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Sex, Love, and Relationships as explained through the eyes of a music fan
Relationships are a lot like music. They bring pleasure and joy to people's lives. This is what I believe, because if not, why would they be so prevalent? Relationships are: complex, often times difficult to understand, transmitted using your body's senses, but experienced in the brain. They give you a variety of feelings and emotions. They can be a source of nearly limitless happiness All of what I just said about relationships can be applied to music on a much smaller scale. Relationships are a bit more dynamic and complex, but sometimes the easiest way to understand the complex is to relate it to a much smaller simpler model. This will be my attempt to show how relationships and the feelings they invoke, are nearly analogous to music and the feelings it invokes. This article is meant for the music lover. If you aren't at least a casual fan of music, this will probably make little sense. Even to those with a musical background and fans may not relate or agree with my conjectures, but I believe this can serve to increase awareness of oneself and emotions.
Have you ever had a favorite band? A band that was above all others in your books. A band who you could not get enough of. You owned all of their CDs, saw them live when possible, talked to your friends about this band, maybe called a radio station to request more of this band. I will take a small leap here and say that you had a relationship with the band. You were a fan of the band.
Think about how listening to this band made you feel. Did you feel energized? Did it make you think? Maybe you felt love, or awe. Some adoration and craving. Did it make you smile? Give you goosebumps? These examples of feelings are a small microcosm of the emotions felt in a relationship. The feelings that someone else can make you feel.
When we feel these feelings and emotions in a relationship we tend to change our behavior in ways. We spend more time with them. We develop deep emotional and physical bonds with them. You experience life in a similar way as them. Unfortunately, we are all aware that these feelings can be very temporary. They can last seconds or minutes, or they could last days, weeks, years, even an entire lifetime! A lot of this depends on you and your tastes, and how they could change as you age. They can also depend on your partner's taste and how they change as they age.
This is synonymous with the relationship of a fan to a favorite band. You may have just heard one song and couldn't get enough. You listened over and over and swore you had never heard anything better. But then in a matter of days or weeks you wouldn't care if you never heard that song again. There could be bands that you enjoy, but in small doses, you'd never tire of them completely, but just have no desire to listen to them on a regular basis. You could have a band for years that you love, but then maybe your tastes change one day and you no longer are aroused in the same way by that style of music. Or maybe the band changes and no longer produces the type of music that you enjoy. Maybe they changed so much they do not produce any music anymore!
And now things get really scary. Have you ever had multiple favorite bands? A few bands that alternated and took turns being at the top of your favorites list. Or two or more bands you simply could not decide among? How about a band that you are ashamed to admit to others that you listen to, one that you might not ever spend any money on, but will download it for free if it is convenient. Now think of that in the context of a relationship. Dating more than one person, or possibly cheating on a spouse with another short lived fling. A booty call you dated that you'd never introduce to your friends or be bothered to spend a penny on.
As music fans our love of music is similar to the love shared with other human beings. We as people try to treat it in a different way, most relationship are monogamous for a variety of reasons that simply do not apply to music or a favorite band. But we can all imagine deriving the same sort of pleasure from a variety of different sources, when it comes to both music and relationships. The difference is, the relationship with a band is one sided. You only have to worry about your own feelings, wants, and desires. Unless you hold a position of particular power, there is very little you could do that would affect your favorite band. If you were to stop listening to them or seeing their shows, they would likely never notice. In a relationship you are dealing with another human being directly. Your actions have a significant impact on them. Because of that we put the respect of the partner over our own wants and desires. Don't think you are a saint for doing it, because your partner is doing the exact same thing. Its not always an easy task and some people are better at it than others.
Relationships are a lot like music. They bring pleasure and joy to people's lives. This is what I believe, because if not, why would they be so prevalent? Relationships are: complex, often times difficult to understand, transmitted using your body's senses, but experienced in the brain. They give you a variety of feelings and emotions. They can be a source of nearly limitless happiness All of what I just said about relationships can be applied to music on a much smaller scale. Relationships are a bit more dynamic and complex, but sometimes the easiest way to understand the complex is to relate it to a much smaller simpler model. This will be my attempt to show how relationships and the feelings they invoke, are nearly analogous to music and the feelings it invokes. This article is meant for the music lover. If you aren't at least a casual fan of music, this will probably make little sense. Even to those with a musical background and fans may not relate or agree with my conjectures, but I believe this can serve to increase awareness of oneself and emotions.
Have you ever had a favorite band? A band that was above all others in your books. A band who you could not get enough of. You owned all of their CDs, saw them live when possible, talked to your friends about this band, maybe called a radio station to request more of this band. I will take a small leap here and say that you had a relationship with the band. You were a fan of the band.
Think about how listening to this band made you feel. Did you feel energized? Did it make you think? Maybe you felt love, or awe. Some adoration and craving. Did it make you smile? Give you goosebumps? These examples of feelings are a small microcosm of the emotions felt in a relationship. The feelings that someone else can make you feel.
When we feel these feelings and emotions in a relationship we tend to change our behavior in ways. We spend more time with them. We develop deep emotional and physical bonds with them. You experience life in a similar way as them. Unfortunately, we are all aware that these feelings can be very temporary. They can last seconds or minutes, or they could last days, weeks, years, even an entire lifetime! A lot of this depends on you and your tastes, and how they could change as you age. They can also depend on your partner's taste and how they change as they age.
This is synonymous with the relationship of a fan to a favorite band. You may have just heard one song and couldn't get enough. You listened over and over and swore you had never heard anything better. But then in a matter of days or weeks you wouldn't care if you never heard that song again. There could be bands that you enjoy, but in small doses, you'd never tire of them completely, but just have no desire to listen to them on a regular basis. You could have a band for years that you love, but then maybe your tastes change one day and you no longer are aroused in the same way by that style of music. Or maybe the band changes and no longer produces the type of music that you enjoy. Maybe they changed so much they do not produce any music anymore!
And now things get really scary. Have you ever had multiple favorite bands? A few bands that alternated and took turns being at the top of your favorites list. Or two or more bands you simply could not decide among? How about a band that you are ashamed to admit to others that you listen to, one that you might not ever spend any money on, but will download it for free if it is convenient. Now think of that in the context of a relationship. Dating more than one person, or possibly cheating on a spouse with another short lived fling. A booty call you dated that you'd never introduce to your friends or be bothered to spend a penny on.
As music fans our love of music is similar to the love shared with other human beings. We as people try to treat it in a different way, most relationship are monogamous for a variety of reasons that simply do not apply to music or a favorite band. But we can all imagine deriving the same sort of pleasure from a variety of different sources, when it comes to both music and relationships. The difference is, the relationship with a band is one sided. You only have to worry about your own feelings, wants, and desires. Unless you hold a position of particular power, there is very little you could do that would affect your favorite band. If you were to stop listening to them or seeing their shows, they would likely never notice. In a relationship you are dealing with another human being directly. Your actions have a significant impact on them. Because of that we put the respect of the partner over our own wants and desires. Don't think you are a saint for doing it, because your partner is doing the exact same thing. Its not always an easy task and some people are better at it than others.
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