Ex wife can't stop with the drama

[goin on 4T]

I agree with you that the children come first, but she may have just been ill expressing understandable frustrations. He's got to make sure that he's taking good care of her and making sure she knows he appreciates the sacrifices she makes in dealing with an angry vindictive ex. Some people just aren't strong enough to deal with that, though, so who knows...it's a really shitty situation.

I think that is where the relationship ended. I don't think she realized or I did not tell her enough that I appreciate her dealing with that cvnt!

 

[all the whey]

I think that is where the relationship ended. I don't think she realized or I did not tell her enough that I appreciate her dealing with that cvnt!

Why did you have so many kids with a cunt?

 

[nefertiti]

I think that is where the relationship ended. I don't think she realized or I did not tell her enough that I appreciate her dealing with that cvnt!

That's SO important. If you can't salvage things with the gf - though I'd still try, just TELL HER - remember it in the future. It is SO hard being where I am, and where i'm guessing she was/is. If I didn't get constant reminders of how much it's appreciated, I'm not sure I'd be able to handle it as well. It's work for me, and it's work for him.

You are going to deal with this issue with any decent woman who sticks around and tries to work with you. If she's worth it to try and work things through, then make things happen. If not, then learn a lesson here and make sure that you really do your part to make sure the woman in your life doesn't feel taken for granted.

 

[NEO1]

Dayamn...

Well I feel for ya and wish you luck cuz that is a very shitty situation, but let's be honest. You did marry her and as sketch would say......FAIL!

 

[mrplunkey]

Well the most recent started that my gf and were going with her sis/hus +2 kids to disneyland. It is the x's weekend with the kids. I wanted to take the 3yo, she didn't want me too. she said to take the 5 yo alone and make it special. So couple days later i said we are going to take the 5yo alone. She said you cant do that you need to take the 7yo too (I have 4 grlz). we got into a huge battle throwing out lots of bad stuff about each other and she said alot of bad things about my gf too. she has a problem with my gf because my gf does alot for the girls and they love her. so i was supposed to get the girls two days early for my weekend because x is going to vegas. Gf said don't take them, x got really pissed things have been very bad since and now gf says i am done with the drama...

Iron-clad hand-off agreement for the children. It must state the days and holidays you get them -- down to the specific time they are handed-off.

Do the same thing for holidays and vactions too. Fully specified rules, all the way down to who is responsible for picking them up, etc. etc.

Then submit the thing as a consent order to the court and get the judge to sign-off on it. Then breaching it is contempt of court.

 

[goin on 4T]

Iron-clad hand-off agreement for the children. It must state the days and holidays you get them -- down to the specific time they are handed-off.

Do the same thing for holidays and vactions too. Fully specified rules, all the way down to who is responsible for picking them up, etc. etc.

Then submit the thing as a consent order to the court and get the judge to sign-off on it. Then breaching it is contempt of court.

Yes, that is good. But the problem was it wasn't my weekend, it wasn't a vacation and it just came up 1 week before we went.
I get the girls holloween night, we will see how that works out she is going to bitch about halloween night and seeing the girls!But halloween is not in the court order.

 

[mrplunkey]

Yes, that is good. But the problem was it wasn't my weekend, it wasn't a vacation and it just came up 1 week before we went.
I get the girls holloween night, we will see how that works out she is going to bitch about halloween night and seeing the girls!But halloween is not in the court order.

When there is animosity between you two, your only choice is to stick to the iron-clad agreement with no questions asked. Right after my divorce, we never asked for a single deviation in the schedule. Then, over time, it loosens-up and becomes reasonable. Early on though, iron-clad adherence is your best tool.

 

[jnevin]

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[-Ariel-]

That's the real problem.

She's alone and now she has to make sure that you are miserable too.

+1
Never dealt with vengeful X, so no clue how to handle...
Good luck bro.
If GF can't deal with situation, that is a sign she really is not committed to building. IMO.
Don't know how much drama is impacting her life.
So its too easy for me to say she's not committed.
Go with your gut on this one.

 

[beach_bum_dude]

Iron-clad hand-off agreement for the children. It must state the days and holidays you get them -- down to the specific time they are handed-off.

Do the same thing for holidays and vactions too. Fully specified rules, all the way down to who is responsible for picking them up, etc. etc.

Then submit the thing as a consent order to the court and get the judge to sign-off on it. Then breaching it is contempt of court.

Sadly, this is probably the best option here. I don't see a pleasant end in sight for you my friend, and I hate that more for the children than you. Best of luck! I've been through a similiar situation and it's a rough road for everyone, especially the kids.