From 20 to 30... a decade, how much have you changed?

[-Ariel-]

My life and my attitude towards it is hugely different at 33 than 23. I think it is true that wisdom comes with age, and your perspectives change dramatically when you are faced with your own mortality and seeing what your friends go through along with losing family members, etc.

I think my biggest change was realizing that the whole school, family money protecting you bubble goes away and you don't have any clue what to do so you have to learn pretty fast. Same with relationships - you learn constantly.

True while my nature is still pretty much the same, alot more barriers have come with forming relationships with people, well specifically deep I let them get... I mean I still can be pretty naive, but if I'm sensing I like someone too much, then I pull back and reevaluate what I am doing, where as all the way up to my mid twenties I would give friends the shirt off of my back if thats what they needed, but after I experienced some lack of loyalty that left me jaded for a long time, however I repair alot faster than I thought... I am alot more selective it seems into who I let in... but thats a part of living... thats why its called emotional risk.

 

[-Ariel-]

I really don't hate the fatties, well today I don't. I just erks me to no end sometimes people with no self worth. If I can eat chicken and brown rice for every meal for 2.5 months than so can they. I am not doing cardio because of my metabolism, I loose weight to fast no matter how much I eat and lift. Last summer I was doing triathlons and duathlons so my cardio was tip top and I was ripped but this summer i'm focusing on gaining 10-15lbs trying to get to 215-220 with 10% bf. I just have the ecto body type that allows me to keep low bf if I watch what I eat.

Once I hit 30 it all made sense to me, it was time for me to get back on the fitness train and not look back. Quit feeling sorry for myself over my knee and just fuckin DO IT! The knee was a mental fuck for me cause I was very athletic and in great shape. I never gained weight I lost it, at one point I was 140lbs. I got back up to 165 and hovered there forever. I put on 35lbs of muscle in 3 years natty before I did my first cycle this year.

My bad, shouldn't be so pretentious to begin with, but I get overeager with every impulse and have to point every thing out I think like a 3 year old in a shopping mall, anyway, dude fucking triathalons, that was like my dream before I blew out my peroneal nerve in my left leg, now I have a scar that my S O thinks is sexy, I never understood how scars can be sexy, thats just me though, I can't run over 4 miles without my left leg going numb... I was running 40 to 50 a week before that... you can imagine how I got depressed, from runners depression, anyway it is all elliptical for me now...

You are a stud SF... fucking triathlons... again, hideo NO MO.

I know you don't hate fatties... you feel the same way I do to them as self hate projectors... unkewl man... shit can be infectious.

 

[drsketch]

When I was 20 I was a gangster, had a crew, a lot of fun.
At 27 I am reformed college educated tax payer.

 

[-Ariel-]

I don't think most people are fully mature until 30. A lot of maturation and self awareness occurs post college when you are on your own. Most people should not get married until they really know their nature, have come to grips with it, and have a life plan which takes until you are about 30. Some younger, some older.

Once there, as billfred, 30 to 40 is a time of executing the plan and attaining goals. 40-50 is for advancing those goals and reaching your maximum earning/ power positon and hopefully cementing yourself at the pinnacle of your plan. Ask me in ten years how 50- 60 goes.

Fitness, feelings and spirituality are all well and good but in the end economic success defines how we are percieved by most people, how we will live our lives, and how comfortable our retirment will be. Fitness, feelings, and spirituality guide us in choices, help us recover from adversity, and help us have faith as we execute the plan but most of society does not see them as metrics of success.

S

I agree... and was fortunate to grow up comfortably, but financial succes is what drives the show... you need money... thats' why I'm altering my education at this stage of the game to something I can make a better living, and yes the cold hard truth it is alot easier to be spiritual if not bogged down with financial worries. So true... Hiearchy of needs...
Maslow was a stud.

 

[roadwarrior]

I agree... and was fortunate to grow up comfortably, but financial succes is what drives the show... you need money... thats' why I'm altering my education at this stage of the game to something I can make a better living, and yes the cold hard truth it is alot easier to be spiritual if not bogged down with financial worries. So true... Hiearchy of needs...
Maslow was a stud.

Big difference between needs and wants. I am teaching the hierarchy of needs and critical thinking to my kids at 10 years old.

 

[txbondsman]

Bingo... young people can be smart but are rarely wise. Same goes for liberal... easy to be liberal when it's not your money that you want redistributed... many people become conservative after they have mortgages ,children, and retirement accounts. I was a child of the late 60's and 70 as I moved into my teens and became more aware. As such, I was very liberal but that has changed considerably. I now consider myself a conservative libertarian but never a republican.

^^ good post...

from 20 (1980) to 30 (1990), humm, I was in the self-indulgent fog of debauchary till much later in the 90's. I was closer to 40 before I caught a clue. Faterhood will do that....

 

[hurricane]

shyt alotttt .. i ditched alot of worthless friends .. i got my career together.. stopped smoking weed& cigss .. eat heathlier and more heath smart ..did pretty good

 

[samoth]

I stopped wearing bullets around my waist in public.

 

[txbondsman]

I stopped wearing bullets around my waist in public.

Samoth....AAP, Samoth...... AAP, can't figure which one is more warped.....

 

[Cutiebaby]

From 17-27 I have changed a lot. I guess I owe the change to my kids and the responsibility that comes along with their noisy asses.