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RyanH
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Confrontation will always be necessary-----at least as long as you are self-assertive and stand up for yourself...
Does Anyone else hate confrontation
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smallmovesal
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oh no i'm screwed then shags... i've got no boobies!!! 
AGENT SHAGWELL
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john937 said:
I'm sorry. I type what I'm thinking. I don't think in sentences unless I'm bored with that whom I'm writing to, and/or about.
Confrontation makes me uncomfortable too. But I feel so much better if I can get things on the table. Also, some people are just really shitty to deal with, no matter who you are. The more you get used to expressing what you need, the better you will feel because you will realize that you do have control over things. I need to follow my own advice.
mike peters
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take "x" or drink more often, then when your high is down, go back and remember how bold your were and live that moment again.
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The Canadian Oak said:
It's very simple . . . the longer you take to grow a sack, the more you're going to get walked on. When people see your easy to intimidate they will take full advantage of it. Expect it to get worse if you don't have the guts to face it.
Nothing wrong with being nice, but there's a time for diplomacy and a time to kick ass if you no what I mean. You have to learn to put the two in there proper place.
Rex
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Oak, I used to have the same problem when I worked at a restaurant around my way. I wound up quitting before I went on vacation though.
They were dicks to me. Say Tim says he can't work, well they would erase his name from the chart and put mine in b/c I was new and then when I question them about it they denied it. Well on my last night, I wasn't supposed to work, but they said I was scheduled. Well my asshole manager said something to me about not knowing if I could work Sat. night and to get my shit together. I turned around and just flipped on him and starting yellin shit like "Don't tell me to get my shit together, why don't you learn how to make a fuckin schedule that works and when someone calls out don't fucking call my house saying I'm late or I have to be there in 15 minutes b/c I know when I'm scheduled." He went to say something back to me, but I told him to shut his face and walked away. He wasn't going to fire me on the spot b/c he'd be out of a worker for the night. Turns out my friend was sitting on the steps out of site listening to my schpeel and told everyone at work. Now noone respects him and tell him off when he gets pissy.
Moral of the story: You got balls, use them. I used to be afraid of my manager b/c he was big and shit, but then I realized he can't hurt me and the worst that can happen is I get fired and go find another job. Put your thing down when you want something or they'll just walk ovdr you.
They were dicks to me. Say Tim says he can't work, well they would erase his name from the chart and put mine in b/c I was new and then when I question them about it they denied it. Well on my last night, I wasn't supposed to work, but they said I was scheduled. Well my asshole manager said something to me about not knowing if I could work Sat. night and to get my shit together. I turned around and just flipped on him and starting yellin shit like "Don't tell me to get my shit together, why don't you learn how to make a fuckin schedule that works and when someone calls out don't fucking call my house saying I'm late or I have to be there in 15 minutes b/c I know when I'm scheduled." He went to say something back to me, but I told him to shut his face and walked away. He wasn't going to fire me on the spot b/c he'd be out of a worker for the night. Turns out my friend was sitting on the steps out of site listening to my schpeel and told everyone at work. Now noone respects him and tell him off when he gets pissy.
Moral of the story: You got balls, use them. I used to be afraid of my manager b/c he was big and shit, but then I realized he can't hurt me and the worst that can happen is I get fired and go find another job. Put your thing down when you want something or they'll just walk ovdr you.
I was taught the same thing, as were many people here. But why is it that some people, even those who were taught this take advantage and manipulate others who would do this? Who gives a shit. It sounds like you have passive-aggressive tendencies coupled with having a peacemaker personality and the tendency for feeling guilty.
Two choices: keep living this way or change it. You don't have to turn into a jerk to change it either. You just have to learn how to disconnect the part of your mind that allows you to build up a guilt complex. Learn how to stop worrying as well.
Solution: join a boxing gym and start working this shit out with your hands. Take a kava pill three times a day. Make it a habit to laugh at damn near anything, including yourself. Realize that if you don't change this problem that one day you'll be old and gray (and alone) and wishing you had stepped up to the plate and taken your swings. Guilt and pacisfism suck. Stop letting them get to you or you'll die of cancer.
Good luck.
