Drama-free girlfriend thread

[Hiatussin]

I´m 19, she turns 18 in two weeks. We´ve been together for nearly two years, for the last year I´ve been in university and she´s a senior in High School, we live about 4 hours apart and see each other for weekends, every other weekend or so.

She´s pretty and smart and in good shape and does anything to please me, her friends nag at her to stfu about me already. She´s looking to come to the same university now, after she finishes HS.

I´m kind of scared. My DAD of all people is even hinting me to stop bothering with this young girl and start shagging student girls left and right.

If she comes here, which isn´t the most obvious choice, it´s a pretty big step. She´s really great, but I never imagined my life experience with women to stay limited to only one. Of course it´s not like that and we can still break up later, but I´d be in a long term relationship during my BA student years.

Some people are telling me to let go, others are saying that would be crazy, to break up only for fear of missing out on other things when in the mean time you´re having a great relationship. We never fight, the sex is good, we have mutual trust...

 

[BrothaBill]

wtf? EF's turned into a freaking teen dating advice column in my absence!!! Man, if you are into shagging girls and even considering taking the advice of a father who would give you that oh so sagely advice then cut the girl loose so she goes onto please other guys until she gets jaded and used up, rode hard and put away wet a few times cuz who cares? You dont, just live a shallow and meaningless existance by getting your penis wet every now an again with a perfect incubated medium for growing stds

You need some drama in your threads, hows that? Its what sells here on ef, you aint got nuthing kid, nuthin' if you aint got drama

 

[DieselGunz]

wtf? EF's turned into a freaking teen dating advice column in my absence!!! Man, if you are into shagging girls and even considering taking the advice of a father who would give you that oh so sagely advice then cut the girl loose so she goes onto please other guys until she gets jaded and used up, rode hard and put away wet a few times cuz who cares? You dont, just live a shallow and meaningless existance by getting your penis wet every now an again with a perfect incubated medium for growing stds

DAAAAMMMMNNNNN

 

[Hiatussin]

wtf? EF's turned into a freaking teen dating advice column in my absence!!! Man, if you are into shagging girls and even considering taking the advice of a father who would give you that oh so sagely advice then cut the girl loose so she goes onto please other guys until she gets jaded and used up, rode hard and put away wet a few times cuz who cares? You dont, just live a shallow and meaningless existance by getting your penis wet every now an again with a perfect incubated medium for growing stds

You need some drama in your threads, hows that? Its what sells here on ef, you aint got nuthing kid, nuthin' if you aint got drama

 

[sweed]

if you have been together for 2 years and thinking its not a good idea, then you 2 need to take some time off, get to know some other people and if you find yourselves back together then you know its right.
ya she might not like it, you might not like it, but after a few beers and some x , you wont be thinking clearly and having a good ol time with a blonde named Kristy.
I read about your pops thread; crazy. do what u think is good brother.

 

[BrothaBill]

lol, you should been here like in january february and march of this year, it was awesome.
Bombsquad, associates, infiltrators, spies, karma robbers, schemes, behind the scenes infiltrators, sex, lies and audiotapes, debates, used to that you couldnt keep up with the new posts the board moved so fast!! Biteme was a ghost, Ultcasterdropout was a ticking timebomb, AAP vs Jersey, good times, now its teen angst and I coulda/woulda/shoulda get laid or cant, used to be deeper than this, used to like we were all training for covert CIA missions here learning to discuss any topic for any situation a spy might find himself in.
Bleh, I need some sleep, fuck, we had a cult in the spring that drove a member to leave on a fake trip to Greece to escape the cult. Cmon man, effort, we need talented people putting effort into the board to make it fun again!!

 

[sweed]

lol, you should been here like in january february and march of this year, it was awesome.
Bombsquad, associates, infiltrators, spies, karma robbers, schemes, behind the scenes infiltrators, sex, lies and audiotapes, debates, used to that you couldnt keep up with the new posts the board moved so fast!! Biteme was a ghost, Ultcasterdropout was a ticking timebomb, AAP vs Jersey, good times, now its teen angst and I coulda/woulda/shoulda get laid or cant, used to be deeper than this, used to like we were all training for covert CIA missions here learning to discuss any topic for any situation a spy might find himself in.
Bleh, I need some sleep, fuck, we had a cult in the spring that drove a member to leave on a fake trip to Greece to escape the cult. Cmon man, effort, we need talented people putting effort into the board to make it fun again!!

im going out with a gay co-worker to a club that another co-worker works at to get wasted.. does that make me gay, no... just going to have fun. this isn;t worth a thread in your eyes , so just lettin ya know

 

[BrothaBill]

im going out with a gay co-worker to a club that another co-worker works at to get wasted.. does that make me gay, no... just going to have fun. this isn;t worth a thread in your eyes , so just lettin ya know

If you go and have fun, does that not make you gay?

 

[H_T_]

you're straight?

 

[DieselGunz]

lol, you should been here like in january february and march of this year, it was awesome.
Bombsquad, associates, infiltrators, spies, karma robbers, schemes, behind the scenes infiltrators, sex, lies and audiotapes, debates, used to that you couldnt keep up with the new posts the board moved so fast!! Biteme was a ghost, Ultcasterdropout was a ticking timebomb, AAP vs Jersey, good times, now its teen angst and I coulda/woulda/shoulda get laid or cant, used to be deeper than this, used to like we were all training for covert CIA missions here learning to discuss any topic for any situation a spy might find himself in.
Bleh, I need some sleep, fuck, we had a cult in the spring that drove a member to leave on a fake trip to Greece to escape the cult. Cmon man, effort, we need talented people putting effort into the board to make it fun again!!

LOl those were the days and i was only here for half of them

 

[sweed]

If you go and have fun, does that not make you gay?

i will hav fun... but when the fun goes into the bedroom with a girl.. then thats self explainitory. having fun with a gay friend goes to a certain point, lol. so yes, if i have fun, it will keep me straight, lol

 

[HiDnGoD]

Hi, stick with the girl 'til it runs its course. I started dating a girl when she was in grade 9. Everybody said we were perfect for each other & would end up getting married. I fucking hated that. We started going out 5 Nov. 1980. We're still together.
Do what you want. Don't let your old man ruin what could be the love of your life. Everybody has doubts, wonders about the tail on the other side of the fence. Do what you think is right.
OMG, 17yo tail. Mmmmmmmmm. haven't had that in about 20years.

 

[pintoca]

lol, you should been here like in january february and march of this year, it was awesome.
Bombsquad, associates, infiltrators, spies, karma robbers, schemes, behind the scenes infiltrators, sex, lies and audiotapes, debates, used to that you couldnt keep up with the new posts the board moved so fast!! Biteme was a ghost, Ultcasterdropout was a ticking timebomb, AAP vs Jersey, good times, now its teen angst and I coulda/woulda/shoulda get laid or cant, used to be deeper than this, used to like we were all training for covert CIA missions here learning to discuss any topic for any situation a spy might find himself in.
Bleh, I need some sleep, fuck, we had a cult in the spring that drove a member to leave on a fake trip to Greece to escape the cult. Cmon man, effort, we need talented people putting effort into the board to make it fun again!!

We need Samoth and Jonnny!!!

(please don't forget the travelling IP addy)

 

[KillahBee]

I personally feel (for the most part) long-term relationships as a teenager/young adult are extremely unhealthy. 99.9% of them do not last and they usually help to lay the foundation for a sense of dependency in the future. Also, as lame as it may sound now, these relationships do typically cause you to miss out on many other opportunities (whether that means sex or love or dating or whatever). Hell, even the few relationships like that that do last and end up in amrriage later give me the wrong feeling cause how can two people truly think they belong with each other when they have only been with each other? It's a recipe for disaster, IMO.

That being said, who is to say you should end it simply because of what could (or most likely will) happen? If it was just a relationship we were discussing, I would say let nature run its course and og with it. BUT, since it looks like major life decisions are being made based on this relationship, that's a whole other story. I probably know half a dozen people that chose a college or first job based on wanting to stay close to their boyfriend/girlfriend, and then REALLY regretted it years later. It just all seems very short sighted to me, which is hard to convince anyone your age of.

 

[HiDnGoD]

I personally feel (for the most part) long-term relationships as a teenager/young adult are extremely unhealthy. 99.9% of them do not last and they usually help to lay the foundation for a sense of dependency in the future. Also, as lame as it may sound now, these relationships do typically cause you to miss out on many other opportunities (whether that means sex or love or dating or whatever). Hell, even the few relationships like that that do last and end up in amrriage later give me the wrong feeling cause how can two people truly think they belong with each other when they have only been with each other? It's a recipe for disaster, IMO.

That being said, who is to say you should end it simply because of what could (or most likely will) happen? If it was just a relationship we were discussing, I would say let nature run its course and og with it. BUT, since it looks like major life decisions are being made based on this relationship, that's a whole other story. I probably know half a dozen people that chose a college or first job based on wanting to stay close to their boyfriend/girlfriend, and then REALLY regretted it years later. It just all seems very short sighted to me, which is hard to convince anyone your age of.

Wifey & I have talked about that. We each consider ourselves extremely lucky to have found each other & realize how it could have gone wrong. There was a time, befoere we were married, when it was a long distance relationship. I mean, we saw each other twice a year. During that time we sowed our wild oats, no questions asked. That may be what helped us settle down with each other.
About the bold section. If 2 peopple are happy & satisfied, then they are right for each other. There may be someone better, but how would you know to take the chance of ever finding that better person.

 

[riverrock]

Take ir first hand from me Bro - Ignore the advice of others! I'm not talking about this forum as its general chat and you posted the question - I'm talking about people around you at home and school who barely know you in depth, yes have no problem in handing over their £0.02 worth all the same. Do you think they have your best emotional interests at heart? If they did, they'd tell you to follow your heart and make your own mind up. Otherwise, you might spend years like I did regretting following others advice and losing your teenage sweetheart. Things mightn't have worked out anyhow, but I'd rather have found out either way.............

 

[KillahBee]

About the bold section. If 2 peopple are happy & satisfied, then they are right for each other. There may be someone better, but how would you know to take the chance of ever finding that better person.

I agree somewhat, but how many people have thought they were in love only to figure out later (through experience) that they really weren't? I'd bet 9 out of 10.

 

[pintoca]

I agree somewhat, but how many people have thought they were in love only to figure out later (through experience) that they really weren't? I'd bet 9 out of 10.

so easy to mistake love for lust

after all, they both have 4 letters and begin with L, right?

 

[Delinquent]

I personally feel (for the most part) long-term relationships as a teenager/young adult are extremely unhealthy. 99.9% of them do not last and they usually help to lay the foundation for a sense of dependency in the future. Also, as lame as it may sound now, these relationships do typically cause you to miss out on many other opportunities (whether that means sex or love or dating or whatever). Hell, even the few relationships like that that do last and end up in amrriage later give me the wrong feeling cause how can two people truly think they belong with each other when they have only been with each other? It's a recipe for disaster, IMO.

That being said, who is to say you should end it simply because of what could (or most likely will) happen? If it was just a relationship we were discussing, I would say let nature run its course and og with it. BUT, since it looks like major life decisions are being made based on this relationship, that's a whole other story. I probably know half a dozen people that chose a college or first job based on wanting to stay close to their boyfriend/girlfriend, and then REALLY regretted it years later. It just all seems very short sighted to me, which is hard to convince anyone your age of.

I do agree with this to a point. I was talking to my friend a while ago about how I kinda envied him for being able to live the college life to the fullest extent ie: partying all the time, fucking all kinds of girls, no limits, etc. He said sure that is good but he still goes home to an empty apartment everynight. So I guess there is always a flipside to the coin

 

[KillahBee]

I do agree with this to a point. I was talking to my friend a while ago about how I kinda envied him for being able to live the college life to the fullest extent ie: partying all the time, fucking all kinds of girls, no limits, etc. He said sure that is good but he still goes home to an empty apartment everynight. So I guess there is always a flipside to the coin

But I think that is the dangerous attitude that gets us all in trouble - why do we all feel that we are SUPPOSED to be with someone all the time? What is the logical reason behind all this? It's insane. He should be going home to an empty apt. Maybe he'll learn to handle life on his own during those important young adult years (just using him as an example).

 

[awittyusername]

Listen to your dad and hang with your friends, bang alot of chicks, etc.

I am over 30 now. All my friends are divorced from the chicks they were in love with in HS or college. Every single one wishes they wouldn't have fucked around so long with their gfs at such a young age. They all wish they would have gone out more...been with more girls...etc. But, of course after they got divorced they got married again to the first girl that gave them some decent pussy. Now, they say the same thing again

 

[Hiatussin]

The reason im kind of afraid to stay together with her is not that we might break up later. It´s that we might not

 

[BrothaBill]

i will hav fun... but when the fun goes into the bedroom with a girl.. then thats self explainitory. having fun with a gay friend goes to a certain point, lol. so yes, if i have fun, it will keep me straight, lol

OK, so you will have fun you admit, and fun means that you are happy, correct? And happy means that you will be gay, also correct? So you will have the gayyest of times being gay with your happy freeend, also true, correct? Did you know that biologically the penis is just an elarged clitorus?? So basically, if youve given a girl oral sex, then youve already basically sucked a dick, and if you were happy giving oral sex to a woman, then you were gay at the time, so basically, youre gay, basically, not that there's anything wrong with it, one of the ten coolest people in the world is AAP and he sux a mean clitorus, Stilleto told me that

 

[Sub-Zero]

wtf? EF's turned into a freaking teen dating advice column in my absence!!! Man, if you are into shagging girls and even considering taking the advice of a father who would give you that oh so sagely advice then cut the girl loose so she goes onto please other guys until she gets jaded and used up, rode hard and put away wet a few times cuz who cares? You dont, just live a shallow and meaningless existance by getting your penis wet every now an again with a perfect incubated medium for growing stds

blunt but i wish more people thought liek u

 

[EnderJE]

I´m 19, she turns 18 in two weeks. We´ve been together for nearly two years, for the last year I´ve been in university and she´s a senior in High School, we live about 4 hours apart and see each other for weekends, every other weekend or so.

She´s pretty and smart and in good shape and does anything to please me, her friends nag at her to stfu about me already. She´s looking to come to the same university now, after she finishes HS.

I´m kind of scared. My DAD of all people is even hinting me to stop bothering with this young girl and start shagging student girls left and right.

If she comes here, which isn´t the most obvious choice, it´s a pretty big step. She´s really great, but I never imagined my life experience with women to stay limited to only one. Of course it´s not like that and we can still break up later, but I´d be in a long term relationship during my BA student years.

Some people are telling me to let go, others are saying that would be crazy, to break up only for fear of missing out on other things when in the mean time you´re having a great relationship. We never fight, the sex is good, we have mutual trust...

Look at Boardin...he's your future. Even the part where he turns gay in about six months.

 

[Hiatussin]

Look at Boardin...he's your future. Even the part where he turns gay in about six months.

I dont know about boardin or who he is

 

[HiDnGoD]

The reason im kind of afraid to stay together with her is not that we might break up later. It´s that we might not

Are you afraid you'll just be settling, because you're OK together? Or are you afraid you will really love this girl forever & in doing that, you'll miss out on the wild, carefree days everyone talks about.?

 

[Hiatussin]

Are you afraid you'll just be settling, because you're OK together? Or are you afraid you will really love this girl forever & in doing that, you'll miss out on the wild, carefree days everyone talks about.?

It´s just so limited. My dad first married at 44 and experienced a lot of very different women before that. He says this is the reason he can be comfortable in marriage at all and he mocks people who get married young.

I´ve always had a whole to-do list in mind of types of girls to fall in love with

a genius
a whore
a child (of mind)
an athlete
a giantess
an artist

Now admitted all these elements are well descernable in my gf but especially going to University I always had this ideal in mind of going through a real experience-study of "Woman".

If I stay with her and eventually get married to her I´ll miss out on this. I don´t know whats right. My own dad tells me I dont chase enough tail. He´s a smart and succesful man.

 

[nycgirl]

You are thinking about this way too much. In my opinion, that shows you are not ready. Your dad is right. Go out there and have some fun. No, I'm not saying have sex with anything in a skirt. But date other people get to know what you like and don't like in a person.

The smart gal/whore/artist will come around again (they always do). When she does, you will be ready to jump in, in lieu of overanalyzing the situation.

 

[Hiatussin]

You are thinking about this way too much. In my opinion, that shows you are not ready. Your dad is right. Go out there and have some fun. No, I'm not saying have sex with anything in a skirt. But date other people get to know what you like and don't like in a person.

The smart gal/whore/artist will come around again (they always do). When she does, you will be ready to jump in, in lieu of overanalyzing the situation.

Of course I´m thinking about fucking girls

Im in uni in a course thats got more girls than guys

im a healthy 19 yr old

I wanna hit it

 

[pintoca]

You are thinking about this way too much. In my opinion, that shows you are not ready. Your dad is right. Go out there and have some fun. No, I'm not saying have sex with anything in a skirt. But date other people get to know what you like and don't like in a person.

The smart gal/whore/artist will come around again (they always do). When she does, you will be ready to jump in, in lieu of overanalyzing the situation.

not problem with anything with a skirt

girls in pants are also hot

hell, anything with a heartbeat will do

 

[Hiatussin]

not problem with anything with a skirt

girls in pants are also hot

hell, anything with a heartbeat will do

Id fuck that thing in your avi

 

[nycgirl]

Of course I´m thinking about fucking girls
Im in uni in a course thats got more girls than guys
im a healthy 19 yr old
I wanna hit it

I meant your are analyzing the potential relationship way too much.

Your above-refereced post, proves that you are not ready for this relationship. Be honest w/ the ladies & have fun.

Oh, and take pics for the horny old men on this forum.

 

[Lumberg]

how can two people truly think they belong with each other when they have only been with each other?

a) they are not insecure
b) there is more than one "right" person. This is just one. You can't hold out and try to find the best of the best. The relationship is what you make of it.

 

[pintoca]

I meant your are analyzing the potential relationship way too much.

Your above-refereced post, proves that you are not ready for this relationship. Be honest w/ the ladies & have fun.

Oh, and take pics for the horny old men on this forum.

and the young good looking ones too

(I hear they like to watch those things too)

 

[nycgirl]

and the young good looking ones too

(I hear they like to watch those things too)

Oh, yes, I forgot about the "young" late 20-somethings.

 

[pintoca]

Oh, yes, I forgot about the "young" late 20-somethings.

don't be mean to GoldenDelicious when he is not online to defend himself

 

[nycgirl]

don't be mean to GoldenDelicious when he is not online to defend himself

I would be never be mean to him (he's one of my favorites).

 

[HiDnGoD]

a) they are not insecure
b) there is more than one "right" person. This is just one. You can't hold out and try to find the best of the best. The relationship is what you make of it.

I've often thought about this. In reality, the wife & I barely knew each other when we got maried. We've both done a lot of compromising & getting to know each other. Hell, I'm still finding stuff out. But we've put a lot of work into it.
I can't see me being married to anyone else. But, if I had & put the same amount of work in, would I love them as much, or more? The love I have today is quite unlike the love that got us hitched, & we built this love together, so I think it is possible that almost any girl you connect with, if you don't annoy the shit out of each other, could be the one.

 

[HS Lifter]

I've often thought about this. In reality, the wife & I barely knew each other when we got maried. We've both done a lot of compromising & getting to know each other. Hell, I'm still finding stuff out. But we've put a lot of work into it.
I can't see me being married to anyone else. But, if I had & put the same amount of work in, would I love them as much, or more? The love I have today is quite unlike the love that got us hitched, & we built this love together, so I think it is possible that almost any girl you connect with, if you don't annoy the shit out of each other, could be the one.

We built this city.....

 

[Lumberg]

I've often thought about this. In reality, the wife & I barely knew each other when we got maried. We've both done a lot of compromising & getting to know each other. Hell, I'm still finding stuff out. But we've put a lot of work into it.
I can't see me being married to anyone else. But, if I had & put the same amount of work in, would I love them as much, or more? The love I have today is quite unlike the love that got us hitched, & we built this love together, so I think it is possible that almost any girl you connect with, if you don't annoy the shit out of each other, could be the one.

yep.