From 20 to 30... a decade, how much have you changed?

[-Ariel-]

I was reading an article on how personal change is so difficult due to our past centered way of thinking... we keep expecting the new, yet this is really insane since we rely mainly on the established perceptions, thoughts, behaviors that have been established in our heads...

I got this idea for a thread from AAP's thread in combination with this pscyh article while I procrastinate here on campus library... so nice and quiet.

However, I also thought how much I have changed in a decade, like I reflect on the new patterns of thoughts that have been established and the adventures I had in my mid twenties, the good times and the consequences of mistakes, I really haven't changed as much as I would have liked too, from 20 to 30... maybe a litte more cognizant of the future and definitely not digging on going out nearly as much. Perhaps more wary of people, oh and at 20 I thought I would be married in and settled in 5 or 6 years, but not the case, now I have a totally different view on marriage...

Has anyone changed significantly in the last decade, like made huge personal changes or worldview perceptions?

 

[silverstar1025]

I am not 30 yet. I will find this thread in 2 yrs and get back with you.

 

[velvett]

I was reading an article on how personal change is so difficult due to our past centered way of thinking... we keep expecting the new, yet this is really insane since we rely mainly on the established perceptions, thoughts, behaviors that have been established in our heads...

However, I also thought how much I have changed in a decade, like I reflect on the new patterns of thoughts that have been established and the adventures I had in my mid twenties, the good times and the consequences of mistakes, I really haven't changed as much as I would have liked too, from 20 to 30... maybe a litte more cognizant of the future and definitely not digging on going out nearly as much. Perhaps more wary of people, oh and at 20 I thought I would be married in and settled in 5 or 6 years, but not the case, now I have a totally different view on marriage...

Has anyone changed significantly in the last decade, like made huge personal changes or worldview perceptions?

My largest growth as a person happened between 17-29, I learned about myself, others and made a long series of mistakes early on, many of which I should made as a teen but never had the opportunity. It was a necessary process to live through and all in all I have few moments that I'd change.

In retrospect, I do miss that part of me that without a thought pushed logical and consequences aside to do anything, go anywhere or try something and never took maybe or no for an answer.

Despite that I don't think I have had any huge personality changes, I see myself as the same as I was in grade school just with more responsibilities and my perception of life and others on a large scale were always pretty solid and have never changed but have grown more detailed.

 

[SaladFork]

I changed alot once I hit 30, my 20's sucked... 30's are rockin so far.

 

[-Ariel-]

My largest growth as a person happened between 17-29, I learned about myself, others and made a long series of mistakes early on, many of which I should made as a teen but never had the opportunity. It was a necessary process to live through and all in all I have few moments that I'd changed.

In retrospect I do miss that part of me that without a thought pushed logical and consequences aside to do anything, go anywhere or try something and never took maybe or no for an answer.

Despite that I don't think I have any huge personal changes, I see myself as the same as I was in grade school just with more responsibilities and my perception of life and others on a large scale were always pretty solid and have never changed but have grown more detailed.

The thing I dig most about you is your ability to put into words what I can't you clearly are able to express parts of what I'm thinking but miss on...
yeah, I also miss out on the wildness of just doing what I want to do, but the impetus or drive to just go out and trying to entice some young chic into letting me get on her has decreased significantly, I mean that part of the mojo has decreased. I mean I love my situation of being on campus alot and surrounded by hawtness, but I don't feel the compelling or driving need to hook up. Yes, my test levels are solid, and in a relationship, but in the past while I didn't cheat, I still was a lot more tempted. I also don't feel nearly as funny as I once was... I dunno, its weird.

However, values are pretty much the same, but yes more detailed or specific is definitely the phrase I was looking for. I think... trust is much more valued than before, and I also need more time alone as I get older...

 

[stosstruppe]

I'll let you old farts know when I hit 30

 

[billfred]

I found the 30 to 40 decade to be great. You are more balanced, level headed, financially secure and still able to keep in top fit form.

You get all that at 40 as well except you start to see that you really start to decline physically. Not saying you can't stay fit - it is just a lot harder work with the injuries and overall performance.

 

[-Ariel-]

I changed alot once I hit 30, my 20's sucked... 30's are rockin so far.

Its funny the assumptions that are in one's head, I would've thought your 20s rocked out due to your persona... I make up alot of stories in my head about people based on assumptions, and while they make for good reading sometimes, they are not always accurate... I would have to agree with you on you rocking your 30's, also SF, today marked the last day of me using my S O's laptop, and dude, vista blows... I have been salivating for my mac now for 2 days, I'm not calling you out and your beloved, just sayin,
but in reality I'm as computer oriented as stephen hawking is athletic, so my notebook preferences are as a valuable as they seem... hot garbage.

 

[EnderJE]

I found that I changed quite a bit from 20 to 30. In my 20s, I wanted to take on the world and be the next CEO billionaire. After having a family, alot of those prior goals were put into perspective of other things.

 

[SaladFork]

Its funny the assumptions that are in one's head, I would've thought your 20s rocked out due to your persona... I make up alot of stories in my head about people based on assumptions, and while they make for good reading sometimes, they are not always accurate... I would have to agree with you on you rocking your 30's, also SF, today marked the last day of me using my S O's laptop, and dude, vista blows... I have been salivating for my mac now for 2 days, I'm not calling you out and your beloved, just sayin,
but in reality I'm as computer oriented as stephen hawking is athletic, so my notebook preferences are as a valuable as they seem... hot garbage.

My early 20's rocked but was in a car crash in 1997 and broke my patella in half. Three and a half years and six surgeries later it's all good but didn't really bounce back till 29-30...

Hehe about Vista, I have no isses with it. And I have quit a job before because they would not get me a PC, the mac was to slow for me at the time. I'm down with Mac, just not the iPhones.