Does anyone else here not have many friends?

[Fast Twitch Fiber]

I'll be honest, I have a hard time making friends. I have social anxiety disorder and I'm just not comfortable meeting new people. I also have a hard time getting close to the people that I do meet. I'm talking about people of either gender. I'm even worse with women. My anxiety goes through the roof when I'm talking to someone that I'm attracted to. I tend not to say much because of the shyness and anxiety. This frequently is interpreted as being stuck up or rudeness by people that don't know me well.

 

[PICK3]

I'll be honest, I have a hard time making friends. I have social anxiety disorder and I'm just not comfortable meeting new people. I also have a hard time getting close to the people that I do meet. I'm talking about people of either gender. I'm even worse with women. My anxiety goes through the roof when I'm talking to someone that I'm attracted to. I tend not to say much because of the shyness and anxiety. This frequently is interpreted as being stuck up or rudeness by people that don't know me well.

Me too! But honestly I don't need tons of friends ... I'm thankful for the few good friends I have.

 

[Fast Twitch Fiber]

Me too! But honestly I don't need tons of friends ... I'm thankful for the few good friends I have.

I only have one person that I can call a good friend and we've been drifting apart lately.

 

[mylife]

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[monstermmf]

I'll be honest, I have a hard time making friends. I have social anxiety disorder and I'm just not comfortable meeting new people. I also have a hard time getting close to the people that I do meet. I'm talking about people of either gender. I'm even worse with women. My anxiety goes through the roof when I'm talking to someone that I'm attracted to. I tend not to say much because of the shyness and anxiety. This frequently is interpreted as being stuck up or rudeness by people that don't know me well.

I kind of have the same problem sometimes, but I just force myself to talk.. I still have a lot of friends though, and met a lot of people through my travels.. Still shy at first though.

 

[RADAR]

My house is like an airport terminal People are always stopping by!


RADAR

 

[H_T_]

if you have one good friend during your life, consider yourself lucky.

 

[H_T_]

one thing to remember is that most people don't care. they are to involved in themselves to even bother passing judgement upon you. just relax and be yourself. being genuine is the equivalent of being a modern day unicorn...........

 

[HiDnGoD]

I have 1 friend who thinks a lot more of me than I do of him. I have one other good friend, & about, oh, 2 fairweather friends. I would like to get out a bit more & socialize, except I actually enjoy spending time with my wife. I also enjoy reading & being here, so that doesn't leave much room for socializing.

 

[H_T_]

show me 2 people who agree all the time, and i'll show you 2 liars.

 

[KillahBee]

I have very few friends. Mostly because most people annoy me. I deflect a lot of attempts at friendship, especially with my coworkers. I just don't see the value in it. Most people NEED people around them, people to complain to, people to be their crutch.

 

[Raina]

I pretty much agree with KillahBee. I've grown and changed a lot over the years and very few people have been able to handle that. That's their issue. I'm glad I'm not the girl I was at 17. The few friends I keep in my life are very special to me. I can be 100% me with them and that's fine.

 

[monstermmf]

I know what your saying.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

everyone has very few friends. the difference is that some know it, and others dont.

 

[PICK3]

I deflect a lot of attempts at friendship, especially with my coworkers

No shit! Me too!

You have to be around these people 40+ hours a week, so they think on my off hours I want to hang around them too? No way ... fuck that!

 

[aandd]

I have very few friends. I have one left that I am close to from my school days, and three online that I talk to regularly. I have quite a few "casual" friends at church, but we rarely speak outside of church.

For me - it's just been hard meeting people since I had children. You'd think that it would be easier to have the kids as an 'excuse' to talk to other moms - but it turns out they are all just as busy with their home life as I am, or as shy about getting to know new people as I am, so it rarely turns into something more.

 

[Whiskey]

I have my close knit group of friends and a bunch of others that I can tolerate to talk to.

My best friend however, who is friends with everyone I am, is just like you. He has social anxiety and it freaks him out to be in a group of people. We've known these people all through school and afterwards, yet he still feels uncomfortable around them. I've known him since kindergarten and only found this out a couple years after graduating from high school. Oddly, i'm the only one that knows.

Hang in there and keep at it. He is slowly getting more comfortable meeting new people, but it's taken about 3 years.

Whiskey

 

[HiDnGoD]

I had some really good friends in High school. Another guy & I joined the army at the same time, different units. Whenever I went home on leave we'd party our asses off. I invited them to my wedding, they didn't show up. My best friends were jealous & couldn't help me celebrate the best day of my life. They've never said a word to me since, though i'd reached out a coupla times.
Fuck them!
They're all hitched & divorced now too.
That's why I have little use for external friends.
Just me, my wife, & the voices in my head.

 

[Delinquent]

I consider 2 people as my true friends and I have known one since 3rd grade and the other since 7th grade. I guess you could call them best friends. I also have a few friends that I hang out with but consider them more acquantices than true friends

 

[Beachbum1546]

i dont have many friends. i'm shy but the majority of people who get to know me really like me.
i also dont like being the attention whore in a crowd. the person yelling and singing etc while drunk at a party. i look down at those people so others might look at that as being stuck up, like ftf said.

 

[gonelifting]

I have one real friend and he is in very poor health. He's nearly died a few times in the past few years and can go at any time. When he's gone, I'll seriously have ZERO fucking friends. It's REALLY very pathetic.

I do have "friends" but not something that just calls to say "what's up?". It's my fault, I'm like a lot of you guys with the not getting close to people. I actually like it that way... Ehh. Whatever.

 

[jnevin]

Most "friends" that I had are addicts/ alcoholics. I got out of it and they aren't around anymore.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

I'll be honest, I have a hard time making friends. I have social anxiety disorder and I'm just not comfortable meeting new people. I also have a hard time getting close to the people that I do meet. I'm talking about people of either gender. I'm even worse with women. My anxiety goes through the roof when I'm talking to someone that I'm attracted to. I tend not to say much because of the shyness and anxiety. This frequently is interpreted as being stuck up or rudeness by people that don't know me well.

You could go to a doc and try to get some meds (but avoid Xanax and Paxil like the plague-xanax withdrawls are supposedly worse than heroin, and a girl I knew who was on paxil started cutting herself) but the best thing to do is take baby steps until you get over this. It'll get better little by little but you've gotta want to try first.

 

[Sub-Zero]

I'll be honest, I have a hard time making friends. I have social anxiety disorder and I'm just not comfortable meeting new people. I also have a hard time getting close to the people that I do meet. I'm talking about people of either gender. I'm even worse with women. My anxiety goes through the roof when I'm talking to someone that I'm attracted to. I tend not to say much because of the shyness and anxiety. This frequently is interpreted as being stuck up or rudeness by people that don't know me well.

im the same to an extent but not as bad as u it seems.

instead of shutting up, most of the time im just obnoxious or an asshole cause of it

EDIT: i take back the obnoxious or asshole part.

i just make dumb jokes or goof around alot to avoid being the silent one (at least in school)

 

[DannoMight]

i have a few people i would call friends. most others i would call associates. you say hi when you see them but neither of you make an honest attempt to hang out.

 

[jnevin]

im the same to an extent but not as bad as u it seems.

instead of shutting up, most of the time im just obnoxious or an asshole cause of it

we know bor

 

[Sub-Zero]

we know bor

jerk

 

[jnevin]

jerk

nuh-uh. you are

 

[thelion2005]

As I look back, friends come and go. Life just pulls us this way and that.
Same with acquaintances.

I've got maybe 6 good friends who are still around and we do some things socially.
No pressure ... Your family is really your best friends.

For the longest time, I kept a real tough countenance. It was holding me back professionally and personally. I took the old Dale Carnegie course and it really helped. I started to make some good friends because I let them in.

 

[Daeo]

I've really never had more than two friends at one time. Really don't want to handle much more. I have alot of acquantances. People I can hang out with if I wanted to once in a while. Right now I really have only one true friend though...

 

[HS Lifter]

i dont have many friends. i'm shy but the majority of people who get to know me really like me.
i also dont like being the attention whore in a crowd. the person yelling and singing etc while drunk at a party. i look down at those people so others might look at that as being stuck up, like ftf said.

lol thats me. add "cracking funny ass jokes" to the list.

 

[jenscats5]

I don't have a lot of friends, no..... At lot of the time, the other party won't make the effort to arrange get togethers, call, etc & I get tired of always having to initiate.....

 

[Fast Twitch Fiber]

You could go to a doc and try to get some meds (but avoid Xanax and Paxil like the plague-xanax withdrawls are supposedly worse than heroin, and a girl I knew who was on paxil started cutting herself) but the best thing to do is take baby steps until you get over this. It'll get better little by little but you've gotta want to try first.

I'm already on meds. Guess which ones...Paxil and Xanax. I've been on xanax for 14 years. The doctors told me I would probably always need to take it. The first doctor I saw had me on 12mg per day within 6 months. I was a zombie. Over the past 6 years I've managed to get my dose down to 1 mg total per day.

I've tried quitting paxil a few times. That was difficult. It causes flu like symptoms and just makes you feel like hell.

 

[lardo5150]

i have a few people i would call friends. most others i would call associates. you say hi when you see them but neither of you make an honest attempt to hang out.

I am the same way. I have NEVER had that one best friend that you could call all the time. Sucks, wish I had that one dude that I could always count on, but seems like that dude is going to be me, sad

 

[hammercurls]

damn!!! what do you have to do to get all that fucking medication? wish i can get a legit script for my valiums

 

[1_more_rep]

I'm already on meds. Guess which ones...Paxil and Xanax. I've been on xanax for 14 years. The doctors told me I would probably always need to take it. The first doctor I saw had me on 12mg per day within 6 months. I was a zombie. Over the past 6 years I've managed to get my dose down to 1 mg total per day.

I've tried quitting paxil a few times. That was difficult. It causes flu like symptoms and just makes you feel like hell.

i'd say cut the medication altogether if it's true like hansel said that it's really bad for you...your personality being a LITTLE bit more "normal" is not worth the risk of harming your body with these chemicals and crap i say...

and for those of you who feel you don't have many friends or anything at all...feel free to PM or Im me...always fun making new friends you can learn something different from every person i think...

don't worry about it fast twitch fiber...EVERYONE has their imperfections...example: i have: bacne (eww i hate it) and man boobies (going away though with benching 3x/week ) - as far as personality goes i don't know of any imperfections because i just act like myself...if people like that then GREAT...if not then sorry we can't be friends but just go your separate ways

sure...there are dicks out there...but there alot more decent/nice people out there than you think...at least that's how i am...nice/laidback/rational...

there are so many kinds of people on our planet...you are bound to find hundreds (if not thousands) that can relate to you in some way or another and develop the bond of a friendship with you...hope i gave you some encouraging words or what you might be looking for...in the meantime...goodluck and stay cool bro

 

[sublime35]

I've had no REAL friends since I had to move back to fucking Mississippi after my 9th grade year of school(been 3 years now). My two best friends in the world, plus everyone else I've known since elementary school is still there. My two best friends and I were like the same person. Yeah there's quite a few people i've become friends w/ here, people I talk to when I see em, but don't really get together. I've got one friend who's really into lifting and outdoors type shit, which I am too, but we never really get to hang out. I've got family, but only one cousin who I hardly ever hang out with any more. I hate it. Sorry I guess I sorta needed to vent. I've been thinking about this shit lately and wondering how much better things would be if we never moved.

 

[Sub-Zero]

I've had no REAL friends since I had to move back to fucking Mississippi after my 9th grade year of school(been 3 years now). My two best friends in the world, plus everyone else I've known since elementary school is still there. My two best friends and I were like the same person. Yeah there's quite a few people i've become friends w/ here, people I talk to when I see em, but don't really get together. I've got one friend who's really into lifting and outdoors type shit, which I am too, but we never really get to hang out. I've got family, but only one cousin who I hardly ever hang out with any more. I hate it. Sorry I guess I sorta needed to vent. I've been thinking about this shit lately and wondering how much better things would be if we never moved.

same boat bro

moved before 9th grade....sure u have people u can talk to, but everyone is already nice and comfortable in their groups already

 

[sublime35]

same boat bro

moved before 9th grade....sure u have people u can talk to, but everyone is already nice and comfortable in their groups already

you got that right.
fucking sucks doesn't it?

 

[sigweed]

i have a ton of friends, but very few who I am extremely close with

 

[Island Son]

i have a few people i would call friends. most others i would call associates. you say hi when you see them but neither of you make an honest attempt to hang out.

I'm REALLY bad with names. A couple associates came up to say hi last night and i knew i beered with them a few times (years ago) but couldn't for the life of me remember their names. I don't think they were impressed. At all. Fuck.
On the other hand one of my buddies has a photographic memory for people... he'll walk up to a girl and say 'hi sarah, didn't we meet 3 years ago at Location? you were saying 'blah blah blah whine whine'"..... and they're all amazed and think they're special.

 

[HiDnGoD]

show me 2 people who agree all the time, and i'll show you 2 liars.

I agree.

 

[HiDnGoD]

For the longest time, I kept a real tough countenance. It was holding me back professionally and personally.

One thing I've learned over the years. People, such as yourself, who have that really tough or threatening look, really aren't as mean as you think. They usually have different reasons for looking like that, but most are nice friendly people, once you get past 'the look'.