Do you have any Anorexic girls

[nefertiti]

That is such a personal thing. I know you would want to help that person by telling them to eat, but healing an anorexic take psychological help, not outside comments.
It's like going up to a drunk and telling them to stop drinking.

At my worst....when I got sickly thin...and people would tell me I needed to gain weight - random people - or friends told me I looked sick, it made me happy. It was triggering my illness further. The only person with the ability to stop and say - girl, you need help - was me.

 

[nefertiti]

There's a big difference between the 2....
Thin is thin.... Anorexia is beyond thin...

What I mean is, there are physical things involved in the diagnosis of anorexia, but there are mental aspects too. It's not just your size.

 

[javaguru]

As a person recovering from an eating disorder I can tell you that you never think you're "perfect."

Tru dat,. My ex wife's best friend was 89 pounds @ 5'7" and considered herself "fat."

 

[covergrl80]

At my worst....when I got sickly thin...and people would tell me I needed to gain weight - random people - or friends told me I looked sick, it made me happy. It was triggering my illness further. The only person with the ability to stop and say - girl, you need help - was me.

So what was the breaking point for you, if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Ilk]

What I mean is, there are physical things involved in the diagnosis of anorexia, but there are mental aspects too. It's not just your size.

there were 7 anorexic girls there.... Eventually they were taken off the books and given a great deal of help.... mental issues always... Body images... One girl hated herself in some of her shoots, though she did look like bone... List goes on....

Sad, You just want to hug and help them...

 

[cindylou]

my twin sister had it.

FOr ever omg she was grossly skinny, she even smelled a little, I cant put my finger on the scent , veggies?

anyway - she would call people fat. Even me. I was not fat. Her being my twin, and feeling like i was being compared to her, I was right behind her only never "anorexic". I just felt the need to be thin too because she was so skinny. The illness made her mean and self centered. She was a bitch. She would laugh at people, all the while, hating herself for eating a couple of pretzels. I hated her while she was going thru it. Her constant comparing herself to others made her constantly unhappy with herself, so she had to be the skinniest. It brought out her inner bitch for sure. She would call me fat on a daily basis because me eating would trigger her to eat, and then I was the sabotager.

 

[javaguru]

What I mean is, there are physical things involved in the diagnosis of anorexia, but there are mental aspects too. It's not just your size.

"Anorexia nervosa is a complex condition, involving psychological, neurobiological, and sociological components."

Lask B, and Bryant-Waugh, R (eds) (2000) Anorexia Nervosa and Related Eating Disorders in Childhood and Adolescence. Hove: Psychology Press. ISBN 0-86377-804-6.

DSM IV Criteria
http://www.behavenet.com/capsules/disorders/anorexia.htm

Diagnostic criteria for 307.1 Anorexia Nervosa
(cautionary statement)
A. Refusal to maintain body weight at or above a minimally normal weight for age and height (e.g., weight loss leading to maintenance of body weight less than 85% of that expected; or failure to make expected weight gain during period of growth, leading to body weight less than 85% of that expected).

B. Intense fear of gaining weight or becoming fat, even though underweight.

C. Disturbance in the way in which one's body weight or shape is experienced, undue influence of body weight or shape on self-evaluation, or denial of the seriousness of the current low body weight.

D. In postmenarcheal females, amenorrhea, i.e., the absence of at least three consecutive menstrual cycles. (A woman is considered to have amenorrhea if her periods occur only following hormone, e.g., estrogen, administration.)

Specify type:

Restricting Type: during the current episode of Anorexia Nervosa, the person has not regularly engaged in binge-eating or purging behavior (i.e., self-induced vomiting or the misuse of laxatives, diuretics, or enemas)
Binge-Eating/Purging Type: during the current episode of Anorexia Nervosa, the person has regularly engaged in binge-eating or purging behavior (i.e., self-induced vomiting or the misuse of laxatives, diuretics, or enemas)

Reprinted with permission from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fourth Edition. Copyright 1994 American Psychiatric Association

 

[covergrl80]

my twin sister had it.

FOr ever omg she was grossly skinny, she even smelled a little, I cant put my finger on the scent , veggies?

anyway - she would call people fat. Even me. I was not fat. Her being my twin, and feeling like i was being compared to her, I was right behind her only never "anorexic". I just felt the need to be thin too because she was so skinny. The illness made her mean and self centered. She was a bitch. She would laugh at people, all the while, hating herself for eating a couple of pretzels. I hated her while she was going thru it. Her constant comparing herself to others made her constantly unhappy with herself, so she had to be the skinniest. It brought out her inner bitch for sure. She would call me fat on a daily basis because me eating would trigger her to eat, and then I was the sabotager.

So is she ok now?

 

[javaguru]

So is she ok now?

You don't "get over it" like the flu.....

 

[nefertiti]

So what was the breaking point for you, if you don't mind me asking?

Don't mind. I had a lot of things happen, healthwise, that should have been my rock bottom moments. There wasn't really any one thing, any "moment." I just came to the conclusion that I was sick of being sick, feeling powerless, and I wanted to be happy and healthy again. You come to think of your eating disorder as a seperate entity. Another version of you that's in your head telling you what a worthless fat pig piece of shit you are all the time. The reassuring voice that says if you just lose five more pounds, all will be right in the world. I hated the bitch and wanted to be rid of her. (and no, it's not like actually "hearing voices" people lol)