From 20 to 30... a decade, how much have you changed?

[-Ariel-]

I found the 30 to 40 decade to be great. You are more balanced, level headed, financially secure and still able to keep in top fit form.

You get all that at 40 as well except you start to see that you really start to decline physically. Not saying you can't stay fit - it is just a lot harder work with the injuries and overall performance.

Yeah, I noticed that I'm slightly more level headed, than I once was, but I'm in grad school and gonna be in medschool in June, so financial security is not one of my strengths right now, I am naturally fairly lean, but getting soft as I took the last 3 weeks off, starting back up monday... thats kewl, I hope my transition will be like yours. I think that 40 is the new 30 of 20 years ago.

 

[-Ariel-]

I found that I changed quite a bit from 20 to 30. In my 20s, I wanted to take on the world and be the next CEO billionaire. After having a family, alot of those prior goals were put into perspective of other things.

I would make a stereotypical comment on strong familial piety and asian culture, but I don't feel like it... I don't have the invincibility of my 20's anymore either... but I don't feel the impetus to have the warmth and caring and love a family provides either. Weird... dude in flux is what I am I guess.

 

[-Ariel-]

My early 20's rocked but was in a car crash in 1997 and broke my patella in half. Three and a half years and six surgeries later it's all good but didn't really bounce back till 29-30...

Hehe about Vista, I have no isses with it. And I have quit a job before because they would not get me a PC, the mac was to slow for me at the time. I'm down with Mac, just not the iPhones.

See thats why you resent fatties so much, cause you have paid the price, made the comeback, and lived a life of discipline, I have a great memory, especially when it comes stories, I remember you said that while on you don't do cardio and eat only rice and chicken breasts, or something like that... dude that is the discipline of a zen master, I don't even compare to that line of thinking... and thats why my shit is getting soft... and can't understand how someone can let themselves go...
see SF how I tell stories... it can get a little silly and pretentious at times

 

[ponyfitness]

My life and my attitude towards it is hugely different at 33 than 23. I think it is true that wisdom comes with age, and your perspectives change dramatically when you are faced with your own mortality and seeing what your friends go through along with losing family members, etc.

I think my biggest change was realizing that the whole school, family money protecting you bubble goes away and you don't have any clue what to do so you have to learn pretty fast. Same with relationships - you learn constantly.

 

[SaladFork]

See thats why you resent fatties so much, cause you have paid the price, made the comeback, and lived a life of discipline, I have a great memory, especially when it comes stories, I remember you said that while on you don't do cardio and eat only rice and chicken breasts, or something like that... dude that is the discipline of a zen master, I don't even compare to that line of thinking... and thats why my shit is getting soft... and can't understand how someone can let themselves go...
see SF how I tell stories... it can get a little silly and pretentious at times

I really don't hate the fatties, well today I don't. I just erks me to no end sometimes people with no self worth. If I can eat chicken and brown rice for every meal for 2.5 months than so can they. I am not doing cardio because of my metabolism, I loose weight to fast no matter how much I eat and lift. Last summer I was doing triathlons and duathlons so my cardio was tip top and I was ripped but this summer i'm focusing on gaining 10-15lbs trying to get to 215-220 with 10% bf. I just have the ecto body type that allows me to keep low bf if I watch what I eat.

Once I hit 30 it all made sense to me, it was time for me to get back on the fitness train and not look back. Quit feeling sorry for myself over my knee and just fuckin DO IT! The knee was a mental fuck for me cause I was very athletic and in great shape. I never gained weight I lost it, at one point I was 140lbs. I got back up to 165 and hovered there forever. I put on 35lbs of muscle in 3 years natty before I did my first cycle this year.

 

[sixxtoes]

got 3 years to go, but my perspective on life has changed dramatically, how i view it and how i live it.

It took and long term relationship break up, and death of a loved one, and a trip to Iraq to learn that you only have one life, live it. anything can be taken from you in a heart beat, including you own life, why not enjoy it till it ends.

 

[roadwarrior]

I was reading an article on how personal change is so difficult due to our past centered way of thinking... we keep expecting the new, yet this is really insane since we rely mainly on the established perceptions, thoughts, behaviors that have been established in our heads...

I got this idea for a thread from AAP's thread in combination with this pscyh article while I procrastinate here on campus library... so nice and quiet.

However, I also thought how much I have changed in a decade, like I reflect on the new patterns of thoughts that have been established and the adventures I had in my mid twenties, the good times and the consequences of mistakes, I really haven't changed as much as I would have liked too, from 20 to 30... maybe a litte more cognizant of the future and definitely not digging on going out nearly as much. Perhaps more wary of people, oh and at 20 I thought I would be married in and settled in 5 or 6 years, but not the case, now I have a totally different view on marriage...

Has anyone changed significantly in the last decade, like made huge personal changes or worldview perceptions?

I don't think most people are fully mature until 30. A lot of maturation and self awareness occurs post college when you are on your own. Most people should not get married until they really know their nature, have come to grips with it, and have a life plan which takes until you are about 30. Some younger, some older.

Once there, as billfred, 30 to 40 is a time of executing the plan and attaining goals. 40-50 is for advancing those goals and reaching your maximum earning/ power positon and hopefully cementing yourself at the pinnacle of your plan. Ask me in ten years how 50- 60 goes.

Fitness, feelings and spirituality are all well and good but in the end economic success defines how we are percieved by most people, how we will live our lives, and how comfortable our retirment will be. Fitness, feelings, and spirituality guide us in choices, help us recover from adversity, and help us have faith as we execute the plan but most of society does not see them as metrics of success.

S

 

[stephen4327]

whats wrong with the iphone SF?

 

[roadwarrior]

My life and my attitude towards it is hugely different at 33 than 23. I think it is true that wisdom comes with age, and your perspectives change dramatically when you are faced with your own mortality and seeing what your friends go through along with losing family members, etc.

I think my biggest change was realizing that the whole school, family money protecting you bubble goes away and you don't have any clue what to do so you have to learn pretty fast. Same with relationships - you learn constantly.

Bingo... young people can be smart but are rarely wise. Same goes for liberal... easy to be liberal when it's not your money that you want redistributed... many people become conservative after they have mortgages ,children, and retirement accounts. I was a child of the late 60's and 70 as I moved into my teens and became more aware. As such, I was very liberal but that has changed considerably. I now consider myself a conservative libertarian but never a republican.

 

[digimon7068]

let's see. . .ummm. . .how about. . .night and day. . .ummm. . .yup. . .that pretty much sums it up. . .