blame the women who wrote the book " the rules "
She is the one that told you , guys want to chase down women, hunt girls ,men want the girls who ignore them and " make him want the girl more if she does not show intrest in him" and if he does not play the game he is not good enough for you.As if a woman is some prize for surviving the mindfuck game
You know exactly the book , all girls wake on there 21st birthday awake and find a copy under their pillow and then she goes out in the world to mess with guys heads lead him on, ignore him ,give him mixed signals untill the dood breaks down crys and just flat out thinks the girl is a headcase and never calls back becuase he cant figure you out , then you wonder " geez what did i do wrong " I followed " the rules"
That shit was written years ago Things have changed you are not in the 50's stop that oldschool train of thought .I know you are doing it becuase you mentioned the " cant show to much intrest " b/s
You sound like a cool chick superqt from your post I have read , be upfront and honest with the guys dont play this " better not act to intrested shit " Forget the headgames be yourself and the right guy will come along and respect you for being real and upfront keep the guy wanting more , by making him want YOU more and more through your personality, your kindness and if you are truly a happy person and very joyfull he will always want to be around you becuase it will make him feel good being around a happy girl and you will win him over that way .
I didnt means to sound rude but the new dating scene is not " the cat mouse game " the new deal is is friends that enjoy each others so much they just dont want to be apart and things evolve on their own it just happens .
O to anwser your question why must we play mind games? You dont have to play them