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Creepusmaximus
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Go OJ on her ass.
Ex wife can't stop with the drama
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Go OJ on her ass.
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IMHO The gf has no business giving you shit for the fact that your ex is being a doucheknuckle.
My husband has gone through A MOUNTAIN of shit because of my ex and he doesn't take it out on me. It isn't fair to you.
Honestly? If the gf "has had enough drama" then send her ass packing. pointblank.
Yea, your ex is a monumental douche to tell the ANY of the kids anything until the adults have ironed out the details. But now the damage is done (in so far as they already know about it). Just tell the 7 y/o that "this wasn't the case, that it was a misunderstanding between the grown-ups" - this way you don't hurt yourself in the child's eyes by downing her mother.
And never ever EVER consider taking one child somewhere without the other again. I don't give a shit whose idea it was. I have four kids too. And there is a hyuge difference between spending a little one-on-one time with a child and an entire disney vacation when the children are so close in age.
The ex is being a bitch but that is a separate issue from the gf going off the deep-end giving you shit for drama.
Really... the gf needs the heave ho.
My husband has gone through A MOUNTAIN of shit because of my ex and he doesn't take it out on me. It isn't fair to you.
Honestly? If the gf "has had enough drama" then send her ass packing. pointblank.
Yea, your ex is a monumental douche to tell the ANY of the kids anything until the adults have ironed out the details. But now the damage is done (in so far as they already know about it). Just tell the 7 y/o that "this wasn't the case, that it was a misunderstanding between the grown-ups" - this way you don't hurt yourself in the child's eyes by downing her mother.
And never ever EVER consider taking one child somewhere without the other again. I don't give a shit whose idea it was. I have four kids too. And there is a hyuge difference between spending a little one-on-one time with a child and an entire disney vacation when the children are so close in age.
The ex is being a bitch but that is a separate issue from the gf going off the deep-end giving you shit for drama.
Really... the gf needs the heave ho.
canadianhitman
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Yup...your kids should always come first. If a woman can't deal with some inevitable rough patches that will occur between you and your ex...who you WILL have to deal with for a long time because you share children...then she's not compatible with you. Send her packing and try again.
I agree. She should not get so involved in my x's actions however.
My x is the real problem.
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It is your job to learn to deal with your ex better, HOWEVER, your gf shouldn't deliver ultimatums.
As I said my husband puts up with MINDBOGGLING bullshit from my ex and never has he delivered an ultimatum. I tell him regulary, "Baby, this isn't fair to you. I feel I've destroyed your life. If you walked away I wouldn't blame you..."
Hell I am all F***ed up she got home from work and said she didn't say she was done. So we went over what she said a few times and to me she said it to her she didn't. Either way I felt she was riding my shit, and I got tired of it. So she left to a friends crying, because I don't want to try to figure out how we can work together better dealing with the x.
That's the real problem.
She's alone and now she has to make sure that you are miserable too.
I told my current bf...who has two children by another woman...and said other woman is one of the most evil cvnts i've ever come accross (and I never use that word, but she is)..."If you ever had to end things with me for the sake of your children, I would be heartbroken but I would forgive you instantly. As far as I'm concerned, the girls come before the both of us and I only want what's best for them."
That said, it's very very very hard dealing with someone who is vndictive, evil, a drunk, and seeks only to make him as miserable as she is.
The reason I deal with it is because I love him THAT MUCH, and because he always lets me know just how much he appreciates the shit I'm willing to deal with, even from him when he gets moody from her bullshit.
I agree with you that the children come first, but she may have just been ill expressing understandable frustrations. He's got to make sure that he's taking good care of her and making sure she knows he appreciates the sacrifices she makes in dealing with an angry vindictive ex. Some people just aren't strong enough to deal with that, though, so who knows...it's a really shitty situation.
