guy with a good body but they also respond to things such as emotional strength, intimacy, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves, etc. etc. They are a good bit more complex than we are

This is true, but I have always found that the helping them feel good about themselves part is something that people like ourselves will never be able to do. Every girl I've ever dated has a hangup about assorted physical attributes she posseses. This effect is amplified by the fact that I work out excessively. Girls have an issue with not being able to "measure up". Those feelings of inadequacy can really be destructive to a long term relationship.

 

[mr.cuts]

This is true, but I have always found that the helping them feel good about themselves part is something that people like ourselves will never be able to do. Every girl I've ever dated has a hangup about assorted physical attributes she posseses. This effect is amplified by the fact that I work out excessively. Girls have an issue with not being able to "measure up". Those feelings of inadequacy can really be destructive to a long term relationship.

I think you might be on to something here.

 

[*Bunny*]

never have caught a girl fucking around on me,and thank god,Id probably lose control

On the flip side, I agree

Honestly, I never really paid that much attention to what her expectations were. The only thing that I cared about was that she was able to take care of my sexual needs when necessary.

Good for you...bad for her -

IMO this guy gave her the attention she wasnt getting from you, but what do I know...

 

[awittyusername]

Props on how you handled the situation. Don't worry why or how big he was or wasn't. I used to worry bc I always got dumped for the guys that are buillt like you.lol

You are actually lucky you caught her and know for sure. I always had solid evidence, But, they denied it to the end. They told me I was terrible for even thinking it. Unfortunately, I believed them and usually didn't find out until yrs later.

Good luck bro and don't take her back. She will do the same thing again!

 

[Seashell]

Honestly, I never really paid that much attention to what her expectations were. The only thing that I cared about was that she was able to take care of my sexual needs when necessary.

Um. Yeah. There's your answer.

 

[feisty11975]

The thing is I could care less about the end of this relationship. The thing I am upset about is the fact that she cheated on me with someone who was so physically inferior to me. I just can't understand that.

His pecker may be bigger

 

[milo hobgoblin]

Ok call me a freak but I would be strangely aroused and want to do a double pen..

LOL.

I think I watch for a while first .. see how she was with another guy when Im not around.. Course we are swingers and Ive watched her have sex with other guys.. wouldnt be as big a shock to me as you all.

 

[Beachbum1546]

Listen, I know she cheated on me, I walked in on her in bed with another guy! What is your point???

smurfy= owned

 

[alien amp pharm]

You gotta think too....ever wonder how many people cheated on you that you'll never find out about?

 

[feisty11975]

Ok call me a freak but I would be strangely aroused and want to do a double pen..

LOL.

I think I watch for a while first .. see how she was with another guy when Im not around.. Course we are swingers and Ive watched her have sex with other guys.. wouldnt be as big a shock to me as you all.

SICKO---- To each his own!!

 

[bluepeter]

Honestly, I never really paid that much attention to what her expectations were. The only thing that I cared about was that she was able to take care of my sexual needs when necessary.

 

[curling]

The thing is I could care less about the end of this relationship. The thing I am upset about is the fact that she cheated on me with someone who was so physically inferior to me. I just can't understand that.

MAybe, he is not physically inferior to you on the muscle that matters.

 

[feisty11975]

We males overestimate the value a female places on a good (or great) physique relative to other qualities. Sure, women like a guy with a good body but they also respond to things such as emotional strength, intimacy, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves, etc. etc. They are a good bit more complex than we are

A guy who actually understands where women come from... WOW

 

[curling]

A guy who actually understands where women come from... WOW

He does not otherwise he would know the main thing chicks care about IS MONEY!!!

 

[feisty11975]

He does not otherwise he would know the main thing chicks care about IS MONEY!!!

and you don't understand women...money is nice and all but a nice and caring guy who actually appreciates a woman is just fine by me.

 

[velvett]

We males overestimate the value a female places on a good (or great) physique relative to other qualities. Sure, women like a guy with a good body but they also respond to things such as emotional strength, intimacy, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves, etc. etc. They are a good bit more complex than we are

That is true.

 

[curling]

and you don't understand women...money is nice and all but a nice and caring guy who actually appreciates a woman is just fine by me.

So a nice caring guy that can't pay the rent and just sponges off you is fine? As Jim Carey would say. REEEEEAAAAALLLYYYYY??????????

 

[skacorica]

We males overestimate the value a female places on a good (or great) physique relative to other qualities. Sure, women like a guy with a good body but they also respond to things such as emotional strength, intimacy, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves, etc. etc. They are a good bit more complex than we are

They like that for a while, but eventually they get sick of the "nice guy".

 

[DJ_UFO]

Catching your GF with another guy in bed = PWNED

 

[manny78]

Look who Brad Pitt is poking lately and compare that to whatever Ronnie Coleman poked in the last year (assuming he's straight). Not everything goes by the size of your biceps, quads or delts. Mental, emotinal, money, attitude have a lot to do.

 

[marshallmadman]

We males overestimate the value a female places on a good (or great) physique relative to other qualities. Sure, women like a guy with a good body but they also respond to things such as emotional strength, intimacy, making them laugh, helping them feel good about themselves, etc. etc. They are a good bit more complex than we are

This is a very relevant statement. A great physique can get your foot in the door, but if you are lacking in all the other skills, she will lose interest quickly. Fortunately for me, I developed all of the other skills prior to getting a good physique.

 

[velvett]

This is a very relevant statement. A great physique can get your foot in the door, but if you are lacking in all the other skills, she will lose interest quickly. Fortunately for me, I developed all of the other skills prior to getting a good physique.

Hopefully this goes for both sexes.

 

[Razorguns]

Catching your GF with another guy in bed = PWNED

Catch your GF with another girl in bed = OH YEAH!!!!

 

[CrazyRussian]

Here's basically what you're saying:

"I don't really care how my girl feels, I just want to bang the bejesus out of her. So, umm...why is she cheating on me? "

 

[chewyxrage]

You obviously don't give a fuck about her so why do you even care if she was cheating? Okay I guess you said you don't care.


In that case, answer her calls and bang the shit out of her. That's all you were doing anyway right?

 

[tuc biscuit]

lol at the women who like to try and convince themselves of stuff

 

[trailseeker]

Maybe for some these chicks got the impression that you were more enamored of yourself than you were of her...

Just my two cents, mind you...

 

[BUBBLES]

Every girl I've ever dated has a hangup about assorted physical attributes she posseses. This effect is amplified by the fact that I work out excessively. Girls have an issue with not being able to "measure up". Those feelings of inadequacy can really be destructive to a long term relationship.

If every girl you have dated has an inferiority complex about themselves then I see an issue here. Are you trying to be the rescuing knight in shining armour by dating these girls in the first place?

To remedy that problem start dating someone who has not hangups about the way the look and their ability to measure up. It seems to me that you are blaming women for their inability to measure up yet you still date them.
Whose problem do you need to reflect/fix first here? Yours or the women you date?

Once you date a confident women then you won't have problems with her looking for comfort somewhere else. (Ofcourse you need to be loving too!)

 

[marshallmadman]

If every girl you have dated has an inferiority complex about themselves then I see an issue here. Are you trying to be the rescuing knight in shining armour by dating these girls in the first place?

To remedy that problem start dating someone who has not hangups about the way the look and their ability to measure up. It seems to me that you are blaming women for their inability to measure up yet you still date them.
Whose problem do you need to reflect/fix first here? Yours or the women you date?

Once you date a confident women then you won't have problems with her looking for comfort somewhere else. (Ofcourse you need to be loving too!)

I shouldn't have said every girl. I would say the last three I have dated had issues with their weight, or assorted body parts. I actually had an ex tell me that she started dating this guy because she didn't want to feel the pressure of being perfect anymore. I have never wanted a Barbie doll. I like my girls a little bit on the curvy side, and maybe that's a problem. They are always going to be thinking that they need to lose weight so they can look like that trainer at the gym. If that's what I wanted, I'd be dating the trainer at the gym. I just think every woman I ever date is going to have "do I look fat in these pants" syndrome. On a side note, one of my girlfriends accidentally saw a picture of the girl I dated before her, and said.....How can I ever measure up to that? In the end, her self-doubt destroyed our relationship.

 

[The Red Dragon]

lol with women looks only make up a small part of a large composite evaluation system...although height seems to be an exception, I don't know what happened there

I think he's mostly bothered by her fucking someone physically inferior. Who knows, maybe he had more charisma or more importantly, money. They usually say that you can sense a girl is cheating on you. But whatever...humans weren't meant to be monogamous, marriage and the dating shit was in place for the sole purpose of propriety...why the fuck would you want to raise a kid thats not yours (this happens more often than you think). Goes to show that you can't really trust anyone but yourself in this world.

 

[marshallmadman]

lol with women looks only make up a small part of a large composite evaluation system...although height seems to be an exception, I don't know what happened there

I think he's mostly bothered by her fucking someone physically inferior. Who knows, maybe he had more charisma or more importantly, money. They usually say that you can sense a girl is cheating on you. But whatever...humans weren't meant to be monogamous, marriage and the dating shit was in place for the sole purpose of propriety...why the fuck would you want to raise a kid thats not yours (this happens more often than you think). Goes to show that you can't really trust anyone but yourself in this world.

I agree totally. Trying to force marriage, and monogamy on people is bullshit.

 

[SoKlueles]

naybe u were into the sex just for u and this guy pleasured HER....and then didnt kick her to the cub
maybe he actually cares about her instead of just banging her

 

[Madcow2]

Anyway, the thing that is eating me up is the fact that the guy she was with was a skinny little shit. I mean I completely dwarfed this guy! I am 5'10'' 220lbs at 8-9% bodyfat, by the way. I just can't understand how she could cheat on me with a guy like that. This is the only thing that bothers me, otherwise I can care less about what happened. Has anyone else here had this happened to them, and if so felt the same way I do???

This isn't terribly eloquent and it's hard putting words to certain things but this is my theory on why this bothers you:

The psychological issue is that you dated this girl and in dating her you basically put her on an equal level with yourself (not embarrassed to date her and not 'oh my God I'm so lucky'). Then you see her with a guy who you believe is no where near your level. This makes you question her level, the fact that you were even dating her, and to a degree your own level or at least your ability to judge the level of others.

Sort of a shitty way to look at it but to a degree it's common to benchmark others and desire higher levels. Of course the ideal is that one matures and moves past this, learns who they themselves are, and finds someone who is compatible with them on multiple levels and who simply makes their life much more enjoyable. But shit, I remember I stopped seeing a girl in college just because she was checking out a guy who was IMO pretty dorky - so yeah, I've been there.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

your hangup on the guy's physique belies either your own insecurity, or your incomprehension of the things driving a womans urge

without spending half an hour typing, she saw something in that guy taht she didnt see in you at the time - and by your posts, you come across as being arrogant/selfish/dominant, and so its logical to me that she wanted the things taht you arent offering her while youre busy being arrogant/dominant - perhaps intimacy, conversation, humour...or maybe just a break from being in the role she falls into when she is around you (ie submissive).

dont be offended, or feel insecure about it. as a guy, im sure youve seen your mates cheat on their gorgeous girlfriends etc with someone who is less attractive or even ugly - because its easy, or because its there, or to stroke their ego - whatever. its the same thing. just try to understand that there was something about this guy that she wanted at the time, and it doesnt neccessarily equate to you being undesireable...even though your later comment that you were only concerned about her satisfying you sexually leads me to think that you were certainly a bad boyfriend in this relationship, making yourself less attractive, and steering her towards the decision to find another guy.

all you guys thinking about getting violent should chill out and look at yourselves hard, ive said this a couple dozen times on this site i think...IF YOU HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT YOUR GIRL CHEATING ON YOU, SHE AINT YOUR GIRL - so why are you going to hit some guy for something that your girlfriend effectively made the pivotal decision about?

oh, and mr. cuts - as much as your attitude sucks, anyone who cheats on their partner rather than do the right thing and break up with them etc is a scumbag. dont give her the time of day, imo.

anyway, its friday, i think tis tie to pretty myself up (ie shave) and go out somewhere wish me luck, mofos!

 

[Allon]

GD, do you ever NOT judge someone as your first immediate reaction? Someone should ban you already, even deterASS is more pleasant than you are.

 

[Allon]

As usual I am wondering what Dirk would have to say about this. He would probably ignore mr cut's direct issue and go ahead and explain how he always snags the best girls and has orgies with their friends. No gilr would ever cheat on him as he would then stop fucking them and these girls cannot risk losing the pleasure of being banged by our Dirk.

Dirk, please come and help us out here.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

GD, do you ever NOT judge someone as your first immediate reaction? Someone should ban you already, even deterASS is more pleasant than you are.

allon, given that i am halfway through my 5th Victorias Bitter (aka Vaginal Backwash to the more crass amongst you) which happens to be a really nice beer, AND given that i am about to meet this really nice 19 year old girl that i am quite fond of :eyebrowsmiley:, AND given that youre plainly a cocksmoking, intolerant-of-anyone-that-doesnt-share-your-opinion, inperceptive, victim-mentality having semitic fuckface, you can kindly go fuck yourself because im sick of being rational to a dickhead like yourself that goes off half cocked (not only in bed) when im being myself in a bloody anonymous internet chat board, saying things to people that help them look at themselves differently and perhaps realise things about themselves that they mightnt have ever perceived.

and why would i be banned? who did i offend? (apart from fonz ) what do i say that is so terrible? or is it the things about yourself that i point out that you find so unnerving, and make you want to get rid of me?

anyway. all this typing is keeping me from my beer, which we all know is a terrible, terrible thing. have a great night everyone, and allon, if you want to get laid, heres a tip: keep your mouth shut, because youre a dipshit.

seeyous

 

[Forge]

allon, given that i am halfway through my 5th Victorias Bitter (aka Vaginal Backwash to the more crass amongst you) which happens to be a really nice beer, AND given that i am about to meet this really nice 19 year old girl that i am quite fond of :eyebrowsmiley:, AND given that youre plainly a cocksmoking, intolerant-of-anyone-that-doesnt-share-your-opinion, inperceptive, victim-mentality having semitic fuckface, you can kindly go fuck yourself because im sick of being rational to a dickhead like yourself that goes off half cocked (not only in bed) when im being myself in a bloody anonymous internet chat board, saying things to people that help them look at themselves differently and perhaps realise things about themselves that they mightnt have ever perceived.

and why would i be banned? who did i offend? (apart from fonz ) what do i say that is so terrible? or is it the things about yourself that i point out that you find so unnerving, and make you want to get rid of me?

anyway. all this typing is keeping me from my beer, which we all know is a terrible, terrible thing. have a great night everyone, and allon, if you want to get laid, heres a tip: keep your mouth shut, because youre a dipshit.

seeyous

Ownage, big time.

 

[milo hobgoblin]

I dont think women consider "money" for one night stands or short term affairs.. its emotional and physical attraction.. and sometimes strong emotional attraction can make a VERY plain looking guy.. very attractive to them.. Ive seen this happen so many times.

If she was going to cheat on you with a guy with money .. for his money, she would leave you.. the benefits of a guy with money dont come from just sleeping with him one night or hiding in the shadows to have an affair...

The guy just probably appealed to her emotionally in a strong way and she was very attracted to that.. maybe because you only want her for sex.. or at least appear to her....


face it. emtional turmoil is like porn to women.. a guy who makes them feel emotional good or bad (unfortunately) gets them going.. they wont admit it.. but think about "jealous sex" with your woman... its usually the best sex you have..

When they are "too content" with you.. they get bored.. and are easily stimulated elsewhere..

 

[jerseyart]

Kid, instead of arguing with him like a lil bitch, you should be listening to golden as he actually knows what time it is with women.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

A few weeks ago I stopped by my girlfriends place and caught her in bed with another guy. She gave me a key to her place, however she wasn't expecting me to stop by that night. Anyway, after I entered her place I could hear moaning coming from her bedroom, so I immediately knew what was up. I walked into her room and saw some little shit on top of her. She was obviously shocked, and began to become hysterical, the guy was scared shitless. I let her know that she was a whore and then I left. She has tried to call me numerous times since this incident, however I don't return her calls.

Anyway, the thing that is eating me up is the fact that the guy she was with was a skinny little shit. I mean I completely dwarfed this guy! I am 5'10'' 220lbs at 8-9% bodyfat, by the way. I just can't understand how she could cheat on me with a guy like that. This is the only thing that bothers me, otherwise I can care less about what happened. Has anyone else here had this happened to them, and if so felt the same way I do???

Women always cheat for a good reason. Either you weren't satisfying her enough in some way...... or else she's just a crazy slut.
In the former, she would've tried to at least talk to you about whatever she was displeased with.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

The thing is I could care less about the end of this relationship. The thing I am upset about is the fact that she cheated on me with someone who was so physically inferior to me. I just can't understand that.

The reason is pretty evident already. You didn't care about the end of this relationship. Well, what goes around comes around, my friend. In your lack of caring, which she most likely sensed well before she did it, she did this as her own way of ending things, or telling you that it might as well end. And her knife in your back was doing it with a scrawny kid to give your muscled ego a brusin.

Girls will cheat on anyone, even a rich and famous rockstar, if they feel they aren't getting the attention (whatever that may be) they seek.

 

[sigweed]

naybe u were into the sex just for u and this guy pleasured HER....and then didnt kick her to the cub
maybe he actually cares about her instead of just banging her

sounds like you and hammy are going through some hard times