Friends With Benefits - Why Can't We Have The Cake And Eat It Too?

[ceo]

It Just Me Or It Seem The Ones You Find So Incredibly Attractive To Are The Ones That You Have Nothing In Common But Just Physicalness...and Among Other Things "benefits"

sweet.

 

[javaguru]

sweet.

Would you hit it?

 

[caligirl]

learn how to play the game and not make classic fuckups that turn a great relationship into a shitty stale one

fuckups include: expecting your lover to be your emotional sponge, not trying as hard later in the relationship as you did in the beginning (basic complacency) etc etc

for chicks, the forumla is as follows:

find a guy that turns you on
DONT FUCK HIM
get him to hang with you and invest in you emotionally
DONT FUCK HIM
get him to actually like you
DONT FUCK HIM
keep being attractive
DONT FUCK HIM
keep being fun, not let your bullshit drama infect his life
DONT FUCK HIM
keep doing that for a month
then slowly work your way to sex...but not too fast

the end.

the wrong way to do it (most common) for chicks is

find a guy that turns you on
fuck him too quickly
expect him to be your boyfriend/mom/dad/best friend/counsellor rolled into one
get bored
wonder why he isnt attractive anymore
find another guy you think is attractive
proceed to ruin him too

the end.

i'm waiting on the directions for guys here......i'm curious

 

[mobro]

learn how to play the game and not make classic fuckups that turn a great relationship into a shitty stale one

fuckups include: expecting your lover to be your emotional sponge, not trying as hard later in the relationship as you did in the beginning (basic complacency) etc etc

for chicks, the forumla is as follows:

find a guy that turns you on
DONT FUCK HIM
get him to hang with you and invest in you emotionally
DONT FUCK HIM
get him to actually like you
DONT FUCK HIM
keep being attractive
DONT FUCK HIM
keep being fun, not let your bullshit drama infect his life
DONT FUCK HIM
keep doing that for a month
then slowly work your way to sex...but not too fast

the end.

the wrong way to do it (most common) for chicks is

find a guy that turns you on
fuck him too quickly
expect him to be your boyfriend/mom/dad/best friend/counsellor rolled into one
get bored
wonder why he isnt attractive anymore
find another guy you think is attractive
proceed to ruin him too

the end.

my two favorites (in bold)

 

[anthrax]

For guys, friends with benefits are the best you can have: sex without the regular female BS

 

[slat1]

for chicks, the forumla is as follows:

find a guy that turns you on
DONT FUCK HIM
get him to hang with you and invest in you emotionally
DONT FUCK HIM
get him to actually like you
DONT FUCK HIM
keep being attractive
DONT FUCK HIM
keep being fun, not let your bullshit drama infect his life
DONT FUCK HIM
keep doing that for a month
then slowly work your way to sex...but not too fast

the end.

Yup. That guy will marry you.
They guy that does not wait does not give a shit about you.

 

[needtogetaas]

I want a friend with With Benefits other then my wife....now dont get me wrong I dont want to fuck her/him.I want them to come to my house and just be my slave.cook,clean,back rubs,dont even have to be a girl.lol

 

[Nathan]

i'm waiting on the directions for guys here......i'm curious

GD got it right. It's bad to say I realize, but girls I've dated that I slept with too quick, and while I didn't really get it at the time, in the back of my mind as soon as that happened, I was very much emotionally detached. I haven't been in this situation enough unfortunately, but I only go after girls I'm attracted to obviously so when one of them makes me work, I get really excited. Why? She ends up making me feel secure and I trust her - and then in turn want to make her feel the same way. In the past, other girls I usually just would rather sleep with than worry about. Is that a double standard? In my defense, it's fucking hard saying no as a guy sometimes. It kind of sucks I guess that it falls on the girl but, hey, it does. Guys have other responsibilities.

 

[manny78]

For guys, friends with benefits are the best you can have: sex without the regular female BS

So true...as long as it remains that way cause most of the time one or both will try to push it to the next level.

 

[Wendy21]

friends with benefits is just a disaster waiting to happen...it is always too complicated