Guys, i need help with my g/f sex drive

[FitFossil]

Any chance she is taking hormonal birth control, such as the BC pill, Depo-provera shot, etc? They can kill the libido - not only from possible weight gain, but the extra hormones in these can upset a woman's natural hormone balance.

Even though testosterone is the main libido hormone for men and women, women need sufficient levels of estrogen for testosterone to be absorbed (providing her testo levels are sufficient). Estrogen is important for other sexual functions such as lubrication. Has she had her hormone levels tested?

 

[Nutri-Wrestler]

Nope, no birth control of any kind.

Ross

 

[FitFossil]

Has she always had this problem, or is it something recent? Lack of libido can be caused by many things including hormone imbalance, thyroid problems, certain medications such as anti-depressants, psychological issues such as depression, poor body image, fear of pregnancy, etc. Or the problem could be physical where sex is painful due to something like yeast infections, endometriosis, etc. Any other health symptoms? Regular periods? Is she bothered by this problem? Has she seen a doctor?

 

[Nutri-Wrestler]

1.) Sex is painful
2.) She thinks she is fat.
3.) She dances and works out a lot.
4.) She is very easily depressed.

Ross

 

[FitFossil]

The female libido is VERY complicated. I'm female and can't quite figure it out. I am not a doctor, just a computer programmer with some personal experience , but I believe a woman's libido is just as much psychological as hormonal. There's also the 'chicken-or-the-egg' dilemma. Psychological issues can depress hormone levels and vice versa. Sometimes correcting hormone levels can help with some psychological issues, like certain types of depression, but not always. Other times you can treat the psych issues and the libido will come back, or you have to treat both together. It's different for everyone.

From your list above, it's apparent she has body image issues. Even if her hormone levels are currently normal, poor body image alone can kill libido. Poor body image can lead to eating disorders and depression, both of which can disrupt hormone balance. The main thing is SHE must want to get better. This is an excellent website. It also has a bulletin board for postings. Good luck.

http://newshe.com/

 

[Vítor Rage]

Bro, since she thinks she is fat , and she lacks sex drive and libido, offer her some PROVIRON (take out label) saying it's a new miracle fat loss pill.

 

[AMBB4L]

I'm sure that the problem lies in the fact that she has a poor self-image of herself, but is she also under a lot of stress? My girlfriend and I moved recently and didn't have sex for the first 10 days. She was so stressed that she said that the best she could offer was i could jerk off while watching her sleep naked. She gets stressed and depressed rather easily, which i think moving and working a lot is comprable to over-exercising (like your girlfriend).

Anyway, things have calmed down stress-wise. And her sex drive is back in a major way.

 

[Nutri-Wrestler]

damn, her offer wasnt much was it. its good to hear that she is back to normal. me and my ex broke up and im with someone else now. we dont have sex, but head is good